Me and my bf of 2yrs have been having some problems for a while. I dont feel the same for him anymore. The problem is he loves me so much he wont let go of me. We have attempted breaking up quite a few times and it never works. The last time I tried breaking up he wanted to kill himself and got very drunk and sick. At the thought of us not being together he goes bananas. He cries all the time and says he doesnt have anyone if he doesnt have me. That he's all alone and has no friends. He lives with his parents and sister so this is not necessarily true and has many cousins. I feel bad when he gets to the point where he doesnt know what to do and is crying so much over me that I back off and tell him that everything will be fine and we can work thru our problems. I still care about him. I love him. But I am not in love with him anymore. He makes it hard for me to walk away because of how he acts. I wish he would just let me go. Help, how do I break up with him?
2006-06-19 09:54:59 · 3 answers · asked by AngelinasMommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time to be harsh, honey. This is YOUR life and you do not see a future with him. Wish him well, tell him your reasons why, and STICK TO YOUR DECISION. You don't do yourself any favors by continuing to take him back if this thing is over in your heart and mind. What he is doing is a exerting a type of control over you with the crying and suicide threats. You are probably a sensitive and caring person and he is playing on those emotions to continue a game that will have no winner.
If you have really and truly made up your mind then tell him and let that be that. You have no control over what he does at that point and if he hasn't seen it coming already and began the process of moving on, so be it. Not your problem. If he continues to call or come around, ask him nicely not to. If it continues after that, call the police. Don't send him mixed messages. Your position is that I don't feel the same for you as I once did and I believe it is time to move on with my life. And let that be that.
2006-06-19 10:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by cc smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I have been thru this before and it's not easy. You have to do what is best for you. If you see the relationship is not healthy run fast and far away. I know he probably makes you feel real bad, but let him know all he's doing is hurting you. If he loved you he wouldn't hurt you. your no longer happy and your happiness should mean everything to him. let him down easy and if he says he's going to die say you feel like your going to die if you stay. Guys have to learn to let go when a gyrl says it's over. I'm sure he's going to take it hard, but your thinking about the future. He'll get thru it. You just have to do what's right for you. Maybe ignoring him will help you move on. No more calls or visits. He'll have no choice, but to let go and move on. I wish you thre best of luck and just be careful.
2006-06-19 17:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by favoritegyrl21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to break up with him because in the end being with someone even though you don't love them is worse for them than breaking up with them so they can get on with their life. I would go to his parents or his siblings and let them know about his self destructive behavior. Explain to him how you feel and then let him be: it is his family's job to make sure he's okay now.
2006-06-19 17:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by SunnySmile83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋