I never had a gf. It's not our custom to have bf's and gf's. My parents
introduced me to several girls. We talked and I chose 4 of them as my wives(upto now)--certainly with their consent. But now I am attracted
to another girl. I saw her from my window. She is unmarried and beautiful. But it is illegal to marry more than 4. So, I want to divorce my eldest wife(she is 32). But I am not sure if I send proposals to the girl's parent they will accept or not. May be they chose already some guy for her. Please help with advise.
2006-06-19 10:25:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem is very clear. It's in plain English.I don't understand why some people gave so stupid answers. Which country r they from God knows only.
Some people seems to be very dogmatic here.They think like Amricans--"Our custom is the best--others r bullshit". Sorry to say that
I am like them too. I think ur customs of sleeping to 10/20 guys or girls and then settle down is 1000 times BULLSHIT than ours.
no gf/bf business here.
2006-06-19 10:45:17 · update #1
In our culture polygamy is virtually unknown. However, divorce is common and the only reason a divorce would be unfaithfulness, abuse, or some other viable reason for divorce. We do not look out the window see some other woman and divorce our wife. That to me doesn't make sense. The reason: you are trying to get rid of a woman who has spent a good portion of her life with you. What will she do? What will her children (if any) do? In your culture will she be relegated to poverty? If so, this is not right. You have "invested" in her life and she has "invested" in you. How can this be fair? And to take the other woman for your mistress can also wreck your home. While I do not understand how you can have 4 wives, I can understand that a decision of that nature would be hurtful and possibly extremely devastating to your 1st wife. It doesn't seem right to do this to her.
2006-06-19 10:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I don't know what to tell ya i men I can't even tell the diference betwenn whine and beer, and I'm still having problem deciding where am i gone move and how am going to obtain a ******* ID so I can get the key to the red planet, then I'm gone take off and leave my filthiy shinkin life behind, Damn hopefully I will try to remember what I was Pure Harmany ladies. I only do it for the ladies.
Woman You can't See them where you want to and You can't call how you Want to. Yes thaks I'm the ~SK~
2006-06-19 17:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Illegal according to whom? Polygamy in ANY form is illegal in the United States of America, so I'm thinking you're not from there. But if you just LIKE the girls' looks, and don't know her, then I wouldn't divorce your first wife - and it's SUPPOSED to be for LIFE. Be happy you've got four. We're all lucky to get just ONE!
2006-06-19 17:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please grow up. First sit and think seriously that you are going to kill your one wife out of four to have another. This is a life not any game. She has to live her life with all trouble because of your lust. What is a love? Love means scarifies. Wishing good for whom you love not take her into the hell. This is a cheat. Where is cheat there is hell.I think you got the answer for your question.
2006-06-19 17:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe you i read about your culture but divorce or what ever with the eldest of your wives but not until you are sure try asking the window girl you saw to marry you or to be friends and later ask her to marry you if she says yes break things off with old lady
2006-06-19 17:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
United states is a free country
2006-06-19 17:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only want to marry her because she is unmarried and beautiful? you don't even know her personality or anything....and you already have 4 wives!!! her family might not accept the proposal as you already have 4 wives and since you're not treating them well and just divorcing one if you're attracted to someone prettier, her family probably won't like it....and really, i wouldn't blame them.....marry for love, not just for looks!
2006-06-19 17:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to your parents about this custom, first of all ... it may go along with your religion/background to mary more than 1, but in america it is considered not right. i would divorce all of them and marry someone you really love. do the thing your heart tells you to ... dont let any one make your decisions for you.
2006-06-19 17:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let me get this straight...Your custom is not to have BF or GF....you can have up to 4 wives....and divorce is apparently okay.
Where the hell are you from? I think you're full of sh#t!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-19 17:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Amy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds like a cool problem to have do what you got to do is what I always say. You only live once and if your not happy make a change and good luck to you my friend.
2006-06-19 17:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋