I've been hanging out with this guy for a little over a month. We're together most every day, and he's admitted to likeing me. But I can't figure if he wants to be friends with benefits or more.
We've never been on a "Date" we usually just hang out, alone or with some friends too. We cuddle and such, and if given the oppertunity to do so (his brothers are usually around) we'd probably do alot more. He'll call me sweet names, like babe and Sweetheart, but I've heart him say it to everybody.
In some ways he's a sweet and romantic guy, but sometimes he acts just like a friend. I've already talked to him and said I like him, and he said the same, but I really don't want this to be Friends with benefits, How can I make that clear with him?
2006-06-19 08:07:31 · 16 answers · asked by Kella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If both individuals agree ahead of time, friends with benefits could be a wonderful thing. Before anything happens you both should sit down and discuss "rules" - so each person has an understanding of what to expect. However, if one person has feelings for the other that is a little more (as in your case) - then I would not advise getting into a F.W.B. situation because in the end, you may wind up being the one hurt. An easy way out of the pressure of F.W.B. could be - "I'm sorry, but I am not the type to just jump in the sack with someone unless it is a committed relationship" then if he says he would like to take the friendship to the next level, you are golden. Good luck girl!
2006-06-19 08:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by indigobubbles3 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What do you want? Do you want more than just friends?Do you want to be his girlfriend? If so, tell him. Explain that you would like to have more, tell him to be honest about his feelings. Say that you do not want a FWB relationship and see what happens. Sometimes though, it is easier for friends to develop a FWB relationship for a while and see if it develops to something more over time. But, that is a decision you have to make and be happy with. Go out on an actual "date" with him and see how you feel...and then go from there. Good Luck!
2006-06-19 15:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by katrina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does the story about the milk and cow sound familuar???
first of all you souldn't be sleeping with a guy who doesn't have his own home. and if he's not old enough for that you shouldn't be sleeping together anyway.
second, how do you make your position clear? uummmmmm, don't do it! you make your boundries, draw a line, if he want's to be with you make it clear what you want for that to happen. if all you want is a sexual relationship, keep doing what you are doing, because what you are describing to me sounds like you are more worried about being rejected by this guy than having a relationshipwith him. if you are willing to lay on your back and worry about where he will be the next night, you are on the right track. if you want to be in a stable relationship where you know where you stand with eachother, draw your lines and stand your ground.
2006-06-19 15:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, a lot of guys just lead girls on like that so they can play the field. so they can have a lot of girls exactly like you. okay this is what you should do. it may hurt you in the long run, but it will be for the best. tell him that you are tired of everything like this. tell him you want more. tell him that you are wanting a relationship out of this. bc i assume thats what you are looking for. but you cant kiss him, dont do anything. tell him that you arent going to let things be the way they are unless he decides he wants something more. a guy always wants what he cant have. so you have to play hard to get. it works best that way i swear. if you play the game right, you will have him eating out of the palm of your hand. you always have to leave him wanting more! dont do anything at all...if he trys to touch you. push him away. tell him that you arent his...and it cant be that way unless you are his. if you dont do this, the problem will never get resolved.
2006-06-19 15:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Amy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "I want to be your girlfriend" and if he says "I thought you already were" you are golden. If he says something like "but I want to date other people" give up on him.
You do NOT WANT friends with benefits because you will lose out in the end, I guarantee that.
Just be blunt, tell him you want to be a couple and see what he says. Be brave!
2006-06-19 15:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you already establish that he likes you back, just tell him that you dont want to be friends with benefit. You guys already doing what couples is do, so might as well be a couple.
2006-06-19 15:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. I don't want to be friends with benefits. If you don't spell it out and just go along with it, he'll prob think it's ok with you. You have to really clear in relationships about what you want.
2006-06-19 15:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are just parinoid because to me he hasn't given you any signs that he wants to be friends with benefits. Maybe you've been with other people who just wanted to be friends with benefits but everyone is not the same.
2006-06-19 15:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by anw110784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeahhhhhhhh become friends with benifits its the best you know what that is you get a phone call at 4 in the morning and you want to get laid
2006-06-19 15:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain it to him the same way u explained it in the question. jut come out and tell him and if he leaves then it's better he left before u give urself to him
2006-06-19 15:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by Who me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋