Why are some men hesitant to talk to an intelligent woman?

Question

For example, guys look at me and like what they see. Then they talk to me and they see that I know what I want, I'm ambitious, charming, intelligent, and cool and funny. Why do they stop talking to me? Is it because they see that I won't take a bulls****er? Or what is it!? Please answer 'cause I'm a wee bit confused! (Please don't think that I'm conceited because I'm a very humble and modest person, but I need to put the facts out there to get the right answers!) Thanks for your help!

Answer 1

There is probably as many reasons, for guys to stop talking to you, as there are men.
Some will simply be intimidated by you, and with no possible, answers to your question, just shut up and leave.
Other's may only have Bull to share with you, and when they see that isn't working, they too will move on.
If you are all the things you say you are, and I have no reason to doubt you, I guess you just plain scare most of them away.
You need to move up the scale, on the men you do talk to, at least a college grad, or someone, who is well read, and curious and as intelligent and funny as you are.
You may have a search on your hand, not unlike that for the holy grail. And probably, just as rare a find as that.
But good luck, don't lower you standards. They are out there.

Answer 2

This is really a personal question... there can be many reasons why a man would not want to continue a chat with you. Now I won't go into that because I don't know anything about you. But I feel that men talk to all kinds of women when looking for long lasting relationships. It communication is a big part of a relationship as is intelligence. Smarter couples usually get along better. So no one really can help you here, go ask your friends what might they finding lacking in you if they were a guy. This one incident shouldn't make you think that all men like bimbos or w.e.

Answer 3

Sweetheart.. Thank the Gods those foolish men got lost! There is intelligent life out there and you deserve him! I'm a single woman you has lived all over the world, work in a man's field.. and can talk about just anything mankind has thought up... but have learned a little lesson in life (I've eaten more meal than you so deserve the respect,lol) Listen, listen, listen and listen a little more and always remember it's Us Women who do the choosing... when you find him you'll know because all the "right Flags" will go up...and there just ain't no way that man will get away from a smart cookie like you.. !

Answer 4

The real reason - because lots of guys struggle with the same insecurities a lot of your girl friends do:

Do I look okay?
Am I too heavy?
Do these clothes make me look outdated?
Wow, she's smart...I hope she doesn't think I'm dumb
She's probably out of my league
I'm not sure what I want to do with my life...she'll think I'm a loser

etc., etc., etc.,

So, assuming you're as humble and modest as you say you are, you might find some new ways to be aware of what guys are going through when they talk to "ambitious, charming, intelligent, cool, funny....and humble and modest" women.

Or, perhaps you're really quite full of yourself and they can see right through you.

Answer 5

There was a woman I met here at work.... very smart gal.... problem was that she wanted everyone to know just how smart she was.

She worked in the Water department and I have an office job here. One day she came in here talking shop and throwing around more than a few $0.50 words... I let that go on for a few and then explained that I was familiar with testing water by titration and a few other methods for things like pH, phosphates, chloride, conductivity and a few other things as well as treatments with tri-basic and di-basic compounds.... all of the sudden she became a little easier to talk to. She quit trying to impress me with the big words and showing me how much she knew. Men have ego's.... and you need to feed that ego. If you haven't figured that part out and your mom didn't explain it to you... you missed out on something VERY important. If you think feeding a man's ego isn't important, you will probably be missing a large part of what the man/woman relational dynamic is all about. I like a smart woman... one that I don't have to explain EVERYTHING to... but I don't want to be challenged by a woman all the time... one trying to prove how much smarter she is than someone else... including me. I respect smarts for what they are, I also expect a woman to respect that I am a man and if that means that every once in a while I'm wrong.... well thats just how it is... I'm also allowed to be wrong every once in a while without having it thrown in my face.

So, I would say that I am not afraid to speak with an intelligent woman... I just don't want to go toe to toe on everything.

Answer 6

well i know that if i were talking to u because i thought u were hot, but then as we were talking i found out that u were smart and all that stuff, personally i would get kinda nervous that u were thinking that i was an idiot....and once i start getting that vibe, it gets harder to keep the conversation going. but if your cool and funny, then i dont see what the problem is....just keep bein yourself. someone will come along who isnt too scared to talk to u, and you will forget about all those other guys...just be yourself, and keep being cool and funny cause those are things that guys look for, its not always about the ...well...u know.

P.S. i just found out that u like Spongebob Squarepants....u really are the KOOLEST girl i know. if u were in my town, i'd give ya a call!!!

Answer 7

Oh they are intimidated by you. They don't want to be shown up by you.

I myself like a woman with some intelligence and has a good sense of humor. Who knows what she wants in life

Being humble is good and a little modesty goes a long way.

Keep smiling some man will sit down and enjoy your company

Answer 8

Charming, intelligent, and ambitious...man the guys you have been dating must be lames not to want a woman like that! But to answer your question, they can't " pull the wool over your eyes" so they stop trying, for them it's a "no win" situation.

Answer 9

I love a woman who I know is going places. But a lot of men just want a girl for the moment, and the smart ones are just too smart for that crap!! So keep on keeping on, and you won't get the next guy, or the eventually he'll come along guy; you'll get the BEST guy....

Answer 10

I'm a smart guy really , but I find it hard to talk to women cos I'm very insecure and I don't wanna embarass myself talking to someone who I see as much better than myself. I'm so sure I'd get rejected, I can hardly bring myself to say anything. As for why they stop talking to you- that's just a few guys and they probably are as you say- bullsitters. Just be patient. I know I prefer a personality to a cheerleader stereotype!