I was on and off with this guy for almost 2 years. When we got together, he would say that he didn't have time for a girlfriend right now, and I was cool with that. I had just got out of a relationship and I didn't wan a new man, I wanted a friend. So we would go out and have so much fun together. I did end up falling in love with him, but it took a really long time because I didn't want to. The only reason he told me tht we were not together is because he didn't have time for a girlfriend, but he told me that when he did want a girlfriend, I would be who he chooses. So we would hang out all the time, have sex, and I was guaranteed to be at every show that he did, especially since his manager and his friends would call me to make sure that I was going, but last night he brought some other female with him and was pratically stuck to her side the whole night, basically ignoring me! Not to mention that he was over an hour late and I stood outside with his friends waiting on him, but I have never seen her at any of his shows before. Since we are not in a committed relationship, I never believed that I was the only erson that he was talking to, but I thought we did have something a little more than just friendship. He was totally rude to me, he came over to my table and spoke for 2 minutes and I didn't talk to him the rest of the night because he was all up under her all night. I have spent so much money on supporting him and his dreams and he hurt me so bad because he basically treated me like I meant nothing to him. He was sick for the past couple of weeks and I called him everyday to check on him, which I never do, and the first time that I saw him after that was when he did this. What should I do? Should I give him a chance to explain himself or should I follow my first mind and tell him to kiss my *ss and never talk to me again?
2006-06-19 13:37:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get rid of him...with men and have any doubts always remember "Actions speak louder than words"
His actions were shouting volumes at you!
He is an idiot and does not deserve you.
Let him go and find someone who will treat you with respect.
2006-06-19 13:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4 · 8⤊ 1⤋
When he said that he was not ready for a relationship and yet he was having sex with you, I totally am convinced that he was using you to satisfy his needs but, no offense meant, he isn't in love with you yet. I don't say that he will never ever love you but may be he is still in the process of analyzing himself if he really can love you at all. He said that if ever he would be ready for a relationship, it would be you whom he would choose and yet you saw him with that girl last night and he sat by her side the whole night. At least he should have considered your feelings. Didn't he know that you would get hurt by his doing that?
You have to accept the big possibility that he is taking advantage of you --- your supporting him, your giving in to his sexual desires, your helping him in whatever little ways you can. All these lead to nothing else but the hurting fact that he could be using you to his advantage.
Better give yourself time to search your soul. Can you love someone who does not know how to give love back with sincerity? Love yourself. Respect yourself. It's never too late. You deserve someone better.
2006-06-19 13:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well personally I would tell him 2 kiss my @$$ if I spent all that time and money though I would give him maybe one chance 2 explain himself then if he didnt give me the answer I wanted I would just lose him!!
2006-06-19 13:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He usin u no dough but let him explain first see if it a good reason then tell him 2 leave u alone.
2006-06-19 13:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by JoJo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would confront him with it, let him know he hurt you and it will not happen again cause he can go straight to hell. i dont see any explaination that can justify what he did, but you and i could both be wrong. but stand your ground and try not to let him see just how much it hurt just that it hurt for a min. lol
2006-06-19 13:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by pkdragonfly101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a chance to explain she could be anybody, you are friends after all
but if she is somebody to him then tell him off, he was probably using you for sex/money if he has no explanation
2006-06-19 13:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a chance to xplain himself u neva noe that grl could be his sis or cousin or sumthin over 4 a visit n he has to b wit her. then if he says he likes her or sumthin. u can say to him kiss ma ***
2006-06-19 13:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by krazy4grls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to kiss your a@#....women take so much from men, we need to learn that we are better than this!
2006-06-19 13:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by broken_hearted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your first mind hun, he sounds like a prick!
2006-06-19 13:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give himm another chance and always expect the unexpected
2006-06-19 13:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋