Working woman expected to pay 50/50 when dating?

Question

Should woman pay 50% of time when going out for dinner, movies, etc. when dating same man? How about vacations, gas??? Both have about the same income, but man has fewer bills.

Answer 1

Hell no! LOL! I know, I know... some women are into that, but it ain't me. Dating is an interview for marriage imo, and if he can't support me on a little thing like that... why would I expect him to be financially stable on anything else? Now, later on in the relationship... after you've been together say, at least 6 months... then I could see helping a dude out if he needs it. I've given my man $20 here and there for gas when he was having a rough time. But in general, he knows how I feel about those things. Luckily for me though, he feels the same way... has pride about providing for "his woman" or whatever. heh.

P.S. Why are you asking this? Is it out of your own concern, or is it because he *refuses* to pay more than 50%? Cause I think that makes a big difference in how it should be addressed...

Answer 2

Whipping out the calculator right after dinner is NOT conducive to the evening's taking a romantic turn. However, after two people have been dating for a while, the lady is expected to occasionally produce a pair of theater tickets, "just happen" to have a gift card for a favorite restaurant, and to say thank you with useful gifts. If their incomes and expenses are about the same, then she should be aiming to make contributions in the 50% neighborhood.

Answer 3

I think it is important for males and females to be on level playing ground and keep many things equal. This includes paying for your share of any spending. If all you order is a small salad and he orders a the lobster, you shouldn't pay for 50% of the total bill. If you are seriously committed or married the this individual, you should come to an agreement on each of your responsibilities. Maybe on vacations and such, if your bills amount to more, he will be willing to treat you a bit in order to help you out.

Answer 4

Here's the deal--lots of young women are still figuring out what it is to be an adult woman in today's world. They know they want to be treated like full adults rather than children or pets and yet there is something simultaneously appealing about being cared for and even doted on a little bit. This seems to create something of a disconnect for some women, and therefore, in their interactions with men. Some people also feel apologetic about their real feelings because they don't jive with their stated worldview. That aside, I can only offer my own person views on the subject as a 40-something woman. I want an equal chance at my job and generally in life. I don't expect to be unable to purchase a home because I am a woman, I expect to be able to get my car fixed without being robbed because I'm not a guy, I expect that my male counterpart and I are paid the same wage for doing the same job. In the ways that I'm approached/dealt with in public life, I expect to be treated as well as any other customer/patient. etc even though I am a woman. In my love life, I expect to be treated differently from everyone else by the man I am with. The significant person in your life should WANT TO treat you better then some nameless stranger he may encounter in the bank lobby or in line at the market. Often times, people who are dating and getting to know one another go to restaurants. If he doesn't feel like I am special enough to treat me while on a date he asked for, then I am no different to him than any other diner in the restaurant, and I AM different-at least to him I should be--you would think. If he can't spring for dinner, he's either cheap or not interested in treating me like I'm very special-either way, why would I want to date either of those men? I wouldn't. That is not to say the man is a gravy train. I think both people should be treating their partner like the are very special and do what they can for each other-both of them. My husband is a happy man, and I am a happy wife because we understand and remember that for each other, we are truly special. If you want to keep love, you can't keep score.

Answer 5

The old money question. Basically I was raised oldschool, so I try to pay for everything (even though I cant always afford to... what happens is I ask her out when I can pay :P). But a woman who truly cares would offer to pay some of the time. Its best something discussed with your SO, but simple rule of thumb: Who asks, pays. As for gas, no reason you cant chip in, especially if he's paying to take you out most times

Answer 6

When my boyfriend and I go out, we try to do the 50/50 because we are both single parents with about the same income and the same bills. If you feel your boyfriend has more spending money than you and can afford to contribute more, then talk to him. Don't just let bad feelings build up inside because they can cause problems.

Answer 7

If he has fewer bills, maybe he should pay 75% of the time. Its good for a woman to pay some of the time just to make sure she doesn't become or feel like property.

Answer 8

The man should expect to pay for everything. But a good woman would ship in without being asked if shes is a good one.

Answer 9

NO, NO, NO baby, A man should never ever let his lady pay 50% of the tab, A man should be enough man to take care of his woman, That's my opinion.

Answer 10

I think you should take turns paying. That way you can suggest things within your income for your dates when its your turn to pay, and then more elaborate events when its the person who has more money's turn to pay. As for vacations, it should be treated the same way. Whoever makes more can pay for the pricier things (like hotel) and the other pays for gas...