How long should you date until you get to certain "bases" just wondering people's opinions.?

Question

lib - don't give away what you can never get back....
and if you must - be SERIOUS, not just "dating".

Answer 1

My wife and I, when we first dated, went on 5 dates before we kissed. She was dating me to have something to do at first. She was in a "I hate all men." mode when I met her. Many people thought 5 dates was a lot before a kiss. We talked about it and I said I thought it was great to have time to talk and get to know each other before we clouded things with a physical relationship.

I guess you need to talk these things over with the person.

Remember, Daddy's Girl, women attach more significance to a physical relationship than men do. Each base for a woman is a deeper commitment for a woman, but not so for a man, so if you want that commitment to go with the physical milestones, establish the commitment with the guy in advance of doing the deeds.

Answer 2

If you want to get to bases, stick to baseball and practice your batting and running.

In dating it is best to stick with something well short of sex. There are some good reasons. Sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy, emotional damage, and damage to your reputation just a few.

You sound young, so I'm going to suggest you have plenty of time to do it the right way. Sex is great but it is also something well worth waiting for.

Most young people confuse sexual attraction with love. Trust me--and I'm old enough to know--there is a lot more to love than sex. I would suggest that very few young people are ready to know the difference and to be able to tell, and what compounds the problem is there is another person's perceptions equally involved.

The only base you should be concerned about is "home plate."

Answer 3

It depends on what you are comfortable with. I don't think there can be a time frame.
Personally for me:
Kiss - a couple dates.
Heavy making out - not until I'm sure I like him and want to date him. That can take a month, sometimes less.
Heavier making out - Only if we are in a commited relationship.
Make love - only when I'm very serious and can't say no any longer. he he
^ ^ the above applies to guys you want a relationship with^ ^
Big nasty on the hood of his patrol car with my friend w/ benefits - when ever I want! lol (but only after we've known each other for years)

Answer 4

You will know. Whats right for some isn't right for others. If that was the case we would all get the same book on when to move on to certain bases. For me it can be anywhere from right from the beginning to 7 months. Depends how I feel about the other person and how well I know them.

Answer 5

It depends on those particular people feel at the time. Everyone has their different timetables for the different steps in their relationship. When both feel comfortable enough to move to another base, then there should be no problems.

Answer 6

I think each person is different and not everyone fits a certain "criteria" on when they should do what. I think each couple should determine there own schedule that they feel right with.

Answer 7

First base -- within one month.
Second base -- within two months.
Third base -- within three months.
Fourth base -- Around the fourth month.

Some men and women are far faster than me. This is just my personal framework.

Answer 8

that is a personal thing. it depends how comfortable u and yr partner r in the relationship. timing and enviroment also have a lot to do with it.
good luck
have fun ;)

Answer 9

You have the rest of your life to deny your partner sex , especially after marriage..some say sex is evil , some say sex is a sin, well sins are forgiven so sex is in

Answer 10

If you want to honor the teachings of Jesus Christ, do not have sex before you are married.