my 21 yr old daughter, is tangled up with a total loser, he smacks around on her and is into heavy drugs,and drinks every day.. now my daughter is pregnant by him and he's punched her in the stomach hes throwed her down, we done the right thing,letting authorities handle it, she now lives at home and he continues to harrass her, im afraid he will talk her into going back to him and the baby wont ever have a chance, with all the drugs that he's on makes that babies chances very slim of being completely heathy.searching for some advice from one parent to another?
2006-06-19 07:58:14 · 6 answers · asked by sissy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not a parent myself, but with legal options, you've done almost all you can. Your daughter sounds like she really loves him. If I'm wrong, she can press charges against her boyfriend for assault and file a restraining order against him. You mentioned that she's living with you now? You can file a restraining order against him away from your property and yourself. That way, if she's with you inside your home or in a public area, he can't get anywhere near you within x meters. Good luck.
2006-06-19 08:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
,I know what you mean. My friend's daughter did the same thing, twice. The first husband is in jail for a long time, the second is irresponsible with money, he had to do jail time for violations with the car. He ran up expenses on a credit card, buying things for him and his buddies, and didn't pay the bills. She is very smart, she could have been anything she wanted to be. Do women settle for less for love? Are they so sure they will not find love ever again? My friend's daughter, at least, has remained responsible ,she has a job, and a side business. Is it the bad boy thing? A walk on the wild side? Is it a chance to get attention, be the leader of the pack knowing if she had pursued an education, she would just be another person with a degree? So desperate for love they will do anything to get it?. And the kicker is, my friend[her parents] like him, he is a good daddy. How good of a daddy are you when you are in jail, and almost cost them the roof over their head? In this case, it is not drugs, but it sounds like that might be a factor in your daughter's case. drugs can cause all of the behavior you described. So what about the child? Is it in danger? Is it so you could take it and raise it? Is part of her behavior a rebellion against you? How is she when she is around you? Manipulative, nasty, what? I'm afraid unless daughter comes right out and tells you, you will remain in the dark as to why. .And with her history of lying, well, you might not be able to believe her. I hope somehow I helped, sometimes just knowing somebody out there gets it, helps. You did not ask, but what do you do about the situation? Love her, and hope the light bulb comes on over her head. Maybe you could make sure she can get out of the relationship if she wanted, that he isn't holding her prisoner. My friends did what they could for the daughter, babysat for her while she worked, gave her a little money, stood by her, stayed with her so she would not be alone. Maybe you could do the same. Make sure your daughter know, no matter what she has done, you will be there for her when her world crashes.I wish you, sincerly,good luck.
2016-05-20 02:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't focus so much on the drugs. If you do, then your daughter will get the idea that the drugs are the problem. In fact, the problem is him. He's an asshole, and he deserves to be in jail, drugs or not. Even if he quits drinking and doing drugs, he will still hit her. The situation will NOT end up good, no matter what he does because he is an asshole. Explain it to her this way. Stop blaming his activities, and start blaming HIM.
2006-06-19 08:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I am not a parent, I am old enougth to know that there is a lot of arseholes out there and it sounds to me like that guy is one of them. The only advise I can give is to keep away from people like this and have nothing to do with them, hopefully your daughter will see sense and do the same, talk to her about it. I have on odd occasions tried talking to these people, but you just can`t get them to see any sense, so I have always had to give up talking to them and just keep away from them, I think you are either one of these idiots or not, and things don`t seem to change.
2006-06-19 08:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by MARTIN B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's 21. parenting days are over. she will have to figure it out for herslef, someday. might as well be now, since she has a baby to look after. Sorry, and good luck
2006-06-19 08:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by hichefheidi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
http://www.thewatershed.com/?gclid=CNrA78yJ04UCFT1qGgodKUU-1Q
http://www.nida.nih.gov/
good luck :-)
2006-06-19 08:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋