should my daughter throw her lazy arrogant scruffy tight-fisted boy friend out?

Answer 1

Looks like your approaching this with an open mind then?? Not biased!
I expect she knows she can always rely on Daddy if she needs to!
It's her life let her live it, we all (even you) make mistakes in life, she is lucky to have you to fall back on, but you will have to back off one day, and the sooner the better for both your sakes.
All you have to do is let her know you are there whenever she needs you! Giving her grief is not helping her or you is it?
I was once a lazy arrogant (not tight fisted) boy, but look at me now, I'm a lazy arrogant old feller!!
Hope this helps??

Answer 2

Dad, by the tone of your question she sounds like she is dating someone like her Dad. How about a little calming down here. Remember before you found your perfect someone? It was pretty up and down in relationships I would bet.

Anyway, your daughter sounds like she may need support if she is allowing someone who may be taking advantage (lazy) and hitting her (tight fisted?) and treating her arrogantly (I know better than you do you stupid person) live with her.

Why don't you just surprise her and do something nice for her. Say, take her shopping, or to the movies.. sort of a father/daughter date. Daughters need a male role model to look up to to know she is worth while. Give her that and you will be giving her the best gift possible!

While out on your daughter/father date, don't bring up her boyfriend. Should she bring him up, just listen. Don't try to fix her. But assure her that she is the most special person in the world to you. Let her know you love her and care about her and that you would never treat a woman that way! (Hopefully you wouldn't.)

One of the nicest things we can tell someone is "Sometimes we let people do things to us that we would normally have them arrested for because we are so at a loss. No one deserves abuse."

Encourage her to get some professional counseling and hopefully get active in positive activities: volunteer work, join a health club, go to church....

Good Luck and remember, be the man in her life until you get the opportunity to walk her down an isle and give her to the man who will love, honor and cherish her until death do they part.

Answer 3

Well you know what will happen when you tell her about this creep, she'll get her back up, and tell you, you 'just don't understand him, mother: Yeah sure you don't.
You can see right through him. Your daughter, for the present is blinded by him.
All you can do, is keep quiet in your opinion of him, and let her find out for herself. It may take a bit of time, but, being her mother's daughter, the blinkers will slip off sooner or later, and she will see what you see.
So bite your lip, and just bide your time. He'll soon appear to your daughter's eyes, for what he really is.
With her not have to fight, and rebel against your opinion, that should happen sooner than later.
Just hang in there Mom.
Hopefully all the training you gave her, growing up, will finally pay dividends.

Answer 4

Is that her opinion (of her boyfriend) or yours. I know where you're coming from but she might see him in a different way. If he's a complete user then she should get rid. Mother and daughter can see different things in people. Don't know how old your daughter is - and that could make a difference. If she's over 18, ie adult, then she should make her own mind up. If she's younger, don't force your bad feelings on her, just suggest and talk.

Answer 5

lazy, arrogant, and tight fisted. Whose money is he tight fisted with if he is lazy?Women generally pick men a lot like their fathers, spo, you may be more upset that he is so much like you, rather than what he is doing to your daughter.

Answer 6

Doesn't sound like you're overfond of the fellow to me. Is your daughter hardworking, humble, generous and immaculately dressed I wonder.
Parental disapproval can be a powerful motive for a couple to stay together.

Answer 7

Yeah! SHE should throw him out. YOU should - if you can manage to do this without bursting - keep shtum. I have a daughter, not at that stage yet, but sure as sh1t I know how hard this is for the dad.

Answer 8

yes if he is lazy scruffy nd all the ova fings u sed he woz hes not worth ur daughters love

Answer 9

you're her dad right? throw down and kick the sh*it out of him. daughters are most likely to choose a mate based on her perceptions of their father. Set a good tone with your daughter and be a dad, after the beat down of course.

Answer 10

Held in high esteem is he? sounds like he fulfills all the criteria to hit the road jack.