Dating older people???????

Question

I am a 27 year old, single female. I have never dated a man that was more than 4 years older than me.

Well a friend of mine wants to introduce me to a man that she thinks we will be good for each other....but he is 42!! That is 15 years older than me!!!

Ok, it seems like the men my age are just not on my Mental Level, and I relate more with older people but I have never dated someone that much older than me before.

Let me hear from some people that have dated older/younger people and ladies my age, what would you do?

Answer 1

If you like him, can picture yourself loving him. Great, and before anyone yells ewww...think about it there are some pretty hot older gentlemen. Denzel is legendary.

Be careful with older men though, some of them have a "father-complex". They've seen more done more than you and think that it gives them the right to tell you how to live your life.

When he says, "You need to..." or "The problem with you is..." BEWARE!

Answer 2

Well girl, it's all up to you. I'll tell you about my experience and you can decide for yourself. I'm 20 years old now and I met my fiance when I was 18. At the time, he was 39. He didn't look that old and was so much fun to be around. We worked together and hit it off and before you knew it we were madly in love. I used to be embarassed when people would ask me how old he was, but I knew it didn't matter because we loved eachother and i would do anything for him and visa versa.

As long as he treats you like the queen you are and you can see yourself spending your spare time with him - go for it. It is a blind date, though... I'm not sure how that would work out. I suggest hanging out with a bunch of people with him. Don't go out on a date one-on-one yet. Just one piece of advice - he is older than you and he WILL have a past. Sometimes, some things are better left unspoken. There's one rule i have for dating older guys (I've always had older boyfriends) and that is NOT talking about his past.

Do what makes you happy, and nobody ever died from trying out a new experience. Who knows - maybe he's the breath of fresh air you need! Besides, from my experience, older men treat women better... they're more traditional when it comes to being a gentleman.

Good luck! Email me if you wanna chat.

Answer 3

My husband is 6 years older than I am, but I've always preferred older men for their intelligence, life experience, and ability to commit to a relationship. If I were single again, I would definitely date someone 15 years older. And 42 is not old...LOL...I am 41. But compared to 27, I can understand your reserve. Go out with him once and give him a chance...you never know! You just may have a lot in common.

Answer 4

I can tell you, that dating an older man has it's rewards. For one, he is more stable than a younger man, for another, he normally knows how to treat a woman with more respect. I know because I am married to a man that is 14 years older than me. And it is like being a queen. Also, women age more quickly then men do, and an older man, typically will be on the same age level as you.

Answer 5

I don't think age is much of an issue and hasn't ever been throughout history.

It seems that people these days find some reason to find it disturbing however.

If you feel comfortable with a guy, does it really matter what age they are?

The only things I could see mattering is a girl was too old to have kids marrying a younger guy that wanted to have kids, or if they are a minor dating someone older than a minor (in which case we all know what that means)

Answer 6

ok well lets see, personaly i have dated older men because i could not find someone that was at the same level as i was meaning that my level is more with the older croud as well like yours. but where things did not work out with me is that i am still young, i am 25 and i was in the end not willing to settle for someone that is alot older then me just to get the satisfaction of being on the same level with someone, i also did not like the fact that i would be only 30 and that person would be 40 already,, it was just too much. so i did not settle for the older i actualy found someone only 1 year and a half older than me that was at the same level as me. and now i can rest and know that i can grow with someone and we can grow older together. so think about it first, try it out but dont settle for it if it is not what your heart realy wants, i am glad that i did not settle.

Answer 7

I've dated an older man before and it didn't work because he was too immature...for is age, not mine. Even though guys your age seem immature, older guys dating younger women also have an immature quality about them. That's why they are interested in younger women. So I say, go out with him once, because you never know, but there really is something amazing about meeting a guy that's around your same age and is mature and that you are able to grow and experience life together. They're out there!

Answer 8

The problem with age difference usually lies in social circles/activities and current/future goals (for example, the older person wants to settle down and the younger doesn't, or the younger person wants to go out more and the older doesn't...), but if you hang with an older crowd, sounds like you've got the first issue covered. Find out about the second and go from there.

Answer 9

~~let me put it this way, ... do you know the difference between wine and men???? Wine Matures! there is nothing wrong with dating an older man. It's a fact that women mature faster than men do. What is more important is, like you put it to be on the same "mental level" it makes for better communication, and communication is one of the main keys to a good healthy relationship. if you go out with him and feel uncommfortable you can always tell him that it's not working out, but you won't know unless you give it a shot.~~

Answer 10

I dated a guy 7 years older than me, and I was just like you i never went over the 3 year mark, but i ended up having the time of my life and we have been married for a year now. I am not saying that you will marry this guy, but why turn down a chance of having fun, you never know what could happen.

Answer 11

I am currently dating someone 10 years older than me. I had my doubts but he treats me better than anyone else has in the past that was around my age. I am 36. You date whomever makes you happy and you feel comfortable with. Age and or race shouldn't matter. If I were you, I would give it a shot and see what happens. It won't hurt just to go out with him.