I am good at forgiving. I do that all the time. It is the forgetting that I find impossible, and as long as I hold on to that, I have more trouble forgiving. Can you actually forgive and forget, or is it just an old phrase that actually is unattainable?
2006-06-19 11:17:15 · 14 answers · asked by rashanii 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
no. If someone does something that hurts very much, it is absolutely possible to NOT forget or forgive for the rest of your life. I'm living proof. I have not forgiven my parents for something they did, and I have not spoken to them for 8 years. Also, I do not forgive any one who has hurt me over the years. If what someone does , hurts so much that you can not forget it... then you can't forgive it. It is their problem... not yours. Go on with your life and forget about them.. Why have someone in your life that hurts you ?
2006-06-19 11:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving and forgetting are NOT the same things. That is an old outdated phrase that is no longer true. Forgiving is still so important. :-)
I think we need to remember our hurts, so we can learn and grow from it. :-) I still remember some of the hurts I recieved as a teenager. That was all forgiven years ago, but my memory remains. I learned from it, and learned to be stronger and less angry next time someone gives me the same hurt I once recieved years ago. With time and healthy reflection, the pain of those memories lessen. :-)
2006-06-19 11:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, what we learn in our religion is that you can forgive and "overlook" because forgiving and forgetting is impossible to do. You can forgive a person and never remind them again, and that is the right thing to do, but to completely forget it is probably impossible.
2006-06-19 11:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Iram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgetting for me is SOOO easy...I just don't care...my body and soul cannot hold grudges. and it actually pains me to deal with the grudge itself...I just find things that are more important to me. I have already accepted that people are GOING to screw up and everyone on this earth can AND some will offend me one way or another at some point in time..I just think that it will help them if I forgive them and forget it...chalk it up to stupidity on both parts and move on...
2006-06-19 11:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is partially unattainable because it's seems like your past comes to haunt you by meeting an old flame,watching a movie that similar to your past, and some one in family that happen to slip up and remind u of it. Sometimes something traumatic that has happen just usually come in a dream or vision! It's something that God can only put a handle on thru much needed prayer!
2006-06-19 20:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Pashur 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have deep personal experience with this. The answer is yes. it is, the forgiving part is first. remembering becomes your responsibility after that... to find out if you have truly forgiven when you remember the event does it still conjure emotion? if it doe it is God's way of telling you that you are deceiving yourself you haven't forgiven yet.. but YOU CAN and IF you want to You WILL! then when the remembrace comes and you fel nothing but release the memory as soon as it comes.. you have forgiven and it will come no more.
2006-06-19 11:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by xwordxclr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is possible. Often times we don't forget, but we can certainly not let us rule our lives. I find that once you've truely forgiven, you end up forgetting for the most part.
2006-06-19 11:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, although - it takes alot of prayer, and discipline to do the second part: "Forgetting"...
Forgetting means to not hold it against somebody...Forgiving is just overlooking the one time offense...Forgetting is when you can overlook that offense, and not slap it up in their face the next time they mess up.
Just pray about it...and know that it is possible.
2006-06-19 11:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by redglory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are only consequences to actions, forgiveness is a goofy thing to think about. Think about consequences and better solutions.
Don't take little things so personally and you can move on out of your own traps.
Be attracted to people who tell you the truth and less to those who tell you what you want to hear, cause it hurts your widdle feewings.
2006-06-19 11:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Real Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno I agree I find it easy to forgive for most things but if it's something really bad its had to forget. It might be that if it's still bothering u maybe ur still upset. angry about it and haven't entirely forgiven the person. If ur no longer bothered about it then u don't think about it much anymore but I thinks always there in ur memories some where.
2006-06-19 11:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by xoɟ ʍous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋