just a another morning when i woke up n so hopefully wanting to see him, i went to his residence to fetch him for work, thats when i was shocked to c him clad in his shorts instead of his office attire. he came up to me n said u open up the office today n im not comin in for work. (well he's my boss actually) as normal i asked him whats wrong? he said headache n started yelling away. i felt so humiliated in the midst of his parents and the worst part is im doing him a favour by fetching him. he never bothered to call me up to say make ur journey, no need to fetch him as i've got to travel an additional 30 km just for him every morning n even sending him back home. what should i do? shall i just leave him and get a better job somewhere else? im 26 n he's 38. im lost. he's not romantic but really caring. but when he fights he's so so so hurting with words.
2006-06-19 16:20:30 · 17 answers · asked by {0-0} 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know this may seem a little ancient to you. But when people say you shoulnd't get invovled with people you work with. This is a prime as to why this has always been said. No matter how hard people try, work relationships just DON'T WORK.
Should you leave him? Yes, because he's 12 yr's older than you and he still acts like an a s s, yelling and not having the decentcy to call you knowing that your on you way should tell you. You have your entire life ahead of you, and you shouldn't have to settle for less. You're already settle for a man 12 yr's your senior, but to have to put up with BS in unacceptable.
If he's asking you now to open up when he doesn't want to come in, what do you think he's going to be doing in the future? Don't quit until you have secured you another position somewhere else. No one should EVER be unhappy or uncomfortable if you don't have to be. Right now you're not hancuffed, you have two legs and a brain. Make a choice that's right for you. If can't see bigger and better things for yourself, no one else will either.
2006-06-19 16:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by purrlywhites 3 · 8⤊ 3⤋
Ditch him in my opinion... there are lots of caring nice guys out there that know how to treat a woman...... Honey dont kill ureslef over this, most women for some reason dwell on this too much and all u need to do is forget him and move on. Also women seem to chase the guys that are jerks and the ones who they just cant understand..... dunno why u wud cheat ureself like that..... go for the best and try sum one ure age, u will find Mr Right when u least expect it and he will be one of us nice guys hopefully. As for the job, u can find work elsewhere.... if ure really spiteful of him keep working at the same place as him but just breakup with him so he has to see u every day; another neaky thing wud be to pretend to flirt with another guy at the office so he gets jelous!
Hope This Helps!
2006-06-19 23:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by TheDreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already in that age group when men know what they want and what it takes to get it. Obviously, he wasn't in a good mood when you showed up. If he's your boss and your boyfriend, act like nothing happened and get over your embarassment and hurt. He expects you to behave like other girls your age would do; get startled, cry and complain about how they've been treated. So he's had a bad morning. If he's 38 years old, if he's had a bad day, he doesn't care what you do because he yelled at you. If you love and care for your boyfriend, get over it and treat him like you would everyday.
Then he will come to you and perhaps apologize for his rude behavior. Then you can tell him how hurt you were.
2006-06-19 23:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Siddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you haven't got much of a relationship, at least he isn't as involved as you are. Perhaps you need to stop catering to him and let him do the work to maintain your relationship for a while.
In other words, stop babying him. Men don't respect women that are pushovers and do everything for him. Take care of yourself and let him take care of himself.
You'd be surprised how much better this works.
And..what kind of real man is living with his parents at 38? And he doesn't go to work for stupid reasons.
Sounds like a loser to me. Move on girl.
2006-06-19 23:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time that you move on this is the sign of starting abuse get out while you can yelling now then what we as women deserve better and to be treated with the upmost respect so don't settle for anything less then the best you have to make sure that yo are happy no one else will
2006-06-19 23:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by deviousandsweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to just leave that situation/relationship immediately. He is 38 and he still lives with his parents. You are in a losing situation. To many problems--He is your boss, He is rude, He lives with Mom and Dad, do the math. Let that boychild go.
2006-06-19 23:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by septima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop waking him up. He should wake himself up since he's 38. Sometimes guys don't like too good girls. If he cares he;ll understand. You can call him in the morning and wake him but don't travel the extra miles. He should understand if not, you're young so you'll find someone else.
2006-06-19 23:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by maya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on from the relationship and the job. He's got some control issues.
2006-06-19 23:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by long_ebony_locs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why he started yelling at you right from the start. It sounds as though there might be a deeper issue.
2006-06-19 23:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is a jerk, i think you could find better. If you feel like he isn't treating you the way you should be treated, leave him. You are still young, dont waste time with someone who doesn't appreciate you.
2006-06-19 23:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋