too nervious... (women only)?

Question

I want to ask this girl out. Although, I'm not sure if she likes me... that may be why... alow me to explain:

I have tried to ask her out many times, but fail each time, not like she says "no", i mean ... well.. i chicken out.

So i need ot know what to say, how to act.. and.. how to get self-confidence about this.

age 16

know her already; friends

Answer 1

I know I'm not a girl but I'll give you better advice then they will....

Here's how to ask a girl out. It can be as easy as uttering a few words or it can be the hardest thing you have ever attempted. It's all up to you.

Get to know her. Hang with her friends. Find out about the activities and hobbies she likes. The more you know about her interests, the more things you'll have to talk about.
Approach the girl you like. Try to dress fairly decent, but don't overdo it. For example, if you're a T-shirt and jeans person, wear that. Don't show up with button-ups and ties, because you want her to like you for you, and you don't want to give her any false ideas. Just don't have a million stains or wrinkles, and you'll be fine.

Engage her in friendly conversation. Don't launch into your invitation right away. After you've been talking for awhile, though, say something like, "Hey I'm going or doing whatever this weekend. How would you like to tag along? I promise it'll be more interesting than whatever you had planned." Say this with a small smile, teasingly. Do not use a cheesy pickup line! Think about how you want to steer the conversation around to asking her out.

Ask her out for something specific if she's demonstrating interest.

Remember, even if she says no, don't take it personally. Still make an effort to hang out with her and get to know her. Once she knows you better, she may grow to like you. Given enough time, she might even end up asking you out.
If it is the first time you're talking to her, simply say you like her.

Honestly, gently and calm. You can't make anyone like you. If she doesn't react nicely, then let her go, she was not the one.

Get to know her well. The more you know about her, the better. You might find out that you don't really like her that way.

Be nice and treat her with respect. This is a must. If you can't treat a woman right, don't even bother trying. You're just going to end up hurting both of you.

Go out with a group of people to somewhere fun. Make sure all the people are people she likes and will get along with, you want to make her feel comfortable. At the end, pull her aside, and just do it! If you cant do it right then, ask her something to put her at ease and make her feel like you care, like "Was this fun?" "Did you like hanging out with your friends" etc. Then ask her!Say something like "We should do stuff like this more often."

Girls love to be complimented by guys. Most girls love attention from the opposite gender! It's not hard. Start with some simple things, like saying her hair looks nice or that you think she's funny.

Be kind. Most girls do not want some hot-shot who thinks he's God's gift to women.

Be calm and confident. If you're sweating and stuttering, that girl will feel nervous about going out with you. We want guys that are confident, but not cocky.

Do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel confident, whether it's getting a haircut, making sure your breath smells good, or something else.

Above all, do it in person. It is not romantic at all on the internet, its barely tolerable on the phone. But try to do it in person. Look into her eyes too, unless she looks away. Don't stare, but continue to look at her face. If you are really shy, you could try a handwritten note (possibly with perfume!). Try to stick around after giving it to her though.

Keep your hands to yourself! Trying to get physical with a girl right away just tells her that you consider her to be an object and not an actual person.

Be persistent, but not too persistent. If she turns you down gently, then she's politely telling you she's not interested. If she flat out refuses, back away. You don't want any girl to think you're a stalker..

If you have to ask her out through a friend, you will get a no by default. Girls do not enjoy hearing "hey! I'm asking you out for (Name of guy). He doesn't like you enough to overcome his lack of confidence" And they will hear this regardless of how tactful your friend is.

Answer 2

Girls usually have an eye for guys who like them. She probably knows...just watch for her and see if she urges you on to see what you have to say. Don't act a certain way except keep your cool! There really is no way to get confidence you jsut have to remember that in the long run it doesn't really matter. I mean hey, the worst that can happen is she can say "no" and if she says something worse than you should deffinatly be glad she didn't go out with you then be rude. So yeah...just be nice and don't smell bad and give it a shot.

Answer 3

All you need to do to ask her out is build up a little confidence in your self. How do you know that right know she is talking to her friends telling them how much she likes you.For all you know she likes you as much as you like her. And showing how perfect you want this to go i think that if this doesn't work out any girl would be lucky to date you. I am sure you are a great guy. GOOD LUCK! P.S let me know what happens

Answer 4

If you don't know what to say or how to act...ask your friend to ask her out for you. Always works!

Good luck.

Answer 5

BEFORE ASKING HER OUT YOU SHOULD FIND OUT IF SHE LIKES YOU TRY TO LOOK FOR SIGNS. THINK THAT THE WORST ANSWER YOU CAN GET IS NO.

Answer 6

be ur self that is ALWAYS the best and RIGHT thing 2 do

Answer 7

FIRST OF ALL WHAT IS YOUR AGE SON