Did you ever love someone that you can never be with?

Question

I have known this man for several years and he is wonderful. I know the feeling I have for him is love, but I can't have him because he married someone else. has anyone else loved someone like that? Tell me your story...

Answer 1

yes. i am in love with a woman that i grew up with, and have been for a few years, in my eyes she is perfect in every way, but the way we are as people we are both leader type people and we would end up arguing over stupid things type of deal. she knows how i feel and i the same with her. even though we are both single. we just stay friends and know that nomatter what we are loved. kinda courky but true.

Answer 2

That has happened to me several times. I am in a 12 yr. relationship and met a married guy a couple of months. I did what I said I never would and I went to bed with a married man. Big Mistake. I don't think I really would want him if he was available. Grass is always greener on the other side. Will be ending it - it is a BIG LOSER. I sit around waiting for him to have free time. Don't know if finding someone else will help distract me and then I will get it over with. maybe midlife crisis. sorry for you.

Answer 3

Haven't we all. I was dating a guy whom after 3 months told me he was married and had kids and wasn't planning on leaving them. I was crushed. We stayed friends and kept our relationship as friends only. We would have long talks/walks/dinners etc..everything a normal couple would do just without all the fun stuff. Sex. I have to say that over the next 6 months we became so close in our friendship that I learned stuff that i never thought I could and thought of people differently. This man opened my eyes to different relationships and how to deal with them. And I thank God everyday that I learned so much. We still talk at least every year, and he tells me if he ever does leave it would be for me. And with all that I have learned from this man and others since is that its a bunch of bull..lol..Just be thankful for what you have and remember if it wasn't meant to be then your soul mate is still out there looking for you. don't ever settle, I never did and I finally got mine!!!!

Answer 4

Yes, it's happened before and it's happening at the moment too. I really loved my best friend, but he didn't feel the same and never would. Also this guy that I was seeing for a while he just decided that we're better as friends and it's heartbreaking. Hopefully that can change in the future, but I don't know if that'll ever happen. I just got to keep wishing I guess.

Answer 5

I would NEVER pursue a man that is married, even if he was beautiful and said all the things I wanted him to say...I just couldn't do it because I know how it feels to get my heartbroken & I believe in karma.

I love my ex a lot but I know we can never be..after we broke up he had two children and we still buzz each other now and again to see how we are doing but we don't hang out because we broke up for many reasons one being he wasn't faithful and I just can't see myself going backwards. But I do care about him and want him to be happy.

Answer 6

I won't tell you my story, but I have been there. There is no easy way to get through it ---it just takes time. You know that you made the right decision to walk away...Your life goes on, and you begin see the possibility of a peaceful life without him or the pain. Just remember that weeping may last through the night, but joy comes in the morning. For some of us, the nights seem to never end, but eventually, morning does come. I'm praying for you!!! :)

Answer 7

Yeah, I'm in the same situation, I just broke up with my ex six months ago, and I still love him. The only reason we broke up was because he's depressed, we can't be together anymore, but we still talk, and maybe some day we'll be together. we were together for so long too( 6 years), that I think people were expecting us to get married or something, and he wasn't ready for that.

Answer 8

Yup. For twenty years I was in love with a married woman, during part of which time I was married! I got over it, but I also got some good poetry out of it. And so much of it was purely physical--just the way she looked.

Answer 9

I had that EXACT situation. I even compromised my integrity by settling for a physical relationship with him rather than nothing at all. Boy was that a huge mistake. I felt horrible about myself and it only frustrated me more. I now know that my moral code is more important and being with him could only harm his family as well as myself. It would be too long to go over how the whole thing got started and its pretty irrelevant at this point.

Find a man who is unattached. This current situation can only cause you grief.

Answer 10

i never loved someone that is married, but i know how it is to have really strong feelings who doesn't feel the same way back. i eventually got over it because there are other people out there, just how u felt that way about this guy you can feel that way again about someone else.

Answer 11

Honey, I think we all have at one time or another, not a guy though. My story is, I probably could have had that person that got away, but it wasn't in her best interest, so I had to walk. as tough as it is, sometimes you have to be tough and do things you don't want to. it builds character. I loved this woman like no other, but you gotta do what is best for everyone involved and not be selfish.
find the courage to walk away. if you really love him, you will do what is best for him, love is selfless. If his marriage falls apart someday through no fault of yours, you may have another shot, but don't wait on that.