a friend with Anorexia?

Question

I've got a friend and since a couple of months she has gone in this crazy diet. She doesn't have lunch at school anymore and she doesn't have breakfast. She can stay almost 19 hrs without eating. She has lost alot of weight! But she is not very skinny like anorexia type of skinny ( she is very skinny though) I keep saying that to her, but she keeps not eating. What do i do? She is starting to get angry with me when i insist. Some people say if it gets worst i should tell her parents, and i will do that. But at the moment she is just skinny... and if i do that her parents won't believe me and she will be very angry. If it reaches a point were there is nothing i can do, i'll talk to her parents, but at the moment i was aondering if there was anything i could do to stop her from getting any skinnier.

Answer 1

I would tell u to make sure that you get the proper information on eating disorders so that u can throw facts at her each time she tries to rebut yr evidence bring up truth. Please do something for her but gosh i would hate for you to have to tell an adult or call someone for her, I would never talk to u again if i were her, but then again if she dies well there's no talking in that either. Make the right choice, try it yrself one more time, show pix of anorexic girls http://www.d.umn.edu/~jvaleri/anorexia3_edited.jpg i think that will link right but idk. She needs to realize that this is an unnessary addiction. This is like her drug, she feels like she has control over something in her life. Anorexia gives her a balance geez when i was anorexic, but never to the point of extreme, i felt so happy w myself that i made the day w/o eating. Yr friend has to see that its not the right thing to do and being anorexic isnt even cool anymore? hAS SHE SEEN THE WAY HOLLYWOOD looks today? aND THE way that men look at a curvy body w healthy breasts hips and thighs and the cute butt behind a woman? I mean standards will always change but she needs to practice confidence first and for that reason you should tell a professional about her who can then tell her parents, they will likely understand from the accurate perspective of a person specialized in that field. kiss kiss bye oh remember http://images.animanga.nu/fanart/2798/anorexia.jpg she sees that in the mirror everyday so be mindful of that k honey?

Answer 2

She is determined to be skinny. The thing is, anorexia people don't see "skinny" --- even at 80 lbs they see "fat" -- it can get very very dangerous. I would talk to her parents now before it gets out of control. Oh......and it will if she doesn't stop this nonsense right now. You could ALSO mention to her that people who lose weight FAST are more likely to gain it all back fast too. That is true too!!! Maybe if you can get that in her head so she eats healthy, it might help. Maybe you can do some research on "losing weight too fast" -- print it up and give it to her. There are ways to lose weight and get nutrition and not starve or feel deprived. Unfortunately, due to the media, models and all, this is almost epidemic. What a shame.

Answer 3

I would discuss this with her parents now. If she's not listening to you, you need to take the next step which is talk to he parents and let them intervene. Let her know that you are concerned for her and this is not healthy and she could develop all sorts of medical issues one of most serious being kidney failure and losing her kidneys. If she still insists that you leave her alone I would definitely talk to her parents then. She may be upset with you at first, but after she realizes it is a problem, she will figure out that you did this with her best interests in mind. Tell you you do not want her to be like Nicole Richie and Lindsey Lohan and how terrible she will look if she keeps this up. Tell her she looks great the way she is and she does not need to lose any weight. :)

Answer 4

i would try to find out what causes the fact that she thinks she's fat does she get bullied or anything like that if you do tell her parents which is a good idea be carfull how you go about it because if she is getting angry @ u then she may start to selfharm because she thinks she is fat because one of my friends used to have anorexia and she couldn't lose weight fast enough so she tried to cut the skin away from her body and nearly died she was in hospital for about 6months to a year and she had to see a phsciatrist and she still does about 1nce a month incase it starts again so be carfull and just offer your support but still keep a close eye on her or make sure she drinks protien shakes that way she still has protien in her body even if she does refuse to eat there are many ways to help her by just being there for her

Answer 5

I'm sorry, but you can't fix this. You can not control what your friend eats or what she is thinking.

Her parents need to know that she is endangering her health and life.

You don't have to tell her parents that she has anorexia, or that she is on her way to a mental illness. You do need to tell them she isn't eating breakfast and she isn't eating lunch, and that you are worried about how much weight she has lost, and how fast she is losing weight.

Answer 6

That is not good, I am a pschology major and I believe that there is something going on with your friend. It could possibly be a self esteem issue, however, it could be something much deeper. If confronting your friend makes things worse, then you need to let her know that you are worried, and you love her and you will be letting her family know. This may cause death if she continues and if you are as good of a friend as you are you will do this for her even if she doesn't talk to you for a while. It is a desease and it will take a long time for her to heal herself and she will need counciling as well. She will thank you later, Good luck!

Answer 7

I've had a frined like that. Just stick with her and help her thru troubles..eating disorders usually are caused by family,friend or other issues..tell her how your feel and encouage her..give her compliments telling her she is skinny and stuff like that..invite her family to dinner or somthing, then when her parents see her eating habits they might say somthing...but keep a close eye and tell her parents if it gets out of hand.

Answer 8

Sorry, but about the only thing you could do for her is to tell her parents. You have all ready tried talking to her, and she won't listen. Anorexia is a form of mental illness. Maybe her mother should see her nude to get the point across.

Answer 9

u have to tell someone...tell her teachers or even her parents cause this is a serious matter...if u dont say anything something bad mite happen and you will feel guilty for not saying anything...even if she gets mad at you...your just being a good friend and making sure that she is well

Answer 10

Tell her parents because they need to know...do something because anorexia can lead to death I use to be anorexic but i stopped.Get her into a hospital or something where they can help her!Good luck!