I have a few girl buddies who, when I would ask if they'd like to go get something to eat, would reply with that. What do you naturally assume about people like that? And how would you react to it?
2006-06-19 09:23:02 · 16 answers · asked by Jose 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Am I treating this time or am I treating next time? Take turns it is nice, or go dutch!
2006-06-19 09:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by princeessintraning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had in mind to pick up the tab when you asked them to join you, then say "this time, yeah" (let's 'em know it might not always be that way). If you had just desired their company, but not to pay for everyone then let them know. Maybe say something like "not this time, but I'd really enjoy your company." A more appropriate question from your friend(s) would be "Dutch?" so you could say yay or nay without the awkwardness of correcting the assumption that you intend to pay for everyone. In such a situation I don't go unless I'm prepared to pay my own way...if someone else offers, that's great but I don't assume it or accept the invitation if I don't have the funds to cover my bill myself.
2006-06-19 17:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I have worked in an office setting for quite some time. Pretty much every day someone will say "Would you like to get something to eat or "you grabbing some lunch". There has never been an expectation of someone treating.
Just goes to show you, you never can have friends of the opposite sex. There is always an undercurrent of dating or such involved....
2006-06-19 17:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Coupe60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through this one too many times. My new questions is "I'm hungry, I've got a couple of bucks anyone else want to pitch in for_________?" People get the hint. If not when they take your order just tell the waiter, this is one is on a seperate ticket. But with the "your treating, right?" I would say, I will this time but, you owe me one."
2006-06-19 16:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by lorimtx2204 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad procedure. Do NOT ask them if they'd like to go get something to eat. Go by yourself, quietly, or wait until THEY ask and then say, "You treating, right?"
2006-06-19 16:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by JAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if someone says, "Hey, wanna go get something to eat?" it usually means that they are inviting me, and paying as well. I do the same if I make that statement to someone else. Best thing to do is, if you have money only for yourself, don't invite anyone.
2006-06-24 00:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by kadara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate such people. Gets on my nerves. I assume they are cheap, insolent, finesseless and has no class. At least say we shall go Dutch ok. I would tell them no, we are going Dutch.
2006-06-19 18:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would laugh, and sarcastically say, "Yeah sure, as soon as I win the lottery!" Some people may be joking, other may be serious, but unfortunately money doesn't grow on trees!
2006-06-19 16:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by PiccChick12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assume very little - I think asking those type of questions right up front is sensible.......but I would not just say yes...just say well I can only afford mine - I just wanted to see if you wanted to join me.
2006-06-19 16:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're cheap and expect the guy to pay all the time......... Say "No, I paid last time.... I ain't your boyfriend, so you coming or not?" Paying for them once in a while is cool.... If it happens all the time, they are using you.
2006-06-19 20:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by SUSYQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋