I didn't get accepted to the High School i wanted 2 go 2 'cause my stepdad cursed the principal out. My mom seems 2 care more about my lil brother and sister than she does about me. I feel like I have no one 2 depend on. My parents won't let go 2 a boarding school and study music. They believe that I have no career in music 'cause its useless. And all I can ever do is cry because I'm always stuck at home babysitting my siblings and all my mother ever does is complain about something or everything. I am only 13 for goodness sake. And once again all I can do is cry.
2006-06-19 15:58:25 · 18 answers · asked by Lady T 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is JUST FOR YOU..., because you are special. Pick up your Bible and read 1st and 2nd Peter. Read it as if the Apostle Peter wrote it to your church and it's your turn to read it.
Before you read it, ask God to help you understand all that you are about to read. You may not see the point - but just do it. I think by the time you are finished, you will have a unique perspective.
Love you in Christ Jesus, as a brother to a sister.
2006-06-19 16:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 7⤊ 7⤋
When it seems all hope if gone, you have the blessing of the universe, the love of God, newly clear vision and the freedom to reinvent yourself.
It looks like you are saddled with lots of responsibilities, just like an adult. Your mom is not thinking more of them and less of you. She depends on you. Somehow it doesn't seem fair, but that's what life is like. Try to find a way to keep it going smoothly without agreeing to more responsibilities. Is everything in the constant crisis mode? Pray for calm and for God to give you a mental and spiritual "poop-deflector." Let your mom complain and rant a bit if it helps her, and don't take it personally. If you don't react to it by getting into an argument, it should let up a bit. Probably she's really stressed out .
If music is your great love, hold onto that, no matter how discouraging or thick-headed other people can be. No one can steal your dreams unless you let them do it. Try to explain this to your mom when things are calm and you can talk to her alone. Let her know you are there to help her, but you have needs too and your dream of music. Ask her how she can help you make this dream come true, even if it's only a few hours a week at first. You're not a servant in the house. You have needs too.
Respect yourself and hide yourself from them just a little bit (your feelings and thoughts that is.) If they respect you more, your life will be easier and better. Don't turn over control of your feelings to them. Think of yourself as the ship's rudder for your family. You have control and the ability to keep it all on course, no matter what the so-called adults are doing, thinking or feeling. Be patient with your mom and yourself.
Enjoy life's little treasured moments - the ones that don't seem like much but are so nice for you. Think of them as God's love or life's love for you. They are yours and no one can take them away. Play them gently in your head along with your music before you go to sleep.
2006-06-19 23:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady T
Don't lose hope! If you can, talk to someone. Tell them how you're feeling. Crying helps too, but don't cry forever. Cheer up, go out with some friends. Above all, pray. You're only 13! Got a whole life in front of you. This stage will be over soon.
2006-06-19 23:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nobody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an atheist, but I recommend that you go to a local church and find someone to talk to. You need an adult to help you deal with this in person. Sometimes you can depend on strangers more than family. Sometimes family just sucks, but strangers average out to normal. Parents are sometimes stuck in way over their head. It's not like they get any schooling on how to be parents (or people, for that matter). Perhaps you can at least find a counselor or teacher that will listen enough to help you understand yourself and what is important to you.
2006-06-19 23:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you are only 13, you have your entire life in front of you, what's not to hope in that?
Rather, rely upon God's promise, it's the first promise given within a commandment : "Honor thy parents, that your life may be long". Do what they say, submit to what they tell you, it's only until you are 18, then you are free to live your life hon.
What you will gain is patience, determination and a willingness to listen to God. That is infinately more valuable than a semester at music school. Is it easy? No, but the most valuable lessons in life are not easy sweetie, that's just a fact.
2006-06-19 23:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you shouldn't have to babysit your brother and sister. you're a kid yourself, you should be out with your friends doing what girls your age do. i can't stand parents like that. those are your mothers kids, not yours. (but not much you can do about it, but it is bullish on her part). your brother and sister are your step-father's children aren't they? hmmmmmmmmmm. follow your heart and your dreams. you may not be able to go to the school you want, but nothing stopping you from getting out of the house and going to the library. study your music on your own. you're in a tough situation, sorry but there really isn't anything i can say or do to make it better. JUST HANG IN THERE HUN!!! it's depressing, but, instead of letting it make you cry, use this time to do some soul searching and let it make you strong.
2006-06-19 23:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by vanessa w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say you need to study music no matter what. just because someone tells you it's useless doesn't make it so. try the school band or anything else you can. you need to find some like minded friends. practice and go for a musical scholarship.
2006-06-20 01:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by Stuie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just study music, however you can. If you're to be a musician, it will happen. You'll practice and perform and some day you'll get a gig and start making some money. Get good. Take lessons SOMEwhere. Practice, man, practice . . .
2006-06-19 23:08:49 · answer #8 · answered by walterncool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are going through this... Music is yours, use your gift and remember that your talent is something no one can ever take away from you. Write a song, sing your favorite song... believe in yourself and never forget that you have a gift! Do not let them crush your soul!!! Sing... you WILL feel better.
2006-06-19 23:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by bebeshanibabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is to hang in there. You will be old enough to be on your own soon. And if you need someone to talk to, call your local kingdom hall of Jehovah's Witnesses. That can help.
loj
2006-06-19 23:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's rough. I pray when all hope is gone. God's never let me down yet!!! I also read my Bible. The Psalms are great when I'm feeling down!
2006-06-19 23:05:37 · answer #11 · answered by IveGotTheAnswer! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋