My girlfriend said this when she was with another guy: "What's your opinion on love? When you're in love, its the greatest feeling and it can't be described simply because its not controlled by you, it controls you." but she tells me that I'm her first love and that I still find pictures of her old boyfriends. We're both in High School. I dont know what to do. We've been dating for 8 months. please help. I give ten points to best answer.
2006-06-19 18:05:38 · 10 answers · asked by mikeroch2102 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's the deal...
She could still want to date other guys, maybe even an ex. It doesn't sound like it, since she does call you her first love. But you never know.
Or she could be forgetful and just still have their pics and maybe some trinkets they gave her.
I'd talk to her and ask her about the pictures. Don't accuse her and say she's cheating, just ask her why she keeps the pictures. If she's evasive, then there's something going on. If she admits she just kept the stuff as momentos or for memories, maybe it's not so big. She could be sentimental. Sounds like she's a sensitive and loving person- maybe she keeps momentos of people who have been good to her in life, even those no longer active in hers. She wouldn't be the first person.
So talk to her. And if she's cheating on you or wants to, then she doesn't deserve you.
2006-06-19 18:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by lookdontlook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has old boyfriends, but claims you are the first that she truely love? Hmmm...It's possible too. Instead of guessing, why not focus on the main thing that's bothering you. You feel uncomfortable because she kept pictures of her old boyfriends? It may or may not mean anything at all. The most important is how both of you feel about each other now. By now, after 8 months of dating, I think you will be able to derive at the answer... You know yourself the best. Good luck to you!
2006-06-19 18:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Gal-alive? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter who those guys were, they were practice. You are the one she LOVES.
8 months is eternity in high school time (I know it!) The part you have to realize, is that girls love being mushy and poetic. She probably thought it was wise and said it to be romantic. Guys have a hard time with flowery language because they are so literal.
you have all that you need- she admitted to you that you are her first love. You don't realize this, but 20 years from now, even if you never see her again, you will be the one she remembers. Not those other guys.
good luck!
2006-06-19 18:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may very well be her first love. pictures are memories and just because she keeps old boyfriend pics doesnt mean she loves you any less. they are a part of her and her past just as your ex girlfriends are a part of yours.
dont feel threatened by old pictures. instead have fun taking new pictures and making new memories.
if she can describe love like she did, YOU are the one who helped create that definition. Good for you man.
I still have pics of my exes and guess what? so does my gf. additionally...I am her first love too.
2006-06-19 18:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by frontmann2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your probbably both young,she would have had boy friends in the past,just like you with gf in the past but you have been with her for 8 months now not her ex but you,the photos wouldnt be memories of her and him but the time she had at the point they were at,you should just ask her nicely why she has the photos and give her the chance to explain to you why they are there,she will put your mind at ease,a little jelousy is ok but all you need to do is ask her about the photos and tell her how it makes you feel and how you then feel about her all will be ok you do sound like her true love
2006-06-19 18:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well son, coz it seems you didn't know: Women also Lie. A lot. And that goes for your girl, no matter how much you are in love with her.
Once you have that out of your system, you can then focus on why she should or would lie to you. I'm sure you can then take it from there.
2006-06-19 21:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is also based on trust and is also throught good communication that your love will last. i suggest you tell her how you feel about the pictures she has and maybe she mite keep them away for your sake. maybe she thinks you dont really mind, as its just photos. speak to her about it and find out y she still keeps them.
if she says you are her first love, believe her, girls dont say that just to anyone! and the fact you guys are going out for 8 months means something. dont keep it inside as it will build up and you dont want this to be a fight.
hope it goes well.
2006-06-19 18:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by cher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well man, if you have been going out for 8 months, i think the only thing you can do is too trust her. i know its jot the easiest thing to do, but you have got to try. good luck.
2006-06-19 18:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Marines 4 Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she still has pic's of her ex.well it kinda says she still has feelings for him. on the other hand i have pic of my ex to keep as memories. when i get old to c the guys i used to date...get it?lol. but ask her. talk to her.
2006-06-19 18:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by iranian gurl and proud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop feeling jealous. Believe what she tells you. If you doubt her than you will hurt her feelings
2006-06-19 18:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by tannya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋