Opps!!! She's Pregnant!!!?

Question

We were just messing around. She knows this too. She wants to keep the baby and I want to move on. We never went down that love road and have only been seeing each other for about 1 1/2 months. She is wonderful. But not for me. How do I get her to understand?

Answer 1

oops oops thats what you say... stupid as s you messed around and created another life that will need parents...oops?

Answer 2

YOU need to understand. You made it, you should support her and help her. Having sex is NOT just messing around. It is what leads to having a baby and that is why it should be for responsible adults only. You never heard of a condom? How old are you, 13?
How about stepping up to the plate like a man and face your
"oops". You 2 had no trouble together at least 1 time. Maybe you can figure this out together. It's called facing your responsibilities.
Grown ups do it all the time.

Answer 3

You both took responsibility for being irresponsible. Sex makes babies, that's what it's for.

It is her choice to terminate or put it up for adoption. If you force her she may not be so wonderful any more; it's a hard, emotional, spiritual choice. If she chooses to keep the child she can raise it on her own, though you will have to at least financially support the child.

If your only reason to terminate the baby is because you know you don't love her and will not try to live your lives as a happy family then choose another option... Co-parent the child with her.

I have this situation with my daughter's Dad. He and I are barely friends for each other unless it involves my daughter. We are 100% committed to raising her together in a un-together way. It's really great having a babysitter that you can always count on to do what is best for your child. It's kind of like a family business. You do what you have to do for the business, the business is the child.

Next time, use a condom, no matter what she says.

Answer 4

You're a father now!! That has nothing to do with the fact that you guys had a shallow relationship.

This isn't 1963 you know....you don't have to marry her, you don't have to be in love with her, but don't you think it would be a good idea to be a ******' father.

You're not an idiot, you know kids come from sexual reproduction (love as nothing to do with it). Don't be a dipsh!t. Take responsibility for fatherhood. Move on all you want, hell even go to a different state if you want.....but you better set-up some visitation. Be there for that kid's birthday, Christmases, first day of school.....all that sh!t. Don't punish the kid.

Because once your kid grows up and becomes rich and famous...you'll be coming out of the woodwork huh?

Answer 5

That is really tough. Im not sure how old the two of you are but I would hope that if you are too young to have children that you would be smart enough to realize it.
Either have and abortion. I realize that many people are against it. Or put it up for adoption. If she is going to keep it then all you can do is be supportive and hope that this does not create a problem between the two of you.

Bottom line, Please consider the child and their life above your own. What is in the best interest of the child?
It definately puts a strain on an early relationship.

Answer 6

Better yet, how do you get that child to understand when it becomes an adult such as yourself and asks you why? That is one of the reasons I chose to stay celibate as a single person. Marriage is the only reason two people should come together intimately. I know you can't think about that now, but please consider being a part of this child's life, whether or not you want to be a parent. Please remember It is not the child's fault and the child deserves a life, just as you and mom did. Bottom line, best wishes and prayers for you, mom and the baby!

Answer 7

Dear Reader,

Nice to met u here,well it is an Urgent/Important Issue that U should come across, for our understanding,in the last line,expressed how U think about her,if she know this,she is much more secure,who U r & how U concern about her.

We understand that she couldn't be moodinessless,as the "inner -action caused",although on her free will,but for the everlasting changes,or an abortion ? I think she want to keep the baby after truely confirm your love to her,if love her,and as a woman, and reiki master, I know that she never been to any abortion of anykind,she thinks that she is so clean,and ....to U.
I read her recently,everytime,even she don't know why,when U met U,she been on herway to love U from the deepest of her heart,as U know that,R U an Indian,if so, the ladies of your custom,all the same,I seen this theory on the TV tourism showcase,that only the partents choose the couple,for their matching,but most of them could be in harmony for life long.
Also as a Chinese,I know in our ancient time,that means,also several hurdred years ago, also like your,the couples seldom diapairs.
Well ,now,if I understand your country and location,as well. There is not a matter. If in USA ,they are so open, the India,U are so traditional,that is not a matter,as collective unconsious formed.
So, I suggest that,U go to tell all your familiy members for their support, share your ideas with your brothers first,then your partents,to sister & friends,just now,U better go to someone to give U ubconditional support,to anlaysis so a privraite secter,claim down,if U are too emotional or so is she,just put more timing together with her,as like the boby,once U confirm to keep your baby,to comfort her ,and get along with her is very important for your life long"Business",as specially,if U ask her to abort your child,the history will be changed, like "Back to future",
do U know she never thought of being your wife,and also ....she just long for putting herself as your servent.
She is now on one side very happy ,as U are so amazing that,she never even dream of,and as U not yet tell her directly who U R!
However she scare of the painfulniess of given birth the baby,U always made her up and down,do U know , I believe in our morden world , a claim and confortable eniventment is for your bloodline,no matter in which country or region.
All of US know that the first 12 weeks is the most important,then the embryo is embedded,should be safe,mostly.
From now on,love and the sweet feel is what a important matter.
Besides,not only for the mother,but also for the mother,and as you yourself,pregnancy for a woman,especially,is so important for the growth of the baby,the mother if really feel sweet ,and the partents in harmony is how important in stage,that,well as I share U ,my experience,OK!
1/ 0-18 months (mouth stage)
2/ 18-36 months (anuas stage) (from 1-3 around 45%)
3/ 3 -5 years old ( sex orgain stage) (3-5 around 66%)
4/ 5- 7 years old (around 70%)
5/ 7 -12 years old ( the basic personalities established around 90 %
6/ 12-18 years old 95%
7/ 18-21 years old 98.5%
So,go on your duty,comfort yourself first,as when u always a hero,when U R OK,she is already OK !
Get it?
The most important thing she need is your love,and truelove,and she wish if possible, Your love her more ,then she will feel more secure,that 55:45 MAN : Woman

Answer 8

Great news dude!! A man who was in the same situation as you just won a court case that deals with the same thing. If you object to the pregnancy you should have the same rights as a woman has when it comes to having the baby. He doesnt have to pay child support or anything because he didnt want the baby. Me personally I would pay child support but dump the girl..if your not in love then don't be with her..but you and her have to set a foundation to raise your child on from the beggining. You have to try to be good friends even if your not in order to Raise your child without fighting....but if you dont want anything to do with it..then read the article.

Answer 9

Since you left your load you are going to have loads of support to pay. She may have been as dumb as you but both of you will pay for a long time for the 2 minutes of fun. If you are willing to pay the support for the next 18 to 23 years then great. If not get ready for tough times. Maby the next time you Will be smart enough to use protection. The decision to keep the baby is commendable but might be a bad mistake. Since the two f you must be young i doubt either of you are ready to take on a baby. Good luck

Answer 10

Dont force her to give up her child. Let her have the baby and maybe she will agree for you to be an absentee father (if she is a strong person). May she will want to request child support. Just let her know that you will be there financially but maybe not physically and see how she still feels about having a baby on her own. What if your mother had aborted you?

Answer 11

Yeah, I have to agree with City Slicker. You shoulda covered your ***...or your member for that matter.

Either way, you are out of luck. You can try to convince her that you do not intend to stay with her and that you do not intend to be a part of the baby's life, but she will still probably keep it.

When the baby is born, get a DNA test ASAP, and other than that, plan on losing about 30% of your salary for the next 18 years...and that's whether you're working or not.