Moderately rude adventurous men, or sensitive always polite conservative men? This is primarily meant for when you are still dating and not ready for marriage.
2006-06-19 09:34:26 · 25 answers · asked by fortuitousoppty 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cocky, funny adventurous men, or sensitive always polite conservative men? This is primarily meant for when you are still dating and not ready for marriage.
2006-06-19 11:29:53 · update #1
It is pretty normal.
It is not really self esteem, though I am sure that many others will disagree. It is also not true that girls are attracted to abuse, or violence – most girls are really repelled by that sort of behavior.
A lot of it has to do with confidence. The “alpha male” type is invariably confident – though not usually in a terribly cocky way – and confidence is the sexiest thing a man can have. If a man is confident in himself and his abilities – chances are I can be too, but if even he is unsure of himself – then I should be much more wary of him as well.
Not only is confidence sexy, but lacking confidence guarantees failure. A confident guy will ask almost any girl out – and she may go out with him as a result (she may not but that is life). The guy who lacks confidence, who never asks the girl out – will never date her. I have lusted after a LOT of guys who I know liked me, but who never got up the courage to ask me out. If you saw the last Harry Potter film, or read the books, think about why Hermione(?) didn’t go to the dance with Harry – not because she did not want to go with Harry, she obviously wanted to go with Harry, but Harry was too afraid to ask her – and so she settled for going with the lout who DID have the balls to ask her.
Most girls, are terribly insecure and more than any thing else, want attention, they want to be wanted by men. The thing is, that very frequently the guys who are “alpha male” types – the ones who tend to be more violent, and abusive to others, are also the ones who are least afraid to express their desires for a girl. The “nice guys” the ones who “play by the rules” are more likely to believe that they need to “respect” a girl by not expressing and keeping his “desire” for a girl in check.
A part of this also has to do with the myth that girls don’t like sex – the “bad boy” doesn’t care if she doesn’t like sex, he is going to get his anyway – and in the process satisfy the girl. The “nice guy” will “respect” a girl and not satisfy either of them.
There are also a small number of girls who were abused as young girls who find the abuse to be attractive, in a very twisted, and unconscious sort of way – but that is a small number of girls, and I don’t think that is the population you are asking about.
2006-06-19 09:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by ***** 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) I don't date. Indeed, I don't spend time alone with men without a concrete reason to do so (e.g. discussing marriage).
If you're wondering why, I had to do things this way for a while because I asked a guy to marry me and it took him a few months to answer, during which time I obviously wasn't going to be spending time alone with other men.
Then those few months were over, he said no (but we're still friends and I have no reason to believe either of us is seeing anyone else), and I thought, 'You know what? That was just fine, spending time with men as far as possible only in the company of other people - I think I'm going to keep doing this!'
2) I prefer sensitive, funny, always polite, conservative and adventurous men (preferably all at the same time in one person). He can also be a *wee* bit cocky ('cause I am too :> ), but it's not necessary. The guy I love is not particularly adventurous, but hey - four out of five ain't bad, right? :D:D:D
2006-06-19 09:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moderately rude adventurous men sound good but he cant b rude at all and sensitive always polite conservative men is perfect men have to respect women in every way.
2006-06-19 09:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by tyshe_edwards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. A lot of guys always say that. Like, "the nice guys finish last :(" Buuuut and honest guy CAN be exciting. And a faker can be frustrating as all hell. Honesty isn't the only thing that defines you. An honest guy can remain honest, but be all the things that girls like. While a faker can make himself blaintly boring, cause of the amount of OBVIOUS lies that they say. I've seen both of these. Honesty is not the MAIN thing that attracts a girl though. Confidence, strength, compassion, exciteability, and humor seem to be more of the things that attract a girl
2016-05-20 02:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moderately rude adventurous men
2006-06-19 09:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Polite, sensitive, conservative men. They just know how to treat a woman.
2006-06-19 09:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Peaches M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sensitive always polite conservative =]
2006-06-19 09:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by laurennn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Polite, conservative men with money. Why would you go out with someone who is rude?
2006-06-19 09:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mixture of the both but really it depends on who your asking I mostly like a guy that is being himself and in my experience the rude men are insecure
2006-06-19 09:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by M eesie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sensitive!!!
2006-06-19 09:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋