boyfriend had a minor fling 3 years ago and has spoken to this girl a few times since then. now from time to time, my mind wanders and feels i may not know all the facts. these unanswered questions are now haunting my dreams. Can i ask my boyfriend to tell me everything just to ease my mind? Do i risk blowing our now good relationship apart? Or should I just let sleeping dogs lie..........
2006-06-19 11:34:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what if he's still "flinging" and i just don't know about it?
2006-06-19 11:42:16 · update #1
unless he' still having a fling with the girl, whats the point of digging out a buried corpse? To stink the whole place up?
2006-06-19 11:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough question. I would say no. It was three years ago and if this happened while you were dating, then you should have asked then. Now you guys are good, he still is in contact with the girl and you're smarting over it. I don't think asking to go over what he did with the chick blow by blow is going to calm things for you -- it's only going to open wounds you thought were healed. Your ego is smarting from the fact he was with another girl but you need to get over that. How do you know if he's still not "flinging" with her?
If you don't trust him, dump him.
2006-07-03 14:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is eating at you. If you ask him and he doesn't want to tell you he could be hiding something. If he says that you shouldn't ask such things, then he could be hiding something. If he answers your questions completely, he could still be hiding something. The thing is guys don't usually have close "girl friends" unless they have hopes for something more in the future. This is just my past experience, from being on the other side "fling" but also I have heard the expression "in case of emergency" maybe he is hoping she will "break the glass" if she becomes lonely or bored in the future. It is best to let it go..until she starts hurting your relationship then, I would say, her or me!
2006-06-19 11:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by lululala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ask questions like that if you can not handle the truth.
The truth is that it will not change the fling AND
the bond of trust is broken.
My advice to you is to drop this relationship and move on you are wasting your youth on someone you do not trust.
It hurts and It will not get better.
2006-06-19 11:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by crystlizm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 3 years ago was the time to ask....now you guys are good but if you know all the facts i am more than sure you will not be able to just drop it....so in short leave it alone or risk not being able to stay in the relationship.And if you are going to stay why not tell him to break ALL ties...that's nuts he still talks to her.No wonder you can not drop it.
2006-06-19 11:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 03:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋