Okay, so I wanna ask out this girl, but I don't know how to do it. And every time I buck up my "good ole" courage to call/tell her. . . I fail to do so. Could anyone (and, yes, I mean ANYONE) help me out here?
P.S. Please don't laugh...this is hard enough as it is.
2006-06-19 14:18:13 · 20 answers · asked by dr_salvadore@verizon.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHAT DO I SAY!?
2006-06-19 14:36:16 · update #1
you just have to think to yourself.. one..two.. three... just do it.. the worst thing she could do is say sorry not interested.
just pick up the phone and don't hang up... call and be cool... but you have to do it otherwise you will never know... it is okay gotta start somewhere..
just think the longer you wait, the valuable time you could be wasting by not getting to go out with her... think about it and you will find the courage to call her and ask her out....
good luck!!!
2006-06-19 14:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try finding out her cell number from her buddies and leave a message(call when you think she's least likely to pick up. You could ask her in a letter. Mail it or drop it off.(just trying to think of ways that would avoid a direct contact)
You could try starting off smaller and asking to buy her lunch, or bringing her favorite candy or something.
It's the fear of rejection that foils most relationships from starting. But take a deep breath and go for it! You've nothing to loose. If you never asked her out, she still wouldn't be with you! At least if she says "no" then you know how she feels about you.
Good luck! Courage be with you!
2006-06-19 14:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Alpha Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an easy fix to this-
Put yourself in a situation where you get the opportunity to be around her in a neutral type of situation. Whether it is an extra curricular activity or through a mutual friend find out what she is into and find a way to be a part of it.
When I was in school and I saw a girl on the cheerleader squad that I liked, I joined the photography club so that I could have an "excuse" be around her. I volunteered to travel with the football team and cheerleaders and through that I made some friends with people in both groups and eventually I became acquainted with the girl that I was interested in.
So the best way to go about this is to hang around the people that she hangs around. She will eventually notice you and because you will become a friend of her friends, she will eventually be interested in meeting you. The more you hang around her friends the more they will talk about you when they are around her. Once you develop a rapport with her start out with "group dating" where you and she and a few other people go to the movies or hang out at a resturant. This will give both of you the opportunity to be comfortable around each other and to get to know each other without the pressure of trying to impress her. Eventually you will not feel so akward about asking her out on a date.
2006-06-19 14:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, try to find the courage to ask her out. You need to be friends with her at first. Ask her out for a lunch or dinner. From there build up confidence to ask her out for a date which includes a movie etc... You just have to say it out. If not, you will be having sleepless nights. Be nice and friendly to her. No harm trying to be friends with her. P.s: Relax and don't get tensed up. Good luck my friend!
2006-06-19 14:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by bb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't laugh everyone has gone through this before. I think it is always easier to ask someone out over the phone than in person so try that and if your still nervous ask her out just as friends first so things will be easier and there will be less pressure on you.
2006-06-19 14:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would never laugh i have a bf and i knew him for 3 years before we went out.buy some flowers and go to her house and tell her or when ur alone call her and tell her that way if u r rejected u will be alone.i hope it goes well!i wish u the best of luck because when u find that special some one u know it.=)
2006-06-19 14:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Kayla D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask. The worst thing that can happen is for her to say no. Nobody like rejection, but its just part of life. You have to take a chance if you ever want to get anywhere in life.
2006-06-19 14:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HER NOW...i made that mistake too many time...i have the same exact problem...JUST GET THE COHONES TO ASK HER...if you dont she will get another guy...like with the girl i liked i never had the cohones to ask her out and right now this very moment she has a bf and he is not me i am sad and i cant get over her...WHAT ARE YOU STILL DOING CALL HER NOW.................
2006-06-19 14:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by Chinaman0389 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you actually do know her personally (meaning that she actually knows you exist), just strike up a normal conversation and try to fit in an "Ask you out" question.
Or just shout like a crazy *** just to get it all out first before calling her. Basically just try to get that nervousness out, smoking sisha is a good clean way of doing that.
2006-06-19 14:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ewan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her friends out. or should i stay find a common friend that you and her both know. and go out together in a group. once you guys go out for a few movie and dinner. that she will know you. and once she get to know you more a personal level, than you can talk more
2006-06-19 14:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋