I went off on my boyfriend...?

Question

The other day while I was working some girl text my phone claiming that she was going with my boyfriend ,and she wanted to know why my number was in his phone. While as soon I got the text messages I called my boyfriend he didnt pick up so I left a nasty voicemail on his answer machine. He called me back and said that he doesnt know what I'am talking about. Well we both called the number back that the girl texted me from and it was out of service. Now i think my boyfriend is kinda of upset at me for going off on him. He bascially told me that he understands why I was mad but he feels like I should of came to him and ask him questions first instead of going off on him. I said some pretty foul stuff on his voicemail. What should i do in this situation? Has this every happened to anyone else before?

Answer 1

The best thing to do is ask before assuming. trust me!

Answer 2

Did you say you were sorry? You must have talked it out some because you said he understood. Something like this happened to my daughter just last week. A girl called her over and over demanding to know her name and why her phone number was on her boyfriend's phone. It might have been just a harrassing call. They just dialed numbers. All I can say is next time, take time to think it through and don't text him until you are calm. In fact, don't text him. Tallk to him in person. If you really love him, he deserves face to face confrontations. Finally, if he has gotten past this, then you need to try to do the same. If you keep bringing it up it may cause strain between the two of you. The only other thing I would ask you is...do you have a reason to question him? If there is past stuff, you need to forgive him and forget it unless you have real proof that something is going on.

Answer 3

first off you need to know why the girl called your phone and where she got your number from. i know it didn't just come out of the clear blue sky i think that should be your number one issue right now. your boyfriend will get over it and if he doesn't then he needs some time by his self alone just a little space then he should come to his senses. you had all the right in the world to be upset if someone is messing with your man. its ya man, i don't know what foul stuff you said lol but i could feel it was harsh so give him some room to think and calm down and find out who the girl is and why she was calling you . you might just find out something you already knew

Answer 4

Well, I would start with apologizing a lot.

I understand why you were mad, but I agree with him, the key to any relationship is communication and because someone called you and said they were with your boyfriend doesn't mean he is cheating on you. You need to keep apologizing until he tells you to stop, or until you feel like he truly understands. Of course this also comes to show how forgiving he is. He should forgive you if you are truly sorry and sound truly apologetic.

If he loves you he will forgive you. You just have to take things one step at a time for now, I'm sure he will forgive you, but next time you just have to not jump to conclusions ^_^.

Answer 5

Its happened to me before but i confronted him first. I was going through the caller id on my house phone and calling every one i didnt know to see if they wanted to be left on my list. I called this one number and it was a girl and i said hey its danielle just checking my call list you want on or off. She said she didnt know me so i said well maybe you called for josh then. And she just starting laughing at me and hung up so i thought it was a girl trying to get with him and thats why she laughed at me but it wasnt. Or so he says anyways. I deleted the number and never saw it again so it was proubly a wrong number or someone messing with me! in your case it may have been a girl he made mad so she wanted to get even by trying to make u think he was cheating and that way u would dump him. So i wouldnt let it bug you but next time talk to him first.

Answer 6

It could have been some girl trying to break you both up because she has a beef with you or your bf. You should have called your bf before going off on him. The only thing to do now is just apologize to him and tell him it won't happen again. If something like this does happen again then you need to go straight to him and talk to him before jumping to conclusions.

Answer 7

Never happened to me, but I do agree with your boyfriend. You get a message from someone you don't know and take her word over your bf's word. If you two have a relationship, there needs to be trust, and if you have reason to suspect him, ask him about it first before going off on him.
You need to apologize to him. Tell him you're sorry you went off like that, and tell him you will try to learn from this and behave differently next time.

Answer 8

Sorry for what happen to you. Though this has never happen to me it might in the future. But my advice to you is to talk to your boyfriend, and let him know that you were scared that he was cheating on you. Just talk about it and ask him why he is upset. Also if you get a chance to talk to that girl give her a piece of your mind.

Answer 9

It does tend to happen hun. All you can do is just explain ti to him. Next time think before you speak. If you honestly trust him than there should be sometime to talk, if not than there is no point in a relationship.

Answer 10

Are you sure he isn't playing you? Watch out, it sounds suspect. Of course a player is going to lie and say that he doesn't know who she is. Be careful.