I had a terrible violently abusive, mentally torturing childhood at the hands of my bad parents. My current girlfriend who i have a child with has repeatedly cheated on me for no reason. I regularly slice myself with a large kitchen knife because this helps my feelings of being sad and unwanted. Any other men do this, for whatever reason?
2006-06-19 11:36:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
my boyfriend only does this to get attention from me.. doesnt really work tho.
2006-06-19 11:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did this for 5 years and it got VERY bad. I stopped through getting support but i had to fight for it. Self harm support and advice is geared predominantly towards women.
Tell you GP straight away. They see this kind of thing regularly and you shouldn't feel ashamed or embarrassed. It doesn't mean you are going mad or are suicidal.
You will probably get answers on here from idiots who have no place in society and who will call you all sorts of names. Ignore them. Don't give yourself a hard time over what you do either.
In the short term, if you DO cut, make sure you keep any wound covered and clean. Try to find someone to talk to and if necessary get some counselling arranged to help you look at other ways to cope. I found keeping a diary of how I felt during the day and including before, during and after a cutting really helped to see when I was most vunerable.
If you need to chat more fella, please don't hesitate to contact me. I will help you as much as i can but definately tell a professional.
If you are in the UK then let me know and i can give you some contact addresses and numbers to call.
Keep your head up and most of all, Stay strong
Take it easy
2006-06-19 11:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek some professional counselling to help you come to terms for the horrendous childhood you suffered. Your gf doesn't seem to be helping matters with her continual cheating. Tell her how you feel. If she doesn't want to stop the cheating then you are going to have to tell her that any relationship with her is finished. Be you will be there for your son but any loving relationship with his mother must stop. If your gf cheats on your continually she does not love or respect you. You truly deserve someone else who can support and love you. As for the self harming how do you feel when you harm? DO yiou have any regrets afterwards? Do you really want to stop? You no the dangers of self harm and what can happen when it all goes wrong, I wish you good luck.
2006-06-19 20:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by flymetothemoon279 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear Friend:
As someone who himself has experienced a mentally torturing childhood, had three members of his family suffer years of sexual, physical, and mental abuse, and 101 other things happen to me I would not wish on my worst enemy: I can Empathise with you!!
First of all, Be Brave, swallow all fear and pride: and seek help (it took me 23 years, and the loss of my wife and child to do so)...
You can get through this...
life's a ***** sometimes and deals some rough cards, but we can survive our pasts and have a bright and happy future... All you have to do is take the first step.
Be it a friend, doctor, shrink, minister: there is someone out there you can talk to, and who can help you. Like another one of your answers, I found my answer in Christ Jesus and His healing love...you may do the same: but whatever you do.. seek help, and talk to someone about this!!
It will be difficult, sometimes painful, but I promise you there is light at the end of the tunnel.. All you have to do is want to walk towards it!!
Good luck my friend, & God bless you: Know you are not alone.
2006-06-19 12:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by englands.glory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of the other answers are very positive, while some should just be ignored. I only wanted to add a couple of resources for you, if you choose to use them.
I'm not in the same position as you, but I 'm not that far away. I also have a child, and am determined that I'm going to beat this, for my sake and his. I hope you do too.
2006-06-19 22:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by TazDevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should seek some type of counseling before you accidentally cut to deep and end up harming yourself badly.
Please save your child, who now looks to you for safety and guiadance. You have an innocent life who depends on you. You need to set an example and make his/her life better than yours.
You are trying to cope and using improper coping mechanisms. Next time you get the urge to self harm, look at your child and do something positive. Go for a walk, teach him/her something new. Pray, because God hears your voice. Go to the park and swing. Call a friend or trusted person and talk.
You are in my prayers today. I care about what happens to you.
2006-06-19 13:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I'm not a man. . .but my sister does this. My ex brother in law did too.
I'm really sorry for your pain, but feeling physical pain will not fix the internal pain. Please find someone to talk to.
I know the real answer to your pain is the healing power of Jesus Christ. I can't make you see that unless you want to. I hope you find the love, acceptance and wonderful life you can have through Jesus, though!
My sister has tons of scars, both internally and externally. She still hasn't stopped even after hospitalization due to a self inflicted wound that nearly killed her. She had no intention of committing suicide, but she was right there. Please don't let this go on!
Most people hate the word counselling, but with a truly caring professional, you can learn other ways of dealing with things.
You're in my prayers.
2006-06-19 11:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to Frank. It is, yes to blame onto harsh upbringing, yet there is carnage in neurotransmitters in the grey matter that is responsible for that. Like some people are more likely to smoke and some people are not. And some people are high flyers as compared to some who are not. May be cognitive behavioural therapy help you. People self harming usually dont harm others...
2006-06-19 11:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a bad and abusive childhood... And I've NEVER felt like cutting myself EVER!!!
I got over it, by deciding I wouldn't let it get to me...
You have to decide if this is the best way to continue for your childs sake!!
2006-06-19 12:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand this question. You're discriminating against woman answers, and you're telling us how much your life sucks, but not asking for help...
Damn, you really are a heterosexual male. Get some help, bud. Leave the whore of a girlfriend you currently have and find someone better, but also see a psychiatrist.
2006-06-19 11:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by calivane07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do that. First of all, relax, stop doing that it is really dangerous, you should go to a counselor or a psycologist, I know it isn't the best advise, bt it is the only one I can give.
You are not unique, there are people out there who do that, and also there is people who has died because of that.
2006-06-19 11:42:15 · answer #11 · answered by let the speakers blow your mind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋