i need an answer, please!?

Question

i dont like this. i hate this. this feeling inside. all i can do is watch while the ppl i love suffer so much. all i can do is whine about how i have to move and how i'm losing my boyfriend and how i get jealous. so what? so many ppl have it so much worse! wtf did i do to diserve such a good life? how come all i can do is complain about stupid stuff? i hate it when others do it, so y do i? i hate this. i hate this so much. ppl are dying. and im complaining over nothing. omg, i have to move...woopdy freaking doo. i have moved before. what about the ppl who move more than once a year? i am lucky. now wtf did i do to diserve this life when so many other wonderful ppl are suffering?? y am i here? y is it i get to have everything handed to me while others work so hard? WHAT DID I DO????? Y DO I DISERVE SUCH A PERFECT LIFE????????? I AM NOTHING! I AM NO ONE! so y do i have it so good? and where do i have room to complain??? its not fair for other ppl. but its not like i'm complaining i have a good life. i just want to know why i do? parents who love me and all i can do is hate them. a brother who could be worse but i hate him too. friends who cant be better, yet i take them for granted. a life some ppl could only dream about. a good house, a GREAT life, so what did i do? what did i do? no one can answer that for me! i need to know! i have to know! i hate it! i did nothing! i was spoiled from the day i was born, so everything is perfect now??? what about the ppl who DESERVE a great life yet get sh*t thrown on them instead? y do I deserve the perfect life??? this is as close to heaven as earth can get! y do i get it? what did i do? how did i earn this? the man who loves me, and i feel like he deserves better too. i treat him wrong too. and he still gives me more. y do i diserve this perfect life? can someone, anyone, please tell me. y? please. it kills me not knowing. seeing so many suffer, and only being able to TRY and help. y cant i suffer too? what did i do to not suffer? how did i earn this? please, someone tell me. i need to know the answer. y?

real answers please. i need to know.

and when i talk about ppl suffering, i'm saying ppl like my one friend who has had nothing but bad stuff happen in thier life. their 6 year old sister died last month, and now last week their boyfriend died, and when i first met them, some one had tried to rape them. and another one of my friends brother died in a motorcycle accident not long ago. it was so bad, the car that killed him actually ran OVER his body and he was STILL partially alive!

and YES i am saved, and YES i do talk to all these ppl. i do my best to help them. they say i do, but i still cant take it all away.

and the BIBLE and GOD do guide my life, so dont even say i need it to, cuz God does. and i do go to church. if i didnt, y would i ask this in this section?? i want to know why God has blessed me.

and the US is not much different from other parts of the country. innocent ppl are killed here too, and alot are in poverty.

Answer 1

So, here's the thing. I don't know you, and an answer here will probably not help solve your problems. I'll give you my answer to your question, but then you have to go and find someone to talk to about all of this.

What it sounds like you're asking is "WTF did I do to deserve all of these gifts, when so many people around me suffer?"

I believe (and this is my answer...you need to find your own), that we were all created by God to live with God and with each other. One of the miraculous things about God is that He created us, and instead of micromanaging our lives however he wanted to, He gave us free will. He placed a little piece of himself within each of us, and that part of us longs to be with Him.

The short answer to your question is that you didn't do anything to deserve such a great life. And you did everything. From the time you were born, God wanted only the best for you, just as He wants only the best for me, and for every other person on this planet. He gave each of us the opportunity to make our own decisions.

You talk a lot about your own attitude, and that is something that you can change. You can choose to be happy and excited about the new opportunities that await you in your new location. You can also be sad about the friends and things that you are leaving.

I can't answer why bad things happen to good people...I'm still trying to figure that one out myself.

Seeing as you posted this in the Religion and Spirituality forum, I think that you're seeking something outside yourself, something bigger. I would encourage you to find a church in your area and to have a conversation with the ministers there...I think that it might help you.

Answer 2

I can't answer all your questions, but I think I understand what you're feeling so I'll give it a shot. Most of us have felt like this at some time or other, to a certain extent. I guess the best answer is that there will always be someone who has it better than you, and someone who has it worse. Be thankful for what you have. Think what your life would be like without it. Then go out and do your best for the less fortunate. Embrace the changes in your life. Don't dwell on the things you're losing. Think of all the chances you have to change the things in your life that you don't like. So you can't change everything. We all have to lose people we love, but we have to concentrate on the good and put the rest behind us. Think of it as a new beginning, a clean slate to fill in any way you want. God is giving you an opportunity to do something to make a difference. There will always be death. There will always be unfairness in the world, because God never promised life would be fair. All you can do is your best. And don't beat yourself up too much, cause none of us is perfect.

Answer 3

Well here is a real answer...... I am not for sure why some people get a great life and other people get **** for a life...I had **** for life growing up as a child i help and worked for my family becuse my mother couldn't and my father wasn't around.... But i think that this is the thing just think about it seriously.... I think that first of the reson that you are mad about moving is becuse you have no where to settle down and call your own. Plus hey with a great boy freind that you really love, you can't really help but to feel mad about moving....

Here's why i think that some people have a great life and some people don't. I think that some "parents" have worked hard to get everything. Now you have yo work hard to keep everything that you have. Now the people who have less is because have less becuse the have not worked hard in the right area's. They need to work hard to get what you have. Just email me or I.M. and well talk

Answer 4

"What did I do not to suffer?" Why on earth should you? You obviously feel very guilty over something, but only you can figure it out, perhaps with a counselor. It sounds like you have depression, but you need to see a doctor to get a diagnosis. If you really feel like there is too much suffering happening around the world, do some volunteer work, such as Habitat for Humanity, or something more local, like your local domestic violence assistance center. Isolating yourself and dwelling on things will do very little for you. I have a feeling you are MUCH more worthwhile than you give yourself credit for. Good luck!

Answer 5

Well Firstly Thank You For Your Wonderful Question & being so frank :)

Secondly from what I read your only question is "why ?"
well God created us people and gave everyone a test, God gave you money and wealth and every good thing and that to test you to see
will you be thankful ?
will you help the poor?
will you treat your parents well ?
will you treat others well ?

and much more questions in the test and you are answering

others God gave them another test some people God gave them much less money and less health and less caring parents
to see

will he be thankful ?
will he still pray even if he dont have money ?
or does he pray only when he has money ?
will he be thankful when he is sick and ill ?
or does he pray only when he is in good health ?

see all this that we are in is a test that leeds to the same result (heaven,hell) the test differs from one to another

why it differs simply because God knows what is the best for you
he knows if you were not so wealthy maybe you would comit a suicide so he created you wealthy :)

well last thing to say that I am a Muslim and English is not my mother language so please forgive me if you found any mistakes....and try to read more about religion . here is my site and I am always available on my messenger if you wanna chat about this subject or any please feel free to drop an IM :)

http://islameveryday.blogspot.com

may God guide us all :)

Answer 6

The USA is a great country. Most people have enough money for food/shelter/water/clothes. We are lucky we live in such a great country. While in places such as Sudan, Africa innocent people are being murdered. Poverty is common there. Several ppl are attempting to assist these people and people in their situations, but you can only do so much...

Answer 7

Don't jinx your self by saying how great you have it. Yo could get into a car accident, and everything could go in an instant(like it did for me)
Rather take on some volunteer work and help to those less fortunate. That will make you feel worthy.
And, your life still isn't over. Enjoy it while it is good. It could change in your golden age.

Answer 8

you didn't earn this..in truth nobody really deserves anything that they get, we are gifted of GOD with blessings, whether we see them as blessings or not...If I were to get what I really deserve, I would be in a big time world of eternal hurt, because I would be hellbound. From what I read of your question, you feel guilty because you concider your life to be better than those who you see suffering...have you ever stopped to talk to one of those suffering people to see what insight that they have about their own situations? You may be surprised as to what some will tell you about their "suffering"....for myself, I have been going through a very difficult time for the last month...GOD knows the situation that I am in and the problems, so I don't need to advertise them...part of the reason that I am suffering at the moment is because the devil is pretty angry and frantic right now...two members of my family accepted JESUS CHRIST as LORD a little before all hell started breaking loose in my life, and I prayed for and with both of these family members...one was really hard core, "I don't believe and never will"...well, he believes now and it is worth the backlash that has came my way.... the WORD also tells me that he who suffers in CHRIST will reign with HIM...it isn't easy, I am not saying that it is, but I will praise HIM through this storm called life..because HE is my Best Friend, my Comfort, my Strength, my ALL and EVERYTHING!!!

So, all that being said, remember that we are told, "Mar 8:36 For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? " All the riches of this world are not worth eternal torment.

Read the BIBLE, let GOD guide your life, and use that which you have to help others...


"Silver and gold have I none, but what I have I give unto thee, In the name of JESUS of Nazereth, arise and walk" Do this according to HIS purpose and plan for your life.

Answer 9

Instead of focusing all you energy to negativity and complaining, try focusing on good things. Everyone is someone. Everyone is important. And every person in the world can make a difference. Be grateful and thankful for the people in your life that care for you and love you. It is not wrong to wish for good things in life. We can wish good for ourselves and we can wish for others. Maybe you feel like you don't contribute to the world more? If you cannot afford to give money to the charities try donating your time. Volunteer. Help out. You can make a difference in other people's lives and you can make a difference in your own life.

Answer 10

We are all only human, so it is OK to feel the way you do. but take a few minutes to look at what you said. You acknowledge that you shouldn't be complaining, but hey all complain. One thing I do when I want to complain about something negative, I just think of a positive. Like when my car broke and I had to catch the bus, I was pissed but I thought about it and said thank God I have money to catch the bus. Try it, it really works.