I don't know why I'm asking this, but I need people's input. I have been talking to this guy for about a month now, and lately, he seems to not have the time to talk. I totally understand that he's busy helping out his friend and living his life, but why do I feel ignored, or not important enough? Shall I tell him how I feel? Or shall I just wait for him to contact me?
2006-06-19 15:30:55 · 30 answers · asked by zleeo_0803 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it a little more time. It's possible that he really is just busy at the moment. If it continues for another week or so, politely confront him about it. He is either actually busy or he is politely (and cowardly) trying to give you signals that he is not interested.
2006-06-19 15:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lubers25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just not that into you. Move on! If it is meant to be, he will come back around. Otherwise, you are wasting your time and could be missing the really great love of your life. Don't wait!
However, as a courtesy, you can tell him the next time HE contacts you something like, "I not available much right now as I am seeing other friends." If he responds (and that is a big "if"), do not try to get back together with him right away because he will just start it up all over again. Let him make it up to you; he has to prove that he is interested and he will need to do a little more than send a couple of easy e-mails. If, and only if, he has worked for it, then will you possibly consider reconnecting with him.
If you let him get away with ignoring you for long periods of time, he will keep doing it. If you want to be better friends or have deeper relationship, you need to be honest and tell him that when HE CONTACTS YOU. Otherwise, you are just fooling yourself and allowing him to hurt you.
2006-06-19 22:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by shoppingontherun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is to be in your life he will be - just do not waste your time on him and if you move on and ignore him, two things will happen
the light bulb will go on in his head that you possibly did mean something to him or that the real Mr. Right will come along...
Do not tell him how you feel...you are not a charity case -you just need to let him go and you need to find some girlfriends and have fun with and laugh with -do not tie yourself down to just one guy- there are a million of them out there and one right for you....
2006-06-19 22:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by fscape444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts, not enough people do. If you feel the need for validation, say something. I would just leave it alone, and move on. If he decided to call and see whats going on than cool, and you don't end up looking like a paranoid freak.
2006-06-19 22:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by silent*scream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have only been talking for a month...what kind of talk are you going to have? anything like that and he'll think you're some crazy chick. it's not even worth it at this point. learn how to take a hint and move on...don't sit around here and ask questions that you already know the answer to, or at least i hope you know the answer to this. tell him to go to hell; you're either his booty call or he's not interested
2006-06-19 22:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has a better adjenda then talking to you or being with you, be careful , there are many fishes in the sea.he is not interested but some men like women to be dogs after them , you deserve more than this take your time, let one come to you do the right thing and prayand god will provide the person you need he knows your heart desire.
2006-06-19 22:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by blessed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you've got better things to do than pine over someone who doesn't have time to spend with you. You're a wonderful person who deserves to be treated with respect. If you give yourself respect first by having more confidence in yourself you'll feel better about yourself. The first thing I suggest is to kick this guy to the curb, you deserve someone who wants to spend time with you. And you will. Be patient with yourself.
2006-06-19 22:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give another week and see what happens. If this continue to no void, why not just keep yourself busy and stay focus that way you can be more happy with yourselves. Sometime, we have to let things go if they don't seem to be what the expectation are.
2006-06-19 22:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him!
Worst case scenario, he gets all defensive about "his space" and lets you go. This way at least you know for sure if he's interested. Best possible outcome he apologizes and tried to include you more.
2006-06-19 22:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Alpha Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel,or you could end up waiting a long time.
2006-06-19 22:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by asmikeocsit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋