Should I go or should I just give up???

Question

I met a guy whom I really like alot, and he doesn't feel the same way, he said to give him time!! He said the timing was off, if we would have met next year he said he would have been ready.He says he cares about me, and he's always there to listen to me when I need him.. But months ago I planned on going to see him, but now I'm hesitating if I should go or not. He's from out of state and the conversations that we have are still the same juss ess flirty. I don't know if I should evan try to make it work?? I do wanna see him, and I'm willing to accept what comes along, but I don't know how he will feel on his part!! Nor do I want it to be odd either!! He wants me to go up there, but the whole feelings are kinda blocking it!! So whats the best way to go

Answer 1

For it to work you both have to have the same feeling for each other....move on you have your answer -you will find mr right,

Answer 2

sweety follow your instincts if you keep hesitating it's because the time isn't right dont do something you will in the long run regret he seems confused and doesn't know exactly how he's feeling he's still probably in love with his ex girlfriend .he's letting you know that he doesn't feel the same he doesn't even make sense whats the difference whether its this month or next does he need to take care of un resolved issues before you go there i think you would be setting yourself up for a down fall move on find someone that feels the same as you dont ever settle for less.

Answer 3

There is always a risk when there is a choice of going or not going. If you go, what may happen may not be what you want it to be, but then at least you know some of the answers you seek. You could also get hurt and be left disappointed, but then you never know. Things may turn out and be better than you expected.

On the other hand, if you don't go, you may never know what you would like to know, even if you might get hurt, but not going would be a matter of playing it safe and not taking the chance of being hurt or being left disappointed.

You've answered your own question partially, but it is not a question of whether you should or should not go, it is a question of whether you want to go or not. If you want to go, then just do it. If you don't want to go, then don't go.

There are too many unknowns for anything to be somewhat certain in your case, so to get the answers you seek, I think you're going to have to use your best judgment and make a decision as to what is best for you based on what you want and what you want to know.

Answer 4

Don't waste your time. Long distance relationships don't work a lot more often then they do. Just cut your losses and find a better guy who you can be in sync with. If he doesn't love or like you now. Then he will only grow to dislike you more because he may feel he was forced in to things. If you don't want to cut him off completely then I suggest playing hard to get and making him want you this time around. Good Luck.

Answer 5

don't go, i know that's not the answer you want...but be realistic..if there was anything to come out of this relationship he would be coming to see you..Your only kidding yourself..you want it so bad you want to go in hopes you can change his feelings because of your deeper interest in him..I Hope there's no sex involved in this relationship?? He could string you along for a long time if there is...and he'd be getting what he wants.. a piece..and you will only get hurt even deeper..sex with women is bonding..witlh men its feeling good for the moment...good luck..I hope your mature enough to do the best thing for both of you.

Answer 6

it sounds like hes busy this year maybe with school or something important. you'll never know unless you try. Just act like friends thats all.. maybe with flirting if he seems flirty but let him start.. you follow. no big rush right? you like him enough to give it a chance. bring a friend maybe.. that way it isnt so awkward.. that way you have someone to lean on. don't try to hard.. just let it happen bc love happends when your not looking.

Answer 7

if you really wanna start sumthin up with this guy, then take a shot at it and go see him. sumthin great may happen and theres nuthin to lose. plus if u dont go, u may feel regret and u missed the chance of anythin happenin.

Answer 8

Ask him why it would be better next year. Good things should NOT have to wait unless there are really good reasons for waiting. Base your actions on careful considerations of his answer.

Answer 9

Baby girl if he aint ready now he wont be a year from now move on and find someone that love you now and not later.

Answer 10

Don't waste your money. He can come see you if he wants. He wants you do come so he can hit it one time. Let it go sweetie. Someone else will come along.