Young parents...!?

Question

I AM ALMOST 18 AND AM ENGAGED TO A GUY I'V BEEN DATING FOR ALMOST A YEAR.(WHOM I ABSOLUTLY LUV AND COULDN'T PICTURE MY LIFE WITHOUT!) I WAS HOMESCHOOLED SO I HAVE ALREADY GRADUATED HS AND HAVE MY CHOICE OF GOING TO COLLEGE OR A MODELING SCHOOL IN FLORIDA BUT I REALLY WANT A KID NOW. I HAVE WORKED WITH AND AROUND THEM MY WHOLE LIFE AND I DON'T WANT TO WAIT ANY LONGER. ANY ADVICE?

Answer 1

I got pregnate to a guy I pictured life with we were together a year, I got pregnate at 17 and had my son the day after my 18th bday. I worked around kids and absoulutly had to have mine. dont get me wrong I love him but life got harder, things in the relationship changed and now most of the time he dosent want to be around me... It sucks cause now there are no things we can do fun with a baby that he enjoys too and the in bed life went right out the window lol... my advice wait till u have money saved up and u know ur ganna be together for a long time like atleast 18 years of ur life lol.

Answer 2

I was 20 years old when I had my daughter. My husband and I planned her, and I wanted a baby soooo bad. I got what I asked for! Now that I am 21 (which I never liked to go out before then) it would be so nice to go out and meet new people and do whatever I want. Instead, I have a baby to look after. I stay home while my husband goes out. I thought he would have been the best dad in the wold... turns out, not so good. I love my daughter to death, and shes sooooo great. But yes, I wish I would have waited until I was at least 25. What you could do... would be really nice to someone you know with a baby. Not a 2 or 3 year old... a baby, and tell them you will take it for the weekend, or for a 3 or 4 days. Number one: It gives them a NICE break, Number two: you will really get the feeling of being a parent, and not just watching a child for a few hours, or yet even over night. Get the feeling of telling your friends you can't go out, because you have to stay home with the baby... It will really hit home after that.

Answer 3

talk to your fiance about it, see if he wants the same thing. my sister had a baby 2 days after her 18th birthday and she couldnt be happier she's with her fiance still.
i think that 18 is probably too young you would be better off securing a career first or at least finding a full time job somewhere, modelling wont work if u fall pregnant straight away. besides maybe ur fiance and your self should consider being settling into your own house first and get settled and start planning. but then again i dont know the situation u ar ein ( living with parents or on your own). but i wish u luck anyway make the right decision, youll never regret having ur childeren at any age because babies are a blessing but if your not ready for one yet for any reason u will wish u waited just a little longer. now none of that made any sense did it? well good luck hun think carefuly, and plan things wisely with your fiance.

Answer 4

OK....I want you to know that I am in the same position as you. I too am 18 years old, and have been engaged to the love of my life for about a year and a half. I have also been raised around and cared for children my whole life. I am the oldest of 5.
I recently found out I was pregnant. Which I was ecstatic about. I have wanted a baby my whole life.

I think that if you and your fiance are comfortable with having a baby this soon, GO FOR IT!!! Nobody knows what is better for you than yourself.

Sure, people will disagree. But you have to do what is right for you. I think the idea of having kids while you are younger and able to enjoy them is better anyway.

Answer 5

I was 17 when I had my first and just recently was at a point where I could even think about school and an education.( My son is 16 1/2, you can do the math) I had 2 babies when I was young and 2 when I was older. Ther is definitely a reason to have them young, but not that young. Babies control eveery aspect of oyur life. When you can sleep, eat, pee, take a doo, shower, read a book, be intimate (with that fiance you adore) Also if you go to school first you will be able to afford a babysitter. Babies are more expensive than you can even imagine. Of course there is welfare which will hwlp you pay for having a baby, W.I.C to pay for formula and foodstamps to help with groceries, but nobody can help with diapers(20 bucks a pop), bottles, pacifiers,clothes, and other necessities you will need. And if you are like me you will want to dress your child in the cutest and best clothes. Even shopping at Walmart can be expensive when you figure out how often you have to buy clothes because they grow out of them so often. I completely understand your desire, but if you wait and get your education first, think of it as preparing to make more money to spend on your baby. Ps. I had to drop school because I couldn't balance school, children. and a job.

Answer 6

1. Get a newly weaned hyperactive puppy and train it to be a well-behaved adult dog.

2. Borrow the following for an entire week at a time:
a teething infant
a rambunctious 2-year-old
a learning disabled child who is having a hard time in school
a teen who is depressed, angry and unreliable

If you can get through this without pulling all your hair out or going completely insane, then you might be ready to be a parent.

I was a nanny for 4 years before I had my first child and still actually having my own was 100 times more intense! Fortunately, as much as the bad is intensified, so is the good, when its your own child.

But you are very wise to be considering this carefully. Too many people just procreate without thinking.

Answer 7

As a single mother- I say- Get your education- children hault all time you will have to study without worrying about laundry, and diapers, and keeping them entertained! : ) you are young and can have kids after college. You never know what might happen or change in the coming years- if you and your man are that sure of each other, get married and go to college. Heck, move in with him and make sure he is the one before you are tied down to a growing being that will encompass every moment of every day. My son is now three, and spending time with him is hard when I work and go to school full time. Best wishes~

Answer 8

I had my son at 18. We have made so many sacrafices to make sure our children had what they needed. I have been in school on and off for 11 years now and don't even have an associates because I am too busy raising 3 kids. My husband joined the military and spend two years overseas and was injured in Iraq to make sure the boys have food to eat and a home.

You will not regret waiting, I promise you, and if your boyfriend loves you as much as you need to be loved, he will have no problem waiting for you to finish school.

Blessings to you!

Answer 9

Wait and go to school. I'm 18 and my fiancee is 16 and I'm 3 months pregnant. Just like you I have always loved kids and always worked around them but trust me when you get pregnant it's a whole nother story. It is very stressful and the baby won't even be here for awhile. Go to school get your education, get a good job and then think about a family.

Answer 10

First off it will be difficult (not impossible) to attempt to gain a modeling career after having kids. Second when it comes down to it, it is your choice. You should way the pros and con in YOUR life (not other people's) and see which is most advantageous to you. Discuss it with your fiance, see what he thinks, because in the long run this is a decision you two should make together. See what options and hurdles you two would have in doing this.

Good luck, J