My mother is so strict. She rarely lets me hangout with my friends and is extremely strict with the grades i get. she treats me like im in second grade yet im going into eight grade. how can i get her to calm down and let me be my own independent person?
2006-06-19 12:08:18 · 22 answers · asked by rachel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The question is "How do you deal with a strict mother"?
The best way to deal with it...... OBEY!
2006-06-19 12:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by robertonduty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time can answer this question. You won't understand any answer an adult can give you, since at this point in your life you are a bit more egocentric than someone with more life experience. Believe it or not, your Mom being strict with your grades is the best thing that she can do for you. The world is changing, and you're going to need to be the best to get ahead.
Also remember: your Mom was your age once. Don't you think she knows what you are going through, and she only wants the best? Didn't she have a mother too? You are not alone...
2006-06-19 12:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by geeniusatwurk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are what 14 or 15.....so you only have a few more years at home so deal with her a few more years and then you can do what ever you want. But for as far as your friends go, let your mom meet your friends and have them hang out at your house so she gets to like them ,and hopefully she will be ok with you being with them. The fact that she is strict with your grades is a GOOD thing! She wants the best for you and it may not seem like it now but your grades are really important. Its good having someone push you in school because it will help you stay focused for your future.
Best of luck- jericho :) :)
2006-06-19 12:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be around 12 years old. You're still a child who has no business hanging out with their friends all day long. Sorry to say, but kids always think they should get more freedom than what is reasonably acceptable. If your mom is getting on you about your grades, fix it so she has nothing to do but praise you.
You see, you kids see the whole world as unfair and rarely ever see how you contribute to your own misery concerning your parents. I'd suggest you live by your moms rules and whatever she gets on you about, fix it. It empowers you.
2006-06-19 13:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by kathy059 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i m a rising 8th grader too. I know i sound like another "mom" sort of person, but anyway- she is doing this for ur own good. Well my mom also doesn't let me hangout with some friends i hav, because they of the way they behave and all. And besides i dont think i would call them friends after they did some stuff. And for ur future u really need good grades. And like i said, she is doing this for your own good.
2006-06-19 12:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by bushra r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers are usually strict because they are overprotective. Trust me I know from experience that it sucks to have a strict mom. But, if you are responsible and get good grades and do everything she expects, then maybe she will loosen up a bit. But you have to show her you can act responsibly in order for her to see that you are not a little kid anymore. Good luck!
2006-06-19 12:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not get mad, and believe or not this is the best you will have in life, then you will be a good wife, and a good mother too.
We know what kind of friends our kids should have, your mom does not like to hang to much with your friends, because they can easily distract you, and then your grades will go down, but if you are very upset, about it, talk to your mom, and tell her that you will promise her that you will not disappoint her, talk like a friend do not be afraid. Hopefully your mom will understand you.
GOOD LUCK
2006-06-19 12:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by shiningsun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a copy of "Raising Children Who Think for Themselves" by Elisa Medhus. Your Mom cares about you and wants the best in life for you but probably is afraid to turn over the reigns of your life to you in case you might make a major mistake or get hurt. This book will may open your Mom's eyes and make her see that if she does not give you a chance to grow and make your own decisions then she may be crushing your self-esteem and weakening your ability to make good choices and resist the risky pitfalls in life.
2006-06-19 12:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Signilda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunitely i dont think there is much you can do about it. you are only in 8th grade, how much leaniency do you expect to get? your younge yet sweetie so the only thing you can do is deal with it. dont like that answer? have you tried talking to her? asking her to treat you like a younge lady instead of a child? show her that you can deal with grades, friends and family in a responsible manner not allowing one or all to slip out of your reach. all she wants is for you to make something of yourself, thats what all parents want for there kids. maybe letting her know how you feel without slamming doors or raised voices will make her understand how you feel. it may take time before your mom lets you do the things you expect she should let you do now. do your friends hang out all day? do they get good grades? think about it.
2006-06-19 12:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by kimbaah43@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 03:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful that your mother cares about you. You won't want to hear this, but is for your own good...getting good grades gets you somewhere ion life, and she's keeping you from making mistakes like getting pregnant, or getting on drugs. Most kids parents don't care about them...be glad that yours does
2006-06-19 12:13:59 · answer #11 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋