My mom has been giving me some harsh punishments. I have asked her and she says she doesn't trust me. I know i lie some times but that was like 3 times. She is even threatining to take away my email and Myspace account. What should i tell her?
2006-06-19 16:01:35 · 14 answers · asked by Alex B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At this point and time it doesn't seem like your mother trusts you because you have lied to her before (a few times too many). So, all you can do to earn back her trust is to show her that you are trustworthy. That may take sometime, it definatly wont happen over night. Remember, Actions speak louder than words.
Hang in there! Win back her trust by being honest!
2006-06-19 16:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by AJ 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Try to be moral in more situations than just whether you lie or not. No sneaking out to hang with some guy, no "fooling around", and most definitely no treating your parents like crap. DO do chores when your mom tells you to (or even when she doesn't, if it's obvious she's tired as hell), get schoolwork done on time, and think before you act. This last is a biggie. Your mom wants to know that you won't throw your life down the toilet if she leaves you alone for 5 minutes. If you can prove to her that you can think things through and make the best choice, then she'll be more likely to trust you with things.
Maybe you don't like everything your mom does, but you don't have to like it. She's trying to make you grow up into a decent human being, not baby you until you're 35.
2006-06-19 23:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by onyxflame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't u think u r responsible for this? why doesn't she trust u? because u started telling lies.anyway what has been done cannot be undone. but u can bring back that trust. be patient. listen to her. obey her. be truthful.show her that u care for her.show her that u r hurt when she says she doesn't trust u.mothers cannot be angry with their children for long.it is their weakness. the moment she comes to know that u love her & care for her she will cool down. u must show her that u will not tell lies again.make her your best friend & see the difference.confide in her. she will be the best mother for u.
2006-06-20 00:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you're sorry and you are going to change. talk is cheap, so instead start SHOWING your mom that you are trustworthy. don't lie anymore, and act responsibly. also, to get some extra brownie points it would probably help to be nice and communicate with her. give her compliments, help her with housework, get good grades, etc. this will take a little time, but before you know it your mom will be giving you more priviliges again!
2006-06-19 23:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by neverneverland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, no more lying, it will only delay her reigning trust. Then just trying to think before you act and say stuff and make responsible choices. If you can show her through responsible behavior that you can be trusted then she probably will. The best way to show her is through your actions and listening to her.
2006-06-19 23:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her trust you
You are still probably young, and she is just trying to look out for you. Don't worry, my mum used to never trust me and still at times doesnt. But as you mature she will loosen the lead and give you more freedom.
Be patient
2006-06-19 23:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do to start getting yourr Mom to trust you is to start TELLING her things. When you get home from being with your friends, TALK to her about what happened, who said what, etc. SHARE your life with her and she will slowly begin to trust you! Try it! It works!!
2006-06-19 23:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by yorbalinda1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want to see a counselor to get problems you need outside help from. If your mom isn't interested then talk to a school counselor.
2006-06-19 23:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easier done than said.
try to prove to her that you CAN be trusted. like if u get the opportunity, like for example, i invited company over while my parents were away, and i got caught. next time i was almost gonna stay home alone, i went "can i stay" they were like "no ull have todd over again" i went "please let me use this chance to show u that u can trust me" let them see that u want them to trust you, and that you are trying to reach that point.
2006-06-19 23:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by the d1sl0cat3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she doesn't trust you.
Try to understand her perspective, even if you don't agree with it.
Ask her what you can do to get her to trust you.
2006-06-19 23:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by JM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋