Please help!!!
2006-06-19 14:00:35 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
be patient ...grieving is a process. and has stages....denial through acceptance. it will take a while to get to the acceptance part. my mother died as well and she was a beautiful woman - the best...i believe in the theory that the body dies but the spirit lives...i'm sure she has a mansion in heaven, right next door to God..Here is a poem that i wrote 3 years after my beloved mother passed..i woke up inthe middle of night, crying because i missed her. i started writing this - AND I SWEAR MY MOTHER HELPED ME WRITE THIS...this is not meant to be poetice --but it really helped me understand the process of death. i hope it helps you...i really do..because it helped me.
WHERE IS MY MOM?
Where is my mom? I need her today.
She said, "Baby, I'm never far away!"
Where is my mom? I say with a frown.
She said, "You're not looking up! You're looking way too far down!"
Where is my mom? It's her I want to see?
She said, "Look in the mirror and you'll see part of me!"
Where is my mom? Why should I live? Why should I bother?"
Shesaid, "BECAUSE WHEN I LEFT, I MADE YOU A MOTHER!"
2006-06-19 14:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry , to hear that a mother is a great losss. wish you an your family the best, pray , get in a support group an soon,this is going to be hard own the whole family, bein there for each other , remember your mother loved you all , an im sure she want all yall to remember the good times, time will heal all of you, but right now that sees so long a awy i hope the best for you, an your family, may god hand an love help heal all of your broken hearts, just always know she in a better place , an she is still with you in spirit, good luck to you an your family, im so sorry for your loss
2006-06-19 21:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by cris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complete the grieving process. That is how we deal with the loss of a loved one. Don't fight it. Let it take it's course. Everyone in the family has to go through the grieving. For some it is harder than others. To all it isn't easy. You will come out the other side of this process and continue your life. The memory of your mother will live on in you and your family.
Therapy: start a scrapbook of your mothers life. Gather stories, pictures and memorabilia of hers to add to your scrapbook. When you finish it you will have a great memorial to your Mom.
Good luck,
2006-06-19 21:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by BP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. Moms are the one person you have known all of your life and it's not easy to let them go. She must have been a very special person for everyone to be having such a hard time dealing with her death. All any of you can do is just support each other emotionally right now. They say that time heals everything. Well, it doesn't. It's what you do with the time that helps you heal. Think about that for awhile.... see what you can do with your time to help you heal, and maybe your family can learn how to heal from your example. I wish you well.
2006-06-19 21:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could tell you what to do. My mother died three years ago..we were all a mess. All I can say is make sure you get your family to eat and get plenty of sleep. It's even harder to handle the loss when you let your body physically wear out... Listen as much as you can to everyone's feelings. Sometimes people need to talk it out. Help them cry...hold them when they sit close to you. Honor your mom, by trying to hold the family together. I will pray for you. It is a very hard time.
2006-06-19 21:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by bebeshanibabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say that I am so sorry for your loss. Everyone deals with grief differently. Just give everyone their space and let them know that you are in pain also but you are there for them if they need to talk. Time will help with the pain of loss so don't stress about what you are supposed to do, just be there and let yourself heal too.
2006-06-19 21:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think about her being died. Just think about all the good times u've had with her. Trust me losin a loved one will take a while on gettin used 2.
2006-06-19 21:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by JoJo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to the good Lord above to lead and guide each of you through this very tough time. My heart goes out to you & I will pray that you all get through this difficult time. Prayer really works!
2006-06-19 21:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by crissygirlwt@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
our hearts go out to you and your family I have been reading the responses you have gotten so far and it sounds like there is alot of love reaching you and your family right this minute... i love the poem that the one person shared with you! god bless you and your family and i will pray god to heal your hearts soon! your yahoo friend! mommagarcia
2006-06-19 21:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by mommagarcia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my own experice remembering the good time you guys had helps look at family photos and i know this might sound strange but it ok to be sad but also remember to go on and you can still make her proud also remember to take care of yourself allong with your family
2006-06-19 22:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by mary m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋