stay at home mom..do you consider that a job?

Question

my husbands thinks because i stay at home with our three kids, 8,4,2, that i have no job..i believe i have three jobs. i don't get a paycheck therfore in his mind i have it easy!!!!!

Answer 1

leave him there alone with the kids for a week he will change his mind for sure

Answer 2

I disagree with the Father treatment your suggesting, my husband did it and he got the same if not better treatment than me!! However your question poses very big truths and ones where I have had to sit here and really question it as well. Is it considered a job? Not technically. However I have had to sign many forms ( i.e. school enrolements), government forms, surveys etc where when asking my occupation, homemaker or stay at home parent is an option for me to tick. Therefore should I then regard it as a recognised job? We do get paid when staying at home raising young children through family tax benefit and governement assistance. Or it could be payment through maternity leave. It may not specifically be a payment from home making but it is still a form of financial assistance. So I agree with you in the sense that No it is not a recognised position in the working industry, it is a voluntary situation. But I also disagree that men don't get the same treatment, I don't believe we advertise oursleves as even the governement acknowledges what stay at home parents do, and lastly I still believe it's a job. Some jobs are voluntary too in the working industry lol Great question keep them coming

Answer 3

I am a stay at home mom as well and our jobs are a 24 hour 7 day a week job, they say that a stay at home mom has the equivalent a 2 full time jobs, I would leave your husband home alone with the kids for a weekend and then see if he is still singing the same tune.

Answer 4

that sounds like a man.....I heard of some type of gov. paycheck that you can get when you are a stay at home mom. It is around $65,000. I just wish I knew where to go to get the info. If you think about it you are a daycare provider, maid, chef, taxi, coach, teacher, nurse and there mom which is the best part of the whole thing. I would love to see our guys pull that off, they ***** about a 14 hour day (IF THEY ONLY KNEW RIGHT LADIES) Then on top of it all they want sex. I know running after my 6 and 3 yr old is a lot . That's why there is not a 3rd child just yet. I just don't know how I would add in the time for a newborn. Much luck

Answer 5

Yes, you have a job. The question would be how well you are doing it of course.

And I don't mean that as derogetroy, just pointing out the obvious. If you are going to stay home and take care of the kids, well, do it.

Some stay at home moms, and they are worth a full salary. Some pretend at it, and they are not worth crap. Just like the husband at his that is not doing his job. And you better believe if he isn't you are going to have a worthless husband in the house without a job.

So, yeah, I agree with your question. You raise an 8 4 and 2 year old, clean the house, make dinner, and oh yeah, your husband still has to do his part with either the housework or home repair, and you are earning your keep.

Sounds like he is missing the his part of the housework part.

-Dio

Answer 6

I consider it to be the most important job i like to be home when my son walks in the door after school and yeah i could find a job while hes at school but what about school holidays and weekends. Its any indiividual choice and dont let anyone tell you any different. I have an only child that is well adjusted, polite and well behaved as well as having fantastic social skills and i bellieve this is because i am home for him. Leave you kids with your hubby for a day and than ask him if you have a job or not.

Answer 7

Yes it's a job. Let him stay home with the kids for a week and you go on vacation...when you get back, ask him if it's a job. I bet he'll change his mind. Believe me, last year, I worked 2 jobs and was in school full-time. It was not NEARLY as hard as being at home with my 5 month old is! For what it's worth, Dr Phil said Stay at home moms work the equivalent of 2 full-time jobs.

Answer 8

I am currently a Domestic Goddess otherwise known as a Stay at Home Mom. I love my job, I get to see my children grow and learn new things every day ~ when they are old enough to go to school, I will go out into the work world again. But for now I have the best job on earth.

Answer 9

Yes it is a job. It is the most important job in the world! I am a stay at home mom too! And we SAHM's do more work than mom's that do go to work. 5 days out of the week working mom's don't deal with there kids at all!

What you are doing is great and keep up the work!

Answer 10

You have more like 10 jobs!!!! Besides being a mom, you are a cook, a maid, a nurse, a teacher, a taxi driver, a counselor, a librarian...etc. etc. etc... I once read somewhere that if a SAHM got paid for everything she did, she would make well over $70,000.00 a year!!! Here is a suggestion, don't do ANYTHING you normally do for one day(like cooking cleaning, laundry, etc.), when your husband comes home and sees that the house doesn't run itself, maybe he will change his opinion!! I am still working on my hubby too! He thinks I have it SO easy and he would love to trade me places for a day. NO WAY!! I would for sure come home to COMPLETE chaos. We have 7 kids ages 15 down to 1, and I know he would never change the baby's diaper, he'd let them just eat whatever they want so he wouldn't have to cook, and he would say..."I am SO tired!" They all think we have it so easy, and it really makes me mad! I hope it helps to know you are not alone!! You can contact me if you want to vent! I know I like to have other SAHM's to talk to. They understand better than anyone how you feel!!!

Answer 11

OMG he is sooo wrong u don't have it easy u have a very hard job... i have two kids and am a stay at home mom also.... he don't realize everything u do..... cook, do the dishes, take kids to school, make sure they have everything they need, laundry, u r there when ever u hear mom i need u.... he needs to cut some slack.... if he still says u got it easy... tell him on ur day off u watch the kids for the WHOLE DAY and tell me if it's as easy as u think... oh and tell him he can't order out"cook".... he will see how much u r needed.... =)