i been with a girl for 2 years, we live together blah blah blah...but i dont know if i really wanna be with her. i have been talkin to this girl i used to date in high school, and there could still be something there. what i dont know is if i should stay with my girl, who i really do care about. or should i get out while i still can and try it with my old gf. i was also wondering if the feelings for my ex. are normal just because she was my first real love. i really need some info....
2006-06-19 11:19:58 · 9 answers · asked by Bill B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tempting, isn't it? The first love is always hard to forget. You have shared memories and have a lot to bond over. But you haven't seen each other for a long time so things about her may have changed. Can you name the qualities that drew her to you? And why did you split up in the first place? So you have two women with great qualities, but you choose to stay with one and not the other. Your current girl friend who you care for, can you list all the qualities you love about her? Do you really love her enough to stay in the relationship? Or is she worth letting go to pursue your old flame?
Did you know you didn't want to be w/ your current girl friend before talking to your ex? Or did this happen after you started talking to your ex?
I know I haven't answered your questions but gave you more to answer. But these are the answers you need to ask yourself to make the right decision. Only you can answer your own question. But don't drag it out too long, because if you do love your girlfriend, she doesn't deserve to be hurt and strung along.
2006-06-19 11:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could still have feelings for your ex because she was ur first love and you never really get over your first love. But make sure before you do anything drastic you remember why you broke up in the first place and if you got back together would things be different? Also if you really love your girlfriend why leave her for someone you already had a chance with and it obviously didn't work out. You should look at your relationship with your girl and try to figure out what's making you have second thoughts about your relationship. Hope everything works out for you. I totally understand what you are going through!
2006-06-19 18:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by LilLiE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont fall into this ridiculous trap. The only reson you still have feeling for your ex is because of who she is and the importance that she had in your life. Your new sweety deserves the same special feelings now that shes the woman in your life. Every girl brings something special with her, but dont mix them up. One is your first true love, the other you first sexual expirience, the other in the one that you are with for a long time, and the one you marry... they are all special and you will always feel the same about them. But chances are if it did not work out the first time it wont the second time either.
2006-06-19 18:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by Momo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself and her a favour and finish the relationship. You should be happy and she should too. If you aren't happy with her, then you need to move on. Just because you are living together .. blah, blah, blah doesn't mean you have to stay in a loveless relationship. End it now.
As for the other girl, if she is interested and you are not dating anyone else (meaning end it first and then go after the old girlfriend) then GO for it!
2006-06-19 18:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by kubbyp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kno wexactly what ya mean. but you have to realize what's really at stake. yeah she was your first love but you'll broke up for a reson right? and your current girl, u obviously love her, you have to think is it worth losing this girl for that girl and do you really want to hurt her. once you go for the other girl you can never go back. and those feelings of maybe not wanting to be with her are normal. but could your eally be without her?:
2006-06-19 18:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about who you really care and love the most and if you love both dont get with one and like the other one to
2006-06-19 18:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really care about her if you're talking with someone else and considering how she would feel if she knew what you were thinking.
2006-06-19 18:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-19 18:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard question, only you can answer this, good luck!
2006-06-19 18:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋