Any one out there with handy cap children? My daughter is 14 and does nothing but cry and scream? any advise?

Question

I've been to Doctors . And all they tell me is that it is puberty! My daughter can not communicate so there for I don't know what it is that is wrong . If any one has any advise please help me! I don't know what else to do.I don't know what other doctors I could turn to. .

Answer 1

You may not be able to change your daughter directly, but you can change her environment. You can create a peaceful home by first de-cluttering your living space. Start by giving away anything that you have not used in a year or more. Decorate your sleeping areas with soothing colors and your family areas with bright colors. Add some plants and a fountain. Use pure lavender oil and play positive music. Reduce television time and replace it with exercise or physical play. The healthier you are the better you will be able to handle stress.

Answer 2

Puberty is hard to be sure, however, it sounds like you suspect this behavior is not normal. When your hormones and neurotransmitters fluctuate dramatically your feelings and behavior do also. If what your daughter is going through troubles you, I'd recommend a therapist. Don't get me wrong, I am not suggesting she is mentally ill, rather, a therapist would give her a "safe" place to discover and talk about her feelings. If she is willing, try her school psychologist or counselor, your minister or someone else trained in handling adolescent angst.

I see many clients that would fit your description in my neurofeedback office with great results, especially those who do not want to do "talk therapy". Frankly though, teaching them how do identify what is wrong and how to feel different about it has added lifelong benefits. Optimally, I'd recommend doing both together. If they have always had behavior problems and trouble dealing with life perhaps there is an underlying neurological disorder. Neurofeedback helps to rewire your brain and thereby your thinking, and therapy can teach you how to ask yourself the right questions for insight.

Let her know when and if she ever wants to talk you are available. If she starts to talk, she may be "testing the waters" to see how you react, so "shock talk" is possible. Be as non-judgemental as possible and listen with ears of love. Reassure her she will make it through this trying time and come out okay. Don't take everything she says personally and try not to get hurt. If you do, do not react emotionally, be calm and collected (a good example for her to see) then call your best friend an have a good cry or laugh at these trying times in parenting.

Answer 3

maybe im not the best person to answer this, but i thought i would share with you anyhow.

im not handicap, but when i was a teenager, i use to be kinda cranky. what i really wanted was, i guess, not to be so lonely. does she have friends that she likes to play with? i bet she would really enjoy it if you two did fun stuff together. make it exciting, like, renting a movie she would be interested in and making popcorn. little things like that mean the world to kids. im sure youre an excellent parent.. im not doubting that, but when i was a kid my mom never spent time with me, or did anything that involved me, so the tiniest things that she would do that involved me just meant the world. kids really do look up to their parents.

or maybe shes growing up, and would like things that are more challenging for her. maybe a new outfit, or a little makeup? every girl likes to feel special :)

well i hope this helps. and i hope your daughter feels better soon. it very well just might be puberty :)

Answer 4

I feel for you. I worked with handy-capped adults and children, and they can be very difficult. WRITE TO ME and give me more data. However, this might give you some insight:

Non-verbal disabled adults act out for these reasons:

Stimulus - boredom
Tangibles - things given to them to shut them up
Escape - from chores or whatever
Attention
Medical problems.

Puberty in this day and age is very difficult.
Sex, religion, peer pressure beyond belief, STDs, drugs - pot can be laced with chemicals that make it far more dangerous, what to do with their life in a bad economy as their youth dwindles away.
It's hard out there, and people sometimes just crack.

Answer 5

It's hard to know without knowing the handicap. Have you looked for a parent support group for people with children with the same condition?

Answer 6

well i've been through that stage, it'll pass soon enough. just try and keep her happy, dont spoil her, just treat her normally and try backing off a bit to give her some time to think, thinking everything over should make her feel great. if she cant express her emotions its fine

Answer 7

I am not sure, but I think they can give her a depo shot to help with that. Ask your doctor.