My boyfriend will not stop hanging around people that I disapprove of. He wants to be involved with people I feel are going nowhere in life and I want "us" to have a successful life together! He says he wants to be with me forever but when I call and he is with guys I know are bad news.. he acts like I'm the one doing something wrong when I get upset with him for being with these people. What should I tell him? Should I put up with this?
2006-06-19 16:04:57 · 13 answers · asked by sweetbaby0809 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Walgreens sells $30 at home drug tests, if he wont take it, its because he is high as a kite. Or, he could be offended.
2006-06-19 16:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you put up with it? No. What should you do about it. have you talked with him? and really told him what you thought, have you told him the reasons you feel this way? Be specific, no guy wants to hear I JUST DON'T LIKE THEM, try to make him see your point by being as specific as possible. Tell him exactly how you feel, let him know that his relationships are tearing the two of you apart. Try writing down before hand the reasons so that when you confront him you don't space out because you can't think of the reasons. Just saying "it's me or them" is only going to create friction between the two of you. If it does come down to this however mean it, because you don't want him thinking that he's won. Also try not to use I think, I believe, or you must. Stick with the facts when you are explaining these things to him. If you are constantly saying i think you are.... or they seem like the type who are.... it doesn't make your arguement seem as valid.
2006-06-19 23:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by brandon p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl mine is the same way hard headed as hell,don't tell his *** nothing I sure stop telling mine he's a good guy and all but he's determine to do what he want's to do.The people he hang around are'nt really bad but they be doing **** that they know will get they're stupid asses in trouble.And like I told him we are to old for this bullshit.If you know you have said and done all you can do and he still want's to hang around these people leave his *** alone a hard head makes a soft ***!
2006-06-19 23:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety
u should never get into a reletionship thinking u can change a guy, u cant. ...95% of the time anyway ... he doesnt understand where u coming from and it easier for him to do all those thing like hanging with his crew.
mayb u should sit him down n explain to him , see if he hears you , ,,,
but yea long run dnt put up with it , u sound like a mature sucseful chik , im sure ul find any1 that u want
2006-06-19 23:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by alexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems you have his best interest in mind, but you are being slightly controlling. Just think, how would you feel if he asked you to drop your friends because he didn't think they were good for you, and you couldn't see why? Sit him down and explain exactly what it is that you see a problem with in them, and make sure you understand his views as well. Get to know his friends better, if you can. You may find they're better than you thought. ^_^ Good luck.
2006-06-19 23:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Requiesce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear lord...women...stop trying to make your men into your own personal "project". let me ask you this....would you like it if your boyfriend tried to change you, tell you what friends you could hang with, tell you your goals in life are dead end pipe dreams. he's not what you wanted...go find someone that is, and leave that poor guy alone.
2006-06-19 23:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Floofykins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you see the real problem. Although I think you are making the right judgment regarding questionable relationships, he apparently disagrees. This is not going to go away, and in fact will worsen in time. You don't want someone who constantly seeks your approval, and changes who he is just to please you, but rather, someone who shares your same values. Be realistic...this relationship is doomed.
2006-06-19 23:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not his mommy so you should quit acting like it... Nobody likes there partner to treat them like a child. If it is such a problem you should find someone you are more compatible with. Good luck.
2006-06-19 23:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wtf mate?! Your being too controling. You can't always control what the other one is doing. Does he make you not hang out with your friends or something. Is he keeping tabs of where you are and what you've been doing? Your putting him on a leash! Why don't you let him be the judge of who he hangs out with. In a relationship, you need trust to keep on going. So, I think you should try to trust your man. idk, its up to you.
2006-06-19 23:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like he is immatue and doesn't want to grow up. If he doesn't comply with you maybe you should break up with him and see what happens, if that doesn't wake him up, then he just aint ready to be a grown up.
2006-06-19 23:14:51 · answer #10 · answered by dalovely1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋