i have been seeing this guy for over six weeks and on sat night he invited me out with his old friends who I never met before. it was a birthday party, everybody were getting really trashed and we ended up in a flat of his friends sitting until early hours. there were a lot more girls than boys and he received a lot of attention. there were these two girls who kept giving him very long seductive looks, , and now this is the problem - he seemed to reciprocate with the same... i caught them on numerous occasions. these two ignored the fact that i was sitting there and gave me every now and than nasty look and giggled together with other girls. i got really uncomfortable but as he saw it he sat next to me and held me - which didn't stop them to eye him up. at the end his best male mate wanted to call a taxi just for me so he can stay with them and these two girls. he left with me but the night left me with hangover.he's a party boy i'm not want to trust him when he's out.,
2006-06-19 08:12:11 · 8 answers · asked by petr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you are overeacting firstly when he saw u were upset he came over and even though his mate wanted him to stay and u to leave(some mate!) he left with you and not some slapper that was just up for a quick shag! Like u said they are old mates hopefully you man has moved on and can see it is just childish behaviour from 2 stupid girls
2006-06-19 08:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by gaulde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm
"he's a party boy i'm not"
Are you certain that you have enough in common with this person and that you share similar aspirations in life?. Take it from me, you can not change him- only the school of life can do that and it takes time. There lies a path that only leads to heartache for you.
I think you must say that the way that these people at the party behaved upset you. I think that the way these girls treated you was rude and there is no harm in you saying so. You had no reason to dislike his friends before they treated you this way. If I were you I would not choose to spend any more of your time around them.
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2006-06-19 09:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you feeling uncertain but it seems to me that he thinks a great deal about you :). He saw the behaviour of the girls and he made a point of putting his arm around you - that's a man thing letting them know he's with you and letting you know that he's with you and your'e with him :). He went home with you - what does that tell you?
Don't blow it before it's even begun - Trust comes with time but don't distrust when there is no need to - relax and let him know that you're glad he went home with you :)
Oh and next time girls do that and your boyfriend puts his arms round you - give him a lovely kiss, hug him firstly because you want to and you care and it'll show them just how much they're missing!! Good luck!
2006-06-19 08:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would trust him. If you don't he will do it. Men flirt all the time,even in a relationship. The time to worry is if he comes home and can't remember the night before. Why not just go out with him. Have a good time with him, he won't even know your keeping tabs.
2006-06-19 23:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by wolfstorm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an over-reaction to me...in fact, to be honest you sound a bit paranoid.
they probably werent giving him the looks you thought they were, and even if they were it was probably just a playful thing...they are MATES
you said he was looking after you and he came home with you...the mate probably just saw you didnt look happy and so offered you a taxi, it wasnt an attack on you
i think you need to calm down a lot. sounds to me like you have no reason not to trust him
2006-06-19 08:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem very young, and I assume your boyfriend is young as well. Do not forget he is a guy, he will be always checking out girls. You can not change that. I would either date him for fun (do not expect a lot from him), or dump him. He wants to have fun. If your relationship is serious, dump him. If you can not trust him you can not call your relationship, relationship. Just please do not think that he will change for you.
2006-06-19 08:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by my name is what? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the girls were just playing with you...
But that is what happens, they are probably very jealous of you being with him...
If you are concerned, just give him one warning - you ever find out he is cheating, then he is dumped...
2006-06-19 08:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - he came home with you, he didn't stay, so he didn't do anything wrong.
2006-06-19 08:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by Levit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋