Okay so i really like this guy he's 19, nice, i like him and he likes me. We've just been flirty and friendly with each other nothing drastic yet, but when the time comes for him to make a move on me(cuz he will) what should i do? Im not interested in him to be my bf because its summer and i dont like having relationships in the summer, but i want to "hookup" with him really bad. The problem is that he has a kid, and his baby's mother lives with him and his family but they are not together, they just live together cuz they have a kid, he doesnt love her. Should i lay off cuz he has a kid and lives with the mom? Or is it ok to go for it because he doesnt like her and its not like i want him to be my bf anyway. And he hooks with alot of other girls in the area, its obvious he doesnt really love her but sometimes he even calls her his "wife". Plz help cuz i really like him!!
2006-06-19 10:20:52 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry you got yourself in this mess but you need to get yourself out of it fast. you might want to 'hookup' with him but it is very unsafe.
a) You say he hooks up with a lot of other girls in the area. That means he is unsafe as far as things like aids is concerned.
b) Why would you want to cheapen yourself and bring yourself to the level of all these other women who hookup with him on a regular basis?
c) Obviously he is a bad father since he cant even afford a place to stay for his kid and has to resort to his parents keeping the mother and child.
d) He doesn't love the mother, he doesn't love the other girls and of course he will not have any feelings for you, not that you want them, but, how would you like an accident to happen and you get pregnant by a person like this, are you going to go live with the other mother of his children too?
Good grief girl, get a grip, where is your mind?
2006-06-19 10:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Pete 5 · 13⤊ 3⤋
Stay away.. If he is living with the mother of his child, he is probably still "hooking up" with her and sounds like lots of others girls as well. Is that what you really want? It sounds to me like you dont want any kind of relationship with him so its purely physical. Its not worth getting involved with such a mess just for a one night stand or whatever it will be with him. AND, its not saying too much for him that he had a kid with someone he doesnt even love. Or is he just telling you that he doesnt love her. If he is joking around about her being his wife, there is probably more to the picture.
2006-06-19 10:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you answered your own question... He is DANGER do not get serious with him at all its okay to flirt and just be FRIENDS ONLY!! But far as a relationship, you think that boy is still not messing around with his BM if they live together and he calls her wife, Of coarse they are still at least getting it on together they probable the type where she could have bf on the side and he will be OK with it and he could do the same but i bet you they know where home is and they always going to come back to each other no matter what.
2006-06-19 10:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by Tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is a problem with hooking up with him.
He may not love her but she may love him, and if you want to risk destroying someone else than you can go for it. Him having a kid shouldn't stop you, and he should really consider the girl he had the baby with feelings. He doesn't sound very considerate to me.
2006-06-19 10:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by idiotman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should stay away 4rm him because what if he tries 2 harm u or something if u go out with him u never know u might end up pregnant and i don't think u want 2 be a mother right now and like u said he's always hanging around with other girls he might end up cheating on u if u do go out with him
2006-06-19 10:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by diablita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay admittedly you don't want anymore than to just know what magic this guy has behind the zipper. Sounds to me like you're used to going for the feeling and to hell with the consequence....maybe that's what the baby's mother was like as well?
So if your lower appetite is hungry sounds like you're ready to feed the beast!
2006-06-19 10:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
~~he says he's living with her and don't have nothing to do with her? i got some swamp land in the middle of the desert that i'm willing to sell dirt cheep too... interested?.....
if the dude is living with his mother and the mother of his baby, the chances of him being truthful that him and the baby's mom are not together is such a far fetched thought. why isn't she with her own family if they are not together? and why would he refer to her as his wife?
he sounds like bad news to me~~
2006-06-19 10:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "hooking up?" Are you talking about having sex with a man who lives with his child's mother? Do you know what that makes you? All of you need to grow up.
2006-06-19 10:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be hard but drop the guy thats a lot of drama and if your willing to put up with that much drama now wait untill your older it only gets worse
2006-06-19 10:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by duce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay away. He already sounds deadbeat if all he does is knock up a woman and then stay with her. I'd bet money he is actually married to her and he's just feeding you lies. Use a toy, not a man who will treat you like a toy.
2006-06-19 10:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋