How old should my child be before she goes to stay the night at her dad's house without me? She's just a baby now, and she isn't used to being with him for more than a few hours a week.
2006-06-19 10:17:13 · 35 answers · asked by mollidoodles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unless he is a bad parent (drug, abuse, ect.) it should be allowed now. He is the parent too and has rights.
2006-06-19 10:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by pjthedj247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, an infant can tolerate an overnight with the other parent if the other parent has been significantly involved in the child's care. Not sure what a "few hours a weeks" means to you. 3 hours? 13 hours?
If the other parent isn't significantly involved, then overnights might start at about 24 months. Ideally, the father would become increasingly involved beginning now, so that the child and he could enjoy overnights sooner.
2006-06-19 10:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Doom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust that the father won't hurt the child or put them in harm's way, then she is old enough now to be spending the night with him.
If she doesn't really know her father, now is really the best time for her to start being around him more. Instead of having her for a couple of hours (2 or 3), increase it just a little bit at a time (going to 5 or six). She will less likely be fussy for him after a few hours.
Hope it helps!!
2006-06-19 10:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by prettycute4u62040 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your situation. My son was 2 mths old when we separated. I took my son to his house once a week overnight. I would have continued to do this and maybe even let it increase. But in my case his father screwed majorly. Now he no longer comes around. In my opinion you should give him the chance to be a Father. You should also give him some of the wonderful baby time and memories. You are cheating him out of that joy. Unless he is into drugs or dangerous he has every right. You should thank your lucky stars that he wants to be a part of your child's life. In the end you must do what you feel is right but please put a lot of thought into it for your child's sake.
2006-06-19 11:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by witcheekimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 or 14
2006-06-19 10:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no age limit. Unfortunately we were forced to do the home visits when I was an infant. He has to decide if he can handle the baby overnight. Legally if he is a fit parent approved by the court then he can have the child overnight, weekends, holidays, etc. Sorry that is the way it works. Good Luck in the future. Feel free to ask me any questions about what happens when children have to do visitations.
2006-06-19 10:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, being a mother I truly feel for your situation. Not knowing what the father is like, do you trust him? Is he responsible? Does he have a clue how to take care of your daughter? Knowing my children, if they were around someone a couple hours a week they would not be comfortable spending the night. Finally, I would say for your comfort and for your daughter's, I would wait until she was old enough to express an interest in spending more time with her father and spending the night. (Age 4 to 6). (Or maybe never if he is not responsible).
2006-06-19 10:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by luveeduvee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is not any certain age that is the best. The best time would be when u feel more comfortable about her staying with him. The only one that can make that decision is you. You know your baby better than anyone else. Another thing you could try is maybe have him come visit her at your place for awhile or while he has her at his place stay with her until she gets more used to him. I would probably wait until she is at least 6 months. But that is just my opinion, you need to go with what u feel is best for her right now.
2006-06-19 10:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
21
2006-06-19 10:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's whenever you feel comfortable letting her go. Depending on your relationship with the dad and how trustworthy he is - if you think he doesn't make good decisions for himself, then he probably wouldn't make good decisions for your child.
I think a good rule of thumb (assuming that you are on good terms and neither one of you is psychotic) is to wait until your child is able to talk (talk in sentences and be able to tell you things) before sending them to anyone's house for an over-night visit. That way, if anything's amiss, she can tell you. I would also make sure that your child sleeps through the night well so that it doesn't disrupt anyone else's sleep - sleep deprivation affects different people in different ways.
But again, you know the dad, so it's really about what your comfort level is and what you both have agreed to. Good luck!
2006-06-19 10:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by headshrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dad is a father and he is as responsible as you. Answer is she has to be born to stay with dad Or from very first day. Let her get use to with him. Don't worry everything will be alright. Some time adult mean to each other but they have to take care the responsibility for the child.
2006-06-19 10:27:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋