my girlfriend has been telling me since day one that she only loves me and no one else but as soon as the weekend comes or that she's gonna go see a guy friend she changes with me like she doesnt care about us, but when she's back home she's trying to get on my good side and make things work except when she's around other people or guys that she acts that way i told her i wasn't gonna stick around when she's making feel unsecure about the relationship, and i feel like she's just stringing me along, i always tell her how i feel but she gets very defensive when i explain to her that it bothers me that she goes out to watch movies with guys and drink and at times spend the night at their house. I try to be nice and i tell her that i dotn want to fight that i just want her to know how i feel. she says she loves me and she gets upset when i doubt her because she says that she loves me but if she did she wouldn't feel the need to hang out with other guys right?
2006-06-19 12:42:54 · 13 answers · asked by mitsu422bishi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hell no - get rid of her
2006-06-19 12:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by grisgris100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said, it seems a little fishy. If nothing is going on between her and any other guy, then she shouldn't have a problem with you talking to her about it. I think you did the right thing by telling her how you feel, but the way you described her reaction makes me think that she's hiding something. I guess I was in the same situation with my boyfriend not to long ago. There was some question in my mind whether he was seeing his ex behind my back or not. Every time I brought it up to him, he got upset and very defensive. I decided to ignore it and stay with him. Things have been difficult, and there's still that doubt in the back of my mind. I don't know if I can really fully trust him or not. It's not something I love to live with, but I chose to do so. That's all my advice. If you truely feel that she is sneaking around or lying to you, then I strongly suggest that you break up. It'll be hard, especially if you really love her, but trust me, you deserve someone so much better than that.
2006-06-19 19:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ackle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well brother I can really emphasize with you. I mean you love her and you want her to love you and maybe in her way, she does. But ,you need her to love you for you in your way. Right?
It sounds like its not important enough for her to compromise not going out with other guys and spending the night. So what you have to do my brother is start hanging out with other girls having fun and maybe if your lucky, "spending the night". Oh I'm not talking about revenge or anything like that. Always be cautious and sweet never be offensive or loud. But if shes telling you the truth and I dint think she is, then she wont mind and if she doesn't you will have all ready laid the ground work for a smoother transition to a much better girl. Good luck my brother and keep the faith!
2006-06-19 20:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by chemhead102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your feelings are telling you what you should do this is a no brainer. if you feel bad and you have proof like her and her dumb mood swings, then yeah she probably is just stringing you along. you are completely right. if she really loves you then she shouldn't be out hanging out with other guys not because she's with you but because she knows how much it makes you feel bad. and she still has the balls to be spending nights at their house i'm sorry to say but where there's smoke their's fire and there is definetly smoke here. if i were you i'd dump her a long time ago. she has no respect, morals, or honor for what you guys had. she doesn't deserve to have it any longer. hey think about this if she's really meant to be yours the she will come back to you. hope it helps.
2006-06-19 19:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Honey, you need to wake up and smell the roses!! Get rid of this girl fast, she is cheating on you BIG TIME! You don't deserve that. You are absolutely right about what you are feeling, people who are "truly" in love with each other dont want to spend their weekends with other men and DEFINITELY not spending the night at other guys' houses. Quit wasting your time with a girl who doesnt' respect you and find a girl who will. Yes, there are lots of decent women out there, you just have to find them!
2006-06-19 19:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~Long distance relationships are tough.. I am in one. The most important thing in a surviving LDR is trust. You need to trust each other completely.. even if they are going to visit a friend of the opposite sex. If you start not trusting her when she hasn't given you a reason to, you are going to push her away. You need to be secure in your relationship together or it will never last. Do you plan on moving eventually? That is another important factor. If you don't... then the relationship is likely to fizzle out... if you love someone enough, where you live makes no difference. Don't worry about her guy friend, you just need to believe it's innocent. Innocent until proven guilty.~
2006-06-19 19:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by Cupid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
brother, you need to listen carefully
I've been drinkin a few hundred gallons of beer because of a girl, so I guess you can trust me on this.
If you dont dump her, she'll dump you anyways. Both sounds like the same right? But it's not
If you dump her first, you will certainly miss her but not for long, you can move on easily.
If she dump you first, you will break down and want to suicide. the feeling is extreme horrible.
This has happend to most of my guy friends. I dunno why me and my friends are so faithful to our b*tches.. One of my friend still misses his ex after 1 year.
Wish I could go back time. Girls are greedy man
Ok, so it's your decision, I hope you make it good
2006-06-19 19:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by Laugh-n-fart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's living two lives. (1) with you when she's home 2 visit-(2) when she's away from u. and as far as her staying over the other guys house. 100% its what you've been thinking all along she's messing around. dont waste your time go on an do u
2006-06-19 19:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by trebor h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't love you she is stringing you along. For your own protection get out of that relationship now, she will only hurt you.
I hate when a girl is like that =/
2006-06-19 19:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Idiotman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't believe her, if she really loved you and knew what love is she wouldn't treat you this way, you deserve better!
2006-06-19 19:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by dababyispretty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't deal with that - too much distance between you, and not only in miles.
2006-06-19 19:46:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋