I have a friend who moved away about 15 years ago. She was never good about staying in touch. When she had a baby, I sent a present. No thank-you from her. Two years ago her daughter got married. I received an invite and sent $100.00. No thank-you note. Now, I received a high school graduation announcement for her son. I don't have extra money to spare. Is it ok not to send a gift or money?
2006-06-19 11:40:07 · 21 answers · asked by chicky 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just send a card with a congratulation note! There's no need to send money.
2006-06-19 11:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just a high school announcement. I don't think you should send anything. You've done as much as anyone would and then some.
If she's not really staying in touch with you, then I would say you're completely ok for not sending anything. Perhaps if you feel that you must, then send a congratulations card and that's it.
2006-06-26 11:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is time to cut the strings. You said "Friend" but I'm not sure what kind of friendship this is. Sounds one sided. Send a card to be polite but do not include any cash or gift. It seems as though she is keeping you around because she knows you will always come though without any effort on her part. Let this friendship die or at least fade away.
2006-06-26 11:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by ND M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like you should have to send money. Send a card. If you are afraid of not getting anything you can send him a fancy pen or something more inexpensive. I would be annoyed if I were you :P You sound much sweeter than I am!!! I would have lost touch by now if it was this one-sided. But they need a jolt of reality.
2006-06-19 19:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Bridget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always OK to not send a gift. Especially given your circumstances. I don't think your friend should be upset that you didn't send a gift, and if she is, she's isn't that good a friend. Maybe you could send a card with some token amount.
2006-06-19 18:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by wildstar_2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she was never much of a friend, especially after not contacting you even just to say thanks! Don't waste your time or your money! Believe it or not, there are people out there who send invites and announcements just to get money in return! My mother is one of them! I mean, she obviously had a way of getting a hold of you, i mean you sent her money and so she had your address! Don't do it, save yourself the heartache. Find some friends who actually care about you!
2006-06-19 18:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by munkypoo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send the gift to the graduate, not your friend. Also include a note to let the graduate know that you are expecting a thank you note...
2006-06-26 14:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by droblivion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally appropriate. The thank you note is very important. No note...no gift next time. Send a card to say congrats...if you want but $$ is not necessary.
2006-06-19 18:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're never required to send a gift. Sometimes I think people send invitations and announcements simply because they want gifts. I say save your money and your gifts for people you are close to --- and who are APPRECIATIVE of your kindness and generosity!
2006-06-19 19:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by JerseyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a card to acknowledge the announcement. Ignoring the announcement only put you to your "friend's" level.
2006-06-19 23:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by Beavis Christ AM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋