help me please!!! :'(?

Question

i feel like im going crazy!!! everything is going wrong and i cant take it anymore....i have family problems,family members are always talking behind my back...i have friend problems....i always try to help my friends but they dont listen then when something goes wrong they always come back to me....i have boy problems...this dude that i like a lot cares about me but then again there is something in the way and he doesnt have a girlfriend and we are very close and im starting to think that things between me and him are just going to fall apart..and i have alot more but pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee help meeeeeeee!!!!!!!!! i really need it...i feel like im all alone rite now because of all the problems....HELP ME PLEASE :'(

Answer 1

I am with u. just suck it up. soon u'll feel like you are on top of the world, if u just hang in there! JUST HANG IN THERE!

Answer 2

You need to tackle your problems one at a time.
If your friends don't listen to you when you give them advice, then that's their own problem. Let them deal with it. You can't force your opinions on anyone. The only thing you can do is offer.

With the dude, think about what it is that's in the way.Why do you think that things between you two are falling apart? Maybe you don't spend enough time together?? Maybe he doesn't know that you like him??

Which family members are talking behind your back? And why? If it's a brother or sister than you can tell your parents about it. If it's someone older, maybe you should just confront them about it, and get it out in to the open.

Answer 3

Family problems: They will always be there. Especially the ones under the same roof as you. Best advice is to spend as much time out of the house until you can move.
Friends: Easy fix! Get new ones or just have one or two. Keep trying this until you find one or two people that are in your corner. If that fails, be your-own best friend.
Dudes: They will only treat you like you let them. If he isn't giving you what you want, move on. Keep him as a friend but let him know you're going to find someone that can be with you 100%. If that doesn't get his attention, then you know you need to move on.

Lastly, look at yourself in the mirror. Are you a good friend? A good family member? Are you worth having as a girlfriend?

Answer 4

I'm not sure what to tell you. I HAVE felt like what you describe here though. If you are really going crazy: do you sleep? If not see a doc. People talking behind your back, people just do that , probably you too, don't worry about it, it doesn't matter. If they are right they are right, if they are wrong they are wrong, maybe they check with you see which, maybe not. Not your problem. For friends, they want your advice but they have ti live their lives. Just be ther and listen anyway if the are your friends. If you want that guy, you should tell him. Whatever is preventing you from being together. Maybe you work on it together and fix it, maybe not. Try though. If you really care for him. If you don't then let it go.

Answer 5

Know the feeling babe. My whole world has been turned upside down for the last two weeks. I've always found talking the best way in the past but doesn't seem to be helping this time. Finding myself loaded with drink most of the time but that only takes the pain away for a while. Good luck in whatever happens.

Answer 6

well since i dont what the problems are exactly i cant help you..if the family problem is only about family memeber talkin about you then soo what? forget them even though their your family i mean what kind of family would talk about each other, thats wrong and even tho its ur family u dont need to take that crap and play those childish games you should confront them about it and ask why they need to talk behind your back and not say it to your face and try to resolve the problem and if they cant do that they have the problems not you....about the friend problem i kno how u feel my friend always comes to me with a problem and never listens..so i jus try to help her by being there for her and listen to her and only give advise when she asks for it and if she doesnt listen then let her have a shoulder to cry on cuz they need to realize their mistakes and not have you point it out to them and if they jus keepin buggin you for help then simply say it will be pointless if they dont listen... and about the boy problem idk wat to tell u but if u guys really did like each other yoiu should some how manage to be together despite whatever gets in the way and if he doesnt what to work to make the it work then maybe your better off without if he doesnt care enough to work it out to be with you...then find some else who will, cuz everyone is enititled to happiness

Answer 7

hi.
Soooo, it sounds like your life is pretty crappy right now. but try to think of something good that is happening, or MAKE something good happen. A few weekends ago, i felt like life was crap, but doing something good for others, like community service, made me cheer up and enjoy life again.
OK so if family members are talking behind your back.. don't let it affect you! Either ignore them, or tell them that you don't appreciate it when they do that. Be straightforward with your friends and tell them that you won't give them advice if they won't take it, and that they shouldn't expect you to be there to console them after they neglect to follow your advice. And about the dude, it will all work out in the end, and at least you cares about you.. right? :)
Life will be good again.. don't worry.. be happy :)
(well, i give you permission to mope around for another day, but then after that you have to be happy)
good luck with everything

Answer 8

The first thing you have to do is put your faith in yourself. Screw the rest of the world. If people are talking behind your back they are not worth being concerned over. If the man in your life is hesitant to declare his feelings then tell him to buzz off too. Do not waste time trying to please everyone. You need to set goals for yourself and work to gain them. Time will take away many family members through death and other things like careers causing moves. Think of the future and remember YOU are who is important. Making yourself happy with life is the first concern you have. By standing on your own and letting others know you are not going to take any garbage they will have more respect for you.

Answer 9

There are days when e/thing seems to be going wrong.
Start with TODAY, and repair the thing that went wrong today.
ONE thing atta time. Make an attempt to fix it. Then tomorrow, move on to the next thing. IF you try to fix e/thing at once, you will surely go bonkers!
Now take a very deep breath.......and let it out S - L - O - W - L - Y

Answer 10

ok fisrt take a deep breath and think it could always be worse, I know it doesnt seem like it but trust me it can, and in a hurry. Just calm down, find someone you can talk to maybe all you need it someone who will just listen to you, not give you advice, sometimes that helps, gives you a chance to really hear how you feel about everything.

Answer 11

Take a deep breath, and ask yourself what do you need to make yourself happy. You cant fix anyone else only yourself. If people around you dint like something you do or something about you , that's there problem , not yours. Life is to short not to enjoy as much as possible, get away from negative people and situations.live for yourself, because as soon as you have kids you will be living for them, trust me on that one.