is 18 too young to get married?

Question

well here are some more details for you, My bf and I have been dating for a year now, and we want to get married next summer. we aren't officially engaged yet. he wants to wait to propose until after I turn 18 , By the time we get married we will be closer to 19. For the most part everyone has said that it is too young, but I love him with all my heart. My dream in life is to get married to him, and have kids. I don't really want to go to college(I haven't for a while),but I will if I have too. And he will already by then have one year of college out of the way, he's going to be a high school science teacher. I've prayed about it alot and so has he. We feel like this is what God wants for us.

Answer 1

No, if you are lucky, you will be married for 50 years. If you are not, you will be on your first of several divorces. Take some time and think about it.

Answer 2

Well...it really depends on the person and situation...but my opinion would be yes, it is. When you're 18, you're either out of high school, or going to be soon, and getting ready to go to college or work. Many 18 year olds are still trying to find themselves, and are maybe still too immature to handle something that requires so much commitment and work. Waiting until they're able to support themselves finantially would be a good idea too. If that doesn't help, then I'd say wait at least until you're absolutely sure that's what you want. ^_^;


Ah, ok. Well then, I know the urge to get married is strong. I'm 19, and I want to get married to my guy too, very badly. But I'm also in college, and I know that right now is not the time. I say wait until you both have things squared away. I'd personally wait until you were at least in your 20's, because then you'd have a better sense of self.

Answer 3

Wow, really depends on how mature you both are and if you're really ready for this LIFE LONG commitment. If marriage doesn't mean much to you and you feel "ah, we can divorce if it doesn't work out" then who cares right?

If you're really in the belief that marriage is forever, then wait a little longer and enjoy the 'single' life with your significant other. If he/she is the one, then they still be around in a few years right?

If done right, marriage becomes an enhancer of relationships. If you have a strong, loving relationship, it makes it that much stronger. If you have problems, but think marriage will solve them, it won't. Marriage will just bring out more problems.

I have a colleague who got married when she was 18 and now, 15 years later, she's still happily married with two kids. So, early marriages does work, but not often.

Take your time...

Answer 4

yes too young. you will change as you age, and you both will end up wanting different things. you cannot possibly know what you will want in 20, 30, 40 years! there are 6 billion people on this earth. and of all those people, you know, after only one year of dating, at 18 years old, that you want to spend the next 60 years of your life with the same person. you're closing out the possiblity that there may be someone out there better suited to you. my mom was married when she was 18, and it was the worst decision, apart from her children she had, of her life. my father changed the day they got married, and she cried everyday for a year afterwards. my stepmother said he has changed since they married as well. if you still go on with it, good luck. you'll need it.

Answer 5

i say no and yes is if you are doing just for lookes i say no im only eleven and i know that in some way even if he were to a hiddious creature andyet was so kind to me that i could look past all that then i knew it'd be ok to get married but the others are also right you need a goon education so make sure that after your married you still go to school and think of your self befor eanything else...

oh and another thing if an eleven year old can answer this question don't you think an 18 year old should be able to

Answer 6

yes! You haven't had a chance to live yet. Wait at least 2 or 3 more years so that you've had time to find yourself as an individual before you become part of a married couple.

Since you added more details, I wanted to add to my answer.

Your boyfriend will have only one year of college completed when you are planning to get married. With that one year of college, he won't be able to get a job that pays enough to support the two of and also be able to pay all of his college expenses. He'll have little time for you since he'll be trying to work, go to class, do practicums and field experiences, and do homework. That will make the next few years of his schooling much more complicated, and decreases the chances that he will be able to graduate and get a job as a school teacher.

His parents may be paying for his expenses now, but realistically they probably won't once he's married. They may consider that, if he's old enough to get married, he's old enough to pay for all his own expenses. Plus they probably won't want to support him AND YOU. And you can't expect your parents to pay any of your expenses, like they do now while you're in high school. What if you get pregnant before he graduates? That adds to your expenses, and will make it even more complicated for him to graduate and become a teacher.

It would be a better idea, for the long-term, to get engaged, and then to wait until at least HE has graduated from college and finished his teaching licensure certification. While he's working on his bachelor's degree, you could attend a community college (since you don't really want to go to college) and learn a trade. You could get licensed as a practical nurse (LPN) or even a registerred nurse (RN) by the time he finishes his degree. That would give you two incomes, and you'd be better prepared to start your married life together.

Answer 7

Yes! You should live a little, and go see the world. I'm not saying break up with him but give it a few more years..If your truly in love the wait won't hurt your relationship and feelings for each other. :)

Also, if your asking questions like this one, it could be because your unsure if you really wanted to get married right now. Until your sure, don't do anything!

Answer 8

I personally think that 18 is too young to get married, but I have had a couple of friends get married at 18 and they're still happily married. It all depends on the person and how they're feeling at that point in their life. If you honestly think that the person you are with will be the person you spend the rest of your life with, then I would say go for it.

Answer 9

yes it is! DO NOT rush! you have your whole life a head of you..... at least give your self another 2 years. If you really love the guy, get to know him better. In 2 years you see how he will deal with problems in life. Then you can make your final decision.
I was in love with my best friend, i too wanted to marry him, ... 2 years past, and i now know he was not the one who i wanted to share my whole life with. Don't rush....marriage is like a contract, you should spend some time thinking about it, and look at all the aspects. I hope you find the right answer,

Answer 10

Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, ...and Yes! If you do not want regrets in life, wait! The maturity gap between 18 and even 25 is tremendous. 18 is not even old enough to drink yet.

There are hundreds of experiences, biological changes, people to date and learn from, and opportunities to be lost by getting married too young. If you have dreams and goals other than marriage and children, please wait and give yourself a chance to achieve them. I'm not saying it is impossible to meet those goals after marriage, but there are so many responsibilities that arise from marriage that hinder severely those goals especially at a young age.

Answer 11

At 18 I was already dating the man who eventually became my husband. But, I still felt too young to get married. For me, it wasn't really about whether I loved him or not. I already felt like he was the one for me. However, I still felt like I had a lot of growing to do and that I needed to focus my attention on that for a while longer.

What is the old saying about becoming 1 before you become 2?

Anyway, we waited and got married when I was 24. We've been married for six wonderful years. (Not long, I know.) Unfortunately, all of my friends that got married at 18 are now divorced, and I do mean ALL of them.

Good luck!