Tired of the lies, promises, and bad habits.?

Question

I am an average female, 5'3", 135-140 lbs. Look much younger than my age. Spent majority of my adult life trying to please others, i.e., my significant other. After falling in love, I find out that they are either: hooked on drugs, hooked on gambling, rather "please" themselves with pornography, tell lies, only to get really mad when I confront them with proof, make promises they have no intention of even trying to keep. Boy, can I pick them!!! I am tired now. I'm ready to throw in the "hat". I'm beginning to believe there are no good men left in the world. With so many lies, promises, and bad habits, I've resigned myself to starting over again -- only this time, it will be just me-- all alone. No more lies, promises, bad habits. No more stress. I had thought one time of joining "e-harmony.com", but I'm scared that I'll end up with another loser. Why can't men just be honest tell you early in the relationship they feel it won't work??? I rather have truth than lies forever.

Answer 1

I'm gonna tell you what some one told me and that's that I'm looking to hard let love find me. But honestly men are gonna be men and that's the problem we have taken it too long. you don't have to be alone there is a mister right out there for you i say go to God and let him find your mate. He is the best blind date maker that i know i bare witness i have been married 14 years in August and i was going Thur the same thing that you have and that's what i did i went to God and he sent the perfect man to me, well i wont say he perfect because we all have faults and flaws. Just pray about it. Stay strong and keep the faith.

Answer 2

because we're all a bunch of cowards....actually to be honest it's all about timing. Many of course never change, but there really are some good men out there. I myself am one, but I go through phases where i'm not really looking for anything serious and when that happens I don't really care much. I've also been in some long-term relationships where I can honestly say I gave it everything. Somehow they did not work out. In the end it really is all about timing, if it was that easy no one would hold on to that great person when they finally find them. You have to go through some bad seeds to find a good one.

Answer 3

oh dont give up . ok so you learn from experience you've made a few bad choices in life no need to throw in your hat there is still so much out there for you to experience so many people for you to meet. jut dont get into a serious relationship to fast. take your time dont rush take some time off to get to know you again i never understood why when a women breaks up with someone they rush to get another guy . enjoy your time alone pamper yourself know exactly what you want in a man learn the tale signs of a liar cheater drug user and gambler from your past relationship. dont go into another relationship with your eyes closed. you dont need to join no harmony site you need to go on a vacation love yourself and dont go searching as if your desperate within time the right guy will be right in your pathway. you dont even have to try Good Luck hun and dont stress it it's not worth it life's too short.

Answer 4

Hey your main mission in life should NOT be to get a man. It should be to make yourself happy as you can alone. Ask god to give you the courage to be alone; that you have an abundance of love to give to the right man, but you are willing to be alone if that's His will. That's what I did; I just let it go...withing 2 months I found my man when I was least expecting it. We've been married for 7 years now and I've never been happier. God bless.

Answer 5

do no longer Take God's call in ineffective [2:224] do no longer difficulty GOD's call on your casual swearing, that you may seem righteous, pious, or to comprehend credibility between the individuals. GOD is Hearer, Knower. [2:225] GOD does no longer carry you to blame for the mere utterance of oaths; He holds you to blame on your innermost intentions. GOD is Forgiver, Clement [sixty six:0] in the call of God, maximum Gracious, maximum Merciful [sixty six:a million] O you prophet, why do you restrict what GOD has made lawful for you, merely to thrill your better halves? GOD is Forgiver, Merciful. [sixty six:2] GOD has decreed for you the regulations dealing with your oaths. GOD is your Lord, and he's the Omniscient, maximum wise. attempting to coach that your God and God of Prophet Muhammed are not any more a similar !! properly what a shame :) how do you recommend telling lies is allowed in Islam ,,with out information of Islam !! nourish your hatred and malice,,reliable for you .. and by ability of how the hadith you quoted,,you'd be stunned to understand hadith books are not any more source OF ISLAMIC TEACHINGS AND instructions AND regulations OF ALLAH ALLMIGHTY.. excellent Quran is @@ FTL.... you're an quite callous and IGNORANT human being..you understand no longer some thing about Islam

Answer 6

be more aggressive with your attitude about what you WONT accept........
dont settle anymore.........
I was a little like that...5'4---130....good job....wonderful salary.........spent my life with loosers........then I made the decision....and a good one at that.......to never settle for less then what i think/know i deserve in a partner.....
my last bad choice was over 2 years ago.......and for the past year and half....been dating the most wonderful guy........
totally different then the usual ones...
of course...this time i went older.......i am 38....he is 50.....before the guys were my age.........
I just realized that an older male has the qualities i want in a partner.......
as for e-harmony.........check it out........can never say never

Answer 7

Oh my god you sound just like me.....I have not had any luck whatsoever...all I can say is we can only hope the next one is the right one!! We should never give up, my friend told me the other day....that our mistakes are there so we can right them next time, more or less....good advice if you ask me!!

Answer 8

Just wait on it. You have to learn how to be by yourself sometimes, u do not need a man to validate u as a women. he will come but be patient

Answer 9

maybe just maybe you need to search yourself for what you want in a man. Take care of you first then look for a man to complement you. REMEBER you are in control of your life not them

Answer 10

Don't give up. Us gentlemen are still out there you just have to dig through all the non gentlemen to find one.