how do i dump my Girl friend?

Question

I love this gir.I love her too much that i jus' don't think of anything. i am madly in love with her.Now here's where the problem is.I jus' can't think of anything else other than her. Now i realise that i wasted 2 years simply doign nothing. I am basically very very very amobitious. i have achived so much at a very younger age which normally takes years for a personto accomplish.
I can't compormise of my career or dreams, but the thought of her prevents from taking risks in life. I know she will get someone better than me. I tried many a times, but still not able to forget her.

Can someone suggest me a way to part with my girl with some really nice notes. I would spprecitae if some sensible ladies answers this question . Coz i want to hear from a girls' prospctive

Hi Thanks girls....But understand my situation.She's a gem of a person.She will jump from the 10th floor if i ask her to.I want makes rue that she's comfy with my decision and so on and so forth....

Answer 1

explain this to her. say I love u but I am allowing u to cloud my every thought and I've come to the realization that this isn't healthy for me.

if u can handle it ask her to still be friends

Answer 2

Wow. I have to say I can relate on some level. I stay in the position I am in at work because I am enthralled with a certain individual I work closely with.

With you though you say that you know she will get someone better than you...that tells me you have some insecurities about yourself and the relationship.

If you are truly resolved to think that you must part and you cannot follow your career and have her I guess you have will have to either say it or write it.

Sometimes writing it will ensure that it comes out correctly because you can review it. Plus face to face leaves much room for emotional break down. I think if it were me receiving a letter I would want to hear it just like you say it here.

Provide facts, especially that you do love her but feel there are potential conflicts with your future ambitions and staying together. That is really all I can suggest. It does seem a shame though seeing as you love her and all but you have to do what you have to do.

Answer 3

Well this is quite an interesting dilemma you have here. You love her but you want to leave her. I guess first off I need to point out that being a woman, the most important thing in the world is love. However, I can understand that you feel you need to move on and follow your career ambitions. Since we don't have the details, I can only offer my opinion on the matter. If you love this girl, then sit down and honestly tell her what's going on in your head. No lies, no games, no ultimatums. Tell her that your feelings for her are very strong, but that you feel this relationship just isn't right for either of you. That you've decided that you need to follow your career path before worrying about your relationship path. Understand, that she's going to be hurt, and probably lash out. No one likes being dumped. But if you're honest and you don't try to hurt her, then it won't sting as much.
Just a note of personal advice. She deserves to hear this directly from you. No letter, no email, no phone call...Face to Face is what you should do. Just put yourself in her position and think what you would want to hear if it was you. Kindness and honesty are always your best friends, so use them generously.

Answer 4

you say you love her but you want to break it off. Theres something you may not be telling us . I would rather be happy and in love and not do anything with my life . Then to work and know that I missed the best thing that ever happend to me . Know sweet heart that you may hurt her so bad that when your ready to come back to her . She may not be there. You really need to think on this . My best friend and her man were togther for 7 years . When they did broke it off .. he was killed and shes never been the same . Now she has a kid but not a day gos by where she dosent think about him . All I am saying babe is give this a lot of thought . Be sure that a year form now you will happy with this .

Answer 5

Well, first I don't really get why you want to dump her if you say you love her. You state that you've wasted 2 years of your life simply doing nothing. Are you saying its because of her that you have lost ambition? Here's the bottom line. If you love someone, you will do everything you can to create a happy life together. I don't think you really love her, or she has done something that makes you feel that you cannot move forward in life. If you don't want to be with her anymore, get rid of her, move on. But you can't blame someone else because you find yourself at a stand still in life. Hope this helps a little.

Answer 6

Baby, first things first. If there is in any way she feels the same for you Don't and trust me Don't ever walk away from that kind of love. It is a rare and great thing for two people to find someone that consumes them. That in our world is called being in love. What you two need is to find interest in each other and support each others decisions in life choices, You will have to get a goal in mind and you both work towards it. Ask her to help you find a career and to support your hard work and effort by not allowing you to become attracted or distracted by her. Keeping you on a schedule and accomplishing your goals will only better your relationship in the end. So discipline yourself and you will be rewarded by having your cake and eating it too.

Answer 7

Well if you career moves you away from her that would be prefect. Then it would just be tragic and not your fault. When break ups happen because of something you both can't control then its easier to deal with. Some examples are moving, phone disconnected, Second job, No time, jail (It just an example I don't think you want to try it.) with drawl (less phone calls till none.) I hope this helps. I don't think you should give her a reason because people just don't understand and will try to change. And you know things will not change. So to spare you feeling and hers just fade away. Good luck.

Answer 8

I feel 4 you buddy, I felt the same, and nine years later my boyf & i are bitter, twisted & seriously unhappy, still trapped, stuck - please be honest - be yourself, you can do no more than that - if you 2 truly have a bond it will last and grow to be an amazing friendship - but don't ignore your instinct - anyway - just be totally honest with her, thats my advice. Good Luck

Answer 9

If you have tried to get over her and you can't that should tell you to stay with her just try to talk to her and tell her there need to be some changes made in the relationship.

Answer 10

If you both love each other than whats the problem ???? Just marry her ... n then go for ur goals .... coz its a common saying that behind a successful man there is a woman .... so she can be that woman .....