my best friend passed away 1 1/2 year ago. i've been aquainted to the family since 10 years ago. the girl is 5 years younger. she did mention waiting for 5 years to think about relationships and most recently, 7 years before getting married.
i can't stop thinking about her and i really would like to stop pondering and would like to find the end result. it would really break me if i'm rejected. this is making me feel like a wuss. i've never felt like this before my entire life.
would leaving a stalk of rose in her room be a good idea to tell her slowly, kind of giving her the "vibes" before the earthquake?
plus, i think she knows i like her and she is giving me mixed signals. she did stop talking to me once for a whole month until recently and we have had small exchanges.. sigh.. what should i do.. what should i do??
what is the best way to tell her should i decide to do so?
should i wait out and then probably lose out to some douche who deserves her no more than me? help!!
2006-06-19 14:45:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
met her at her parent's place where she lives in just now. was too afraid to tell her verbally. i now plan to write a letter. not to get answers, but to just tell her i am attracted to her. a handwritten letter with a stalk of rose. this friday. how about that? working on the draft right now..
2006-06-20 04:41:03 · update #1
Leave a rose in her room...do you mean bedroom? That would not be appropiate. I do not know your all's ages. But given what I know, why not call her up? Ask her if she'd like to go out for a coke..you know..a sweet , innocent outing. When she says yes, talk with her. Find out what kind of person she is. Let her know what kind of person you are. Treat her with kindness and respect. Girls don't value macho he-men. We value honesty and kindness. When you are feeling relaxed and calm, ask her out on a date. If she says" no," at least you have given it a go. If she says "yes", you're on your way. Good luck,friend
2006-06-19 14:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like she's a bit confused about the situation herself. Don't leave roses on her bed! That would be too much. Be her friend, of course. And ASK HER OUT. Don't gush to her about how much you like her. She probably already knows this and that would probably scare her anyway. Girls like a good time. Find out what she likes to do and then ask her if she would like to do something with you. Take her to a movie and coffee, or a concert. Don't take her to some fancy ladi-da restaurant on your first date. Something short and simple (but coffee so you two can talk). Don't come on too strong! She already knows you like her, no need to constantly remind her. Good luck! Remember be friends with her before anything else. Wait till the positive signals become stronger. You will KNOW when to make the move. ;)
2006-06-19 21:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lenore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, go for it. Even if she's not into it now, it may even eventually be a comfort to her when she is, knowing that you were her brothers best friend, which could be a good connection between you over the loss and caring about him.
Leaving something in her bedroom might be a little creepy, knowing that someone just happily walked right into her private space. Really I would suggest just inviting her to do fun stuff with you first. Even come up with something her brother liked that you'd both enjoy, or come up with something you want to do as a form of tribute to him (plant a tree??) and tell her you'd love it and would mean a lot to you if she came along.
2006-06-19 21:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it. It's not healthy to do this to yourself. Is there anything in your culture that requires such a long mourning period. Be prepared for whatever happens and don't blame her or yourself. Be confident. I wouldn't do the rose thing. Call her and tell her you'd like to get to know her better, ask her if she'd be interested in going out with you and ask her if there's any place she'd like to go. If not, pick a real nice restaurant for lunch or dinner on a Saturday or Sunday. Is there a place where there's music (not too loud) or a public place where you can walk and talk. Take it slow and easy and don't act desperate. Good luck. If she says no, you have to move on. Trust in the Lord.
2006-06-19 22:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to lunch tomorrow if possible. Have a nice conversation, going well have a nice walk. Ask her out again during the course of this, just let it happen. I think the worst think you could do is put her on the spot. Roses, big romantic dates first time out, will be like putting her on the spot without enough data to come to a reasonable decision.
Lunch will give her a hint your interested, another date will make it clear, and letting it take a natural flow will let it go wee it is supposed to go.
Stumbling around saying geese I really like you is the domain of pre-teens. Just be a man, be yourself, and be direct without being creepy.
2006-06-19 21:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jon W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You should just get to it, becuase otherwise you'll just be unhappy. If you dont, youll always wonder if it could have been. Rejection could hurt, but acceptance would be sweet!
Plan it out- becuase if you don't, then you will loser your head at a wierd time and say it wrong. Save yoruself embarresmand by being prepared.
2006-06-19 21:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by ChaChaChingThing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well times ticking its eather now or never u wait to long shed probley move on she probley knows how u feel for her and maybe not but u should fallow ur heart regardless its best to let her know its good for u to let it out if not its gona hunt u and ud regreat it very much just invite her out then lay it on her cause it dont really mater logest u say how u feel and if she rejects u just say hey friends r cool for me or what ever would be easyer to say just dont walk away tho cause it well realy be weared well good luck hoped i helped tell her tho bye
2006-06-19 21:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by baby_4th_unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her like a man and tell her what you're feeling everyone hav a right to be happy who knows she might feel the same way she just might fill the same way you do.
2006-06-19 21:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by LaTanya B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't wanna step, give me her address and I will personally do you the favor!!!
Don't be offended, I just mean that you should go for it. After all, there is no better angle to take in a situation, than the "Try-Angle."
2006-06-19 21:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Chino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your heart tells you she is the one then of course you should tell her before you do regret somneone else getting in before you,write her aletter that would be a good start telling her how you feel and you will takr things slow because you dont want hert o felel uncomfortable
2006-06-19 21:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋