does long distance relationships work?

Question

I been going out with this girl that imet online, i like her alot and she does like me too but ever since we been going out she goes out to guys house to drink watch movies maybe spend the night and she tells me that i am being too paranoid that nothing is happening because they are just friends, when i ask her about them she gets very defensive with me and tells me that i dont want her to have any friends i do want her to have her space and everything but not with guys that are single and dont have any girlfriends. I told her i dont like that from the begining but it seems like she doesnt wanna change, up to this point i dont ask her anything if she goes out i dont ask her what she did, if she goes out of town i dont care even if she spends the night down therei care about her but i ain't gonna worry about it no moreif she really cared about me she wouldnt make me feel the way she does am i right? I'm so ready to kick her to the curve but i feel bad cuz i fell in love with her.

Answer 1

depends on the distance and the length of time that you 2 are that far away from each other

Answer 2

I dont think anyone WANTS to have a long distance relationship. Life happens and gets in the way, you just have to work around it. If someone wants to be with their long distance BF or GF enough/or they love them enough, they will move to where the other person is and quit the long distance thing. Those people who have relationships over the internet or out of state "just because" are probably wasting their time. Long distance relationships wont last if there isnt commitment.

Answer 3

I met my guy on line too (he's in NC and I'm in PA) and things are going great still! It's hard, and it's a two way attempt. If she's not willing to take your feelings into account and work on keeping your trust, then she's not worth it. It's very hard to make that choice to let someone go, even though you love them. Believe me, I know; but after a while, you begin to forget things - the color of her eyes, the look of her smile, her smell..... Then you can start over. I had to do that, and I'm so glad I decided to let the other person go. I made that decision to either be miserable for the rest of my life with someone I thought I loved and thought they loved me (but really didn't), or be lonely for a while and then find the one met for me.
I chose to be happy and that's when I found my guy online. We've both been hurt and both work to make sure we don't do anything to make the other one worry or hurt.
Like I said before, if she's not willing to work with you now, then you need to let her go. Think down the road, what happens if you get married?
I hope you can find the courage to take the actions needed; whether it's talking to her about it, or letting her go.
Good luck :)

Answer 4

You will find another love...How can you be in love with someone that makes you feel insecure in the relationship? Long distance relations do work! but...you need to have complete trust in that person even if she does hang out with other guys. She need to make you feel 100% confitent that you are the only one she cares about. You say shes being shady when you ask her questions? Then there must be something going on. The relationship won't work exspecially since your not caring what she does now and you can't be open & honest. Kick the %$#@ to the curb and move on. Its gonna be easy to do that bc you won't run into her.

Answer 5

It depends on if you really love the person and if you no your mate is being faithful , the first thing is u need to tell her how much you love her and ask her how she feels about you. If she goes out and stay night at a guys house and drink , most the time when woman do that they're not watching movies they're having sex . I want you to do the same thing tell her that one of your close girl friends are coming over and drink and watch movies and might stay the night . see what she says, boo

Answer 6

Sorry I didnt had time to complete reading your question. But a short note on that, what I was informed by a well experience person, Any relation which more than 500 kms away, from your location, practically DOES NOT work. (Exception are there to everything)

Answer 7

You are answering your own question, look what your are going through already! Long distance relationships rarely work. Along the way, somebody usually gets lonely, and then somebody gets hurt.

Answer 8

who are you???
you know what,, i've been single and available for 3 long years,,,
til i met someone on the net.i like him but the difference is that,,,
im gettin to love him now,,, the problem is, i think he dont love me,,, it hurts but,,, i need to try opennin my heart again,,,
and based on ur siutuation,, why dont you trust ger,, she might be tellin the truth,,, i myself go out,,, but with group of people,,, i never go out on a date,,, she might be doin the same thing,, just tryin to enjoy,,, why dont you come over and see her. there's no such thing as long distance relationship,,, if you both love each other,, go and find ways to be together!!!
trust,, respect,, and more love!!!

continue loving her more!!!
ill pray for that!!!!
take care and God bless you and her!!!

hope my dear andy in england feels the same as u do to ur girl!!


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Answer 9

i dont think shes cheating...u hav a right 2 b pissed, but think 'bout it. IF she was cheating she would not hav told u that she spent time wit her guy friends. u cant actually do much, but u could trust her...it'll make her feel not sooo defensive all the time...gud luck man.

Answer 10

u r in love wid her....and if u wanna like stop her....the best way is tht u tell the truth....tht u feel jeolous and u dont like tht coz u like her...and care bout her.....
u said "up to this point i dont ask her anything"....seriously dont do tht in a relationship...always keep the edge...thts nature....men r superior....it doesnt mean tht girls r nuthin and have no rights...but men always lead the way.....