2006-06-19 11:23:50 · 18 answers · asked by susan p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is ABSOLUTELY no way to word this without sounding tacky or greedy -- because that's what such a request would be. Enjoy the company of your friends and family and be grateful for whatever they choose to do to acknowledge your marriage.
2006-06-19 11:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by KH 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to everything I read while planning my own wedding, there should NEVER be any mention of gifts on the actual invitation. Word of mouth is the best way to spread the word. If there is a shower, however, you can mention you would rather people donate to a charity in lieu of gifts. Congratulations!
2006-06-19 12:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, at 38 you should have known that a tubal is permanent birth control. They are not supposed to be reversed. You signed a consent form stating that this is a non-reversible procedure. It is selfish of you to want more children with a man who is only a few years older than your eldest child. If you want a child so bad, ADOPT ONE!! There are lots of deserving children rotting in foster care. As for asking for money on the wedding invite, extremely tacky. Just let people know via word of mouth that you'd like money instead of gifts. Don't expect much.
2016-05-20 03:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you mean to a charity of some sort, so on that assumption here goes.
Friends, while we celebrate this happy time, at this stage in our lives we have what we need and wish to spread the joy to those less fortunate. In lieu of gifts, please make a donation to your favorite charity in honor of our special day, to help make someone else's day a little special as well. Thank You
2006-06-19 11:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As good-hearted and well-meant as this is, it's still incorrect. Only for a shower or a small child's birthday party can we presume to expect guests to bring a gift or otherwise "cough up" for the occasion.
But there IS a mannerly way to handle this. When you call your guest list to confirm (see http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApwyOja64xjCS3S2ZzpgVbLsy6IX?qid=1006051524132. a previous 'best answer'), many of these people will ask you where you are registered or what you might like for a gift. THEN you can ask them to donate to Friends of the Library, or whatever, in your name. But if they don't ask, you can't suggest it.
Congratulations.
2006-06-19 11:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be included in your wedding announcement/invitation:
In lieu of a gift, the happy couple would be honored by your donation to
2006-06-19 11:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about something like this:
"Having you join us as we celebrate our happiness is the loveliest gift we could ask for. We know that there are others in the world who need material things that we already are blessed to have. If you would like to do so, please send a gift to_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _."
The _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ could be filled in with your choice of charities or with "an organization that you would like to support."
Of course, if one is going strictly observe etiquette, gifts are not mentioned in any way. I believe etiquette is more relaxed in these times, but I thought I'd mention it.
I do wish you the most blissful married life! I'll be sending a gift to someone, keeping your wedding in mind.
2006-06-19 11:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by LC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell people to send cash. You already have lots of dishes probably and probably don't need a coffee maker. Say you want to take a good honeymoon or something and want the cash. Maybe you could do a gift registry at wherever you want to spend the money. Home Depot or a travel agent for example
2006-06-19 11:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! The wedding invitation shouldn't have any wording about gifts, wanted or otherwise Instead, how about spreading the word through a friend or relative or two that you are hoping everyone will brighten a charity's day in order to make your day brighter?
2006-06-19 11:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!...whoever said this is tacky is just plain stupid! asking for people to make a donation instead of giving a gife is a wonderful thing! I applaud you for this. Just write that Donations to (you fav charity) would be greatly appreciated instead of gifts. Anything who would think this is tacky to put in a invitation is crazy! You don't go to a wedding without giving a gift anyways or thats just plain tacky! People are stupid...don't listen to them.
2006-06-19 11:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋