Okay my bf and I were planning on getting married within this next year but now we are considering eloping. Just wondering if anyone out there has eloped or had family elope and how the outcome was.
We both know that our parents may be a lil upset but they also are okay with and like the idea of us getting married but they want us to have a ceremony they would prefer not to have us elope. Feed Back greatly appreciated.
2006-06-19 15:53:00 · 12 answers · asked by mandakins 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My spouse and I have been married almost 4 years and still happily married! We just flew to Las Vegas and got married, just the 2 of us. My family knew I was going to get married and were ok of not going to Vegas with us. We told my spouse's family after we got married via email and they were a bit surprised and slightly upset because they didn't attend our wedding, but they got over it. So I would say that if you do elope today or tomorrow or the next year, your family and your fiance's family will get over it eventually.
2006-06-19 17:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to elope? If it's because of money explain that to your parents and see if all of you going to the court house is an option or if they will pitch in on the cost of the wedding. If the stress of planning the wedding is getting to be to much ask for some help from family and friends. If you have just decided that's what you want to do tell your parents before hand so they do not feel completely left out.
2006-06-19 15:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends of our eloped and their families were wicked pissed. They got married in Red Rock Canyon, right outside of Vegas. It's still one of the most beautiful weddings I've ever been to. There were 8 of us in this awesome canyon. You can get married in the Valley of Fire, Lake Mead. I had to hear about it though from both of their sisters. They're still hearing about years later. You have to decide how upset your families will be and if they'll never forget that you didn't give them a wedding.
Another course of action you might want to consider is a destination wedding on a cruise or at an all inclusive resort. You get your wedding and honeymoon all in one, plus you can invite whoever you want but you don't have to pay for a reception because it's all inclusive. Friends of ours did this in December and it was fun. We got a 4 day vacation and a great wedding on a beautiful island. I don't remember how much it cost us, but it wasn't bad, since we got a vacation out of it. Not everyone will come if you do this, but I'll bet the people who would complain the most (parents and siblings) will come. Good luck
2006-06-19 19:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the people who are against elope. It is easy to say that having a big wedding is better....
For intance my BF and I plan on eloping in the near future 1. due to money probems (I can't ask Mummy or Daddy as I don't have any - my BF father died last year so we can hardly as his poor mum?!!) 2. I also think eloping is very romantic and the wedding day is about the bride and groom not everybody else.
So I say if you want to elope... do it! Don't have a big wedding just to satisfy everybody else!
2006-06-19 16:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I eloped at the courthouse about a month ago. We are really happy that we did that. However, we still haven't told our families. But we do plan on having a larger ceremony with friends and family next summer so everyone can be a part.
2006-06-20 04:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by dietcoke305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend eloped with his girlfriend to Lake Tahoe, CA (which is only a couple hours away). He still thinks it was a great idea. She secretly regrets it because she missed out on alot of fun, gifts, and the bonding experience with her family. Even it is a small wedding at a park or someone's house with just close family, it's worth it. A county officer can come out to do a quickie wedding for a few bucks.
2006-06-19 17:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by pobox01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother and stepfather kind of eloped. they didnt have a grand ceremony, and just their children (us) and their parents were there. she always tells me that a wedding ceremony is about what the parents want. real love doesnt need a ceremony. i say up with eloping. if its not what you want as a couple, dont be forced into something youre not 200% comfortable with
2006-06-19 17:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by linkinpark_lpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it type of feels that there is distinctive drama in contact with your wedding ceremony. the experts of eloping contain no longer having to administration your fiance's obnoxious sisters, and the fee of having married will be a lot less. The cons contain no longer having a dream wedding ceremony at that you may surrounded by ability of your relations and close friends. some human beings stay to sense sorry about this. in reality you and your fiance can choose what's ideal for you. do no longer be rash. sit down and communicate with your fiance and attempt to come back to a range mutually. maximum appropriate regards!
2016-10-14 08:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you wanna elope? don't u wanna celebrate with all the ones u love and those who love you back.....don't u wanna have pics and videos to remember that special day of your life?
Don't elope.....have a ceremony and enjoy your life...marriage is gonna be full of compromise later.....don't start it off with one that you won't entirely appreciate later in life....especially when you attend your friend's and family's weddings!
You will regret it! i advise you to have a wedding.....
Good luck
2006-06-19 16:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend eloped...and it worked out great. an idea though.....elope and then have another ceremony when you get back home for all of your friends and family to enjoy with you!!
2006-06-19 15:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋