well my bf is way too into me ....he wants to have sex wit me but i dont want to and i have told him but he wont change his mind.he wants me to strip and do all these things to him..yea right like thats going to happen! so anyways he says im pretty blahblahblahblahblah. and i cant take it anymore but at the same time he is a really good bf except when he gets horny.what do i do to calm him down or should i leave him?
2006-06-19 11:52:57 · 17 answers · asked by I want to believe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he truly loved you, he would not pressure you or make you feel uncomfortable. Especially if you're not ready. I think you should move on, and let him do the same. Maybe he will find someone who is more compatible with him sexually. This issue will do nothing but cause further tension between the two of you.
2006-06-19 11:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by never.say.never 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
**I'm answering this while it's unclear whether you just don't have sex at ALL, or if you do... but he wants to be a little more adventurous. That makes a big difference.*
Well how old are you first of all? Secondly, what's wrong with stripping for him? It could be fun. I mean it wouldn't be good if he was like... being all critical of you and treating u like s-h-i-t and then demanding you to do all these things. But it sounds like he's really sweet, so.... what's the problem?
I'm guessing you're in your teens or 20s. (I'm 24.) I think you should enjoy this while you can, cause from what I've heard.... when we get older, we start wantin it a lot more than THEY do. So take it while ya can. hehe. ;)
Now, if it's that you just don't wanna have sex yet and he's pressuring you... then yeah, you should leave. But if you guys DO have sex and he's just wanting to be a little more playful, maybe you should be open to that....
P.S. I didn't have actual intercourse until I was almost 20. So I DO understand where you're coming from. If he is trying to get you to give your virginity and you don't feel right about it... DON'T. And if he won't stop, yeah leave him.
2006-06-19 19:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say he's a good boyfriend then why is he pressuring you for sex when you say no? A good boyfriend would listen to his girlfriend and know when to back off. If you're not ready to do all the things he wants you to do to him. Then maybe you're not ready for this relationship.
2006-06-19 18:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him after you have sex, you want to try a 3some, you always heard they were fun and that's what you want to experiment with.
2 guys and a gurl. you being the gurl. I don't think he is as much into you as he is your azz. kink usually turns first timers off. It might just be better for him to get him a g/f that wants sex with him. as you say , he is wasting his time, the sooner he grasp that the quicker he will move on. you can always say, I asked my dad (or mom) and he/she says wait. he will be intimidated by your discussing it with your dad or mom. I know I was.
2006-06-19 19:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him flat out "Sex is NOT going to happen! If that's what you're looking for you have to look somewhere else." Then, STICK TO IT! If he really loves you he'll understand how important your feelings are and show some patience. Be strong...good luck!
2006-06-19 19:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by 4nik8er 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is pressuring you to do things that you are not comfortable with, you should tell him exactly what you are feeling and why you feel that way. If he is the good boyfriend you say he is, he will adjust his requests to you or you should let him go.
2006-06-19 18:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's as young a man, as I suspect he is, he isn't going to change his attitude.
All men are horny, but more so, the younger they are. If you aren't ready for sex yet, he should respect that..
If he isn't willing to wait, until your ready, and keeps pressuring your, it's time for both of you to find, better suited mates.
2006-06-19 18:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to him tell him that is not how it goes and you are not that kind of girl if she really love you he will understand you if it doesnt work very well give youre self a time he is not the only guy here on earth there is someone that will love you very much just wait love is patient they said just wait
2006-06-19 18:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by candy_cola11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety its called respect. If he can't respect you then give him the boot. you will know when you are ready, and don't let anybody tell deferent. when it comes to that your the boss and thats the way it is. Good luck.
2006-06-19 19:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by mrwonderful2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying or leaving....that is completely up to you. Stick to your decision about not having sex. Explain to him about how it really does bother you and maybe he will quit. Good luck!
2006-06-19 18:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by tottasis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋