The people aren't ugly and they have never done anything but love the children.
2006-06-19 08:09:23 · 13 answers · asked by foison_ball 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
good question, my daughter is alittle shy of my step brother and i don't really know why! she is 2 and a half yrs old, when she was just an infant and whenever i brought her to my parents and my step brother was there, she wouldn't go near him, wouldn't let him hold her nothing, she cried even when he looked at her or even said anything to her, last yr she saw him once and she wasn't sure about him still, she ran to me whenever he'd come near her, and just last month he was home for 2 weeks and he saw her once and she was still unsure of him! my brother is in the military so he's never home anymore and so my daughter only see's him when he comes home and we visit my parents! Im not sure if it's his voice, looks, height or body structure that scares her or not, but something about him makes her feel uneasy! everyone else i know that she knows, she doesn't have a problem being around them, she's even friendly with strangers! but my step brother is one scary guy to my daughter for some odd reason!
2006-06-19 08:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be surprised. Some kids cry because they can pick up on something that doesn't seem right about that person. They are very intuitive. Kids aren't shallow about things like this. Think about it: Maybe the child got scared when that person was around when something happened. Now that's all they know. They will eventually get over it. These things take time.
2006-06-19 15:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sure like to ask you more questions about this one.
Like...Who is the person that causes your child to cry? Has the child had any past experiences with this person? Even if as you say in your question.."they have never done anything but love the child"....There has to be more to it.
I would be concerned that the person that is causing the child to cry either has done something to the child in the past....OR looks just like a person who did something to the child in the past.
Please check into this....Never over look a child's reason for crying.
Good question..
2006-06-19 15:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by ceasefear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes if it is a person that they do not see often, even if it is a friendly person, they experience some stranger anxiety. Sometimes the child cries because they are worried their parent will leave and then it is seperation anxiety. Sometimes it is just an issue of transitioning the child into the new situation/environment/new faces, etc. Some kids just need more time to get used to what is happening to them.
2006-06-19 15:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe children are more receptive to who a person really is deep down. They can get past the outward personality and see who the person really is. Some people really arent comfortable with kids and they pick up on that, no matter how much to you they seem wonderful with kids.
2006-06-19 17:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children remember events and feelings, so they might be associating your face or clothes with a less-than-favorable experience in the past. Don't feel bad if a child cried when they were around you! It can happen to anybody! :)
2006-06-19 15:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by Wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have heard that when i was an infant, i always cried when one of my aunts tried to hold me.
I don't know if she scared me or anything. but she was always unauthentic. She had expectations of how i SHOULD act even when i was an infant. She was the same way when i was 15, 30, 40.
but in some way, she disapproved of me as an infant; i think i could tell that. also, i am SURE that she got tense if she picked me up and i started screaming. that didn't help anything.
2006-06-19 15:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most children go through a stage where all they want is mommy, or whomever is their primary caregiver. I forget at which age that is, but they can even cry with their daddy, jsut because they want mommy. You should also check if they have a physical problem, like maybe they are sick and don't feel well, or they are jsut tired and cranky. :)
2006-06-19 15:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I trust a young child's intuition. Next time, let the child be the one to initiate the conversation, etc. Don't push either way - you and your "unpopular" people step back.
2006-06-19 15:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are a good judge of character. But it also could be the pich of their voice or something.
2006-06-19 16:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by mojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋